She loves you, but you don't. Is sex ok?

they don't exist.

 
i give you 2 more years. by the way are u in naija? How much do u pay in the cybercafe for an all-night

To further dabaru this virgin and age stuff. I remember  during my NYSC in one of the northern states. I was in the rural area.Anyone who knows borno state, I was in Monguno.I taught in a girls school and it was a boarding school.

Needless to say, we had an alliance with some young teachers and we used to smuggle some girls to the teachers quarters. This girls ranged in age from 16 to 18 but some of the other male teachers had girls who were as young as 13 or 14. Apparently, this is not an issue for the northeners. For me it was unimaginable and i refused to stoop so low.

Now my question is this, if in such a rural place, it was difficult to see a virgin amongst girls of ages 14 to 16, how much more in a bubbling metropolis like Lagos?

On the other hand, anybody looking for virgins, think of going to pakistan because from what I gather, it is there tradition to stay pure for their marraige partners and this applies to both male and female.

I am sorry to dissapoint you all but the last place to look for a virgin is in church most babes approaching the age of 30 who are yet to hook a man become very active in church, most have rocked their lives to excess and were not smart enough to hook a man when they were at their peak  now they look for divine intervention and pretend to be virgins.

I once had a close female friend whom I used to go for lunch with (we worked in the same establishment) she was very nice and even prepared my christmas meal for me the previous year. On a particular lunch outing she was very quiet, so i asked her what the problem was, she asked me point blank if I was going to marry her (she was very active in church then, goes almost everyday), I was shocked as I had just ended a long relationship and was not in a hurry to jump into another one. My response to her was that we were just friends and we need to take the relationship to the next level to see how compatible we are before we can make that marriage decision. She agreed but said no SEX, I replied fine but are you a virgin, she said no. Then why do you want to suffer me. No response from her. Can I have a babe on the side who can satisfy my sexual needs. She said NO. The babe wanted to have her cake and eat it, I no gree so we drifted apart.

Chxta holla at my email. we'll take it up from there.

So this virgin of a thing is still making wave? I thought we've finished the story.

Ok i love virgin too but i can hardly get one.
Why? Very very scarce.
Let's forget about mouth made virgins now and talk reality. we were all witnesses in our campuses.

hehe... Tina is getting back to all topics. Okay let's get back to the topic. 

Sex is not okay if you don't love her.

I will object if her wowoness is personified. You know what I mean?

Or some other factors may contribute to my objections.

that was a good one Kenya...,ur words touched my heart

From what I know now and for what sex means to me and not to mention love, I would not insist on sex, especially as a virgin.

My question is what are her moral standards?

If I was a virgin again the only man who would breathe down my arm even would be my husband. Why waist my time with a man who's not interested in investing his love or atleast building on love?

If it's just about sex then why bring love into it? Why feed the emotion and make it bigger? If sex was that important then why not do it by yourself or Find a guy you don't love then it wouldn't mean as much to you?

If her reason is because she want's to share this special time with someone she loves then it's pretty selfish because she's not thinking about his position. Maybe this guy has a lot of respect for virgins and doesn't take it lightly to have sex with someone who loves him that he doesn't love.
Maybe he feels she will become attached and want him all of the time and he may only want it that first time.

Why does it have to be all about her and what she want's?

If this type of situation is okay with you then I respect that. I merely saying it's not cool for me. The choice is up to him and either way it goes this will be an experience that he has to live with for the rest of his and her life.

One more thing before I sleep tonight,

Don't be mad ladies but this is true.

Women are so seductive and persuasive, but we don't really think about the effects of this.

Then once we are heart are broken and feelings are hurt we want the whole world to be considerate of it and help us heal because we don't understand how someone can be so crule and not love us right.

News Flash!!!
Someone should be teaching this girl the value of herself as a human and a woman while she's still a virgin.  Sex is serious, it's not a causal game like many of us play it as. Is this the message we want to keep sending?
Once she has sex, she's going to be so open emotionally and then what?
She's blessed that she's met a guy who's even considering this, the typical mr mandingo would have already done it.

No pinky, he wouldn't find it difficult to leave her because the guy already said he had no feelings for her.  I don't know why ladies find it difficult to reason at times.

Sometime, when I remembered this, I felt so troubled in my heart for accepting the one I don't love because she is caring, kind and passionate.  But she hates ****.

I don't love her, but the likeness is there, with no intension to have sex with her, but she seduces and move my mood toward sexual act. So, I got to change my mind to give her what she needed, but I used to feel bad and condemned.

Is it ok?

But how is she going to take it if at the end I tell her to go?  And even I don't marry her in future, how can we stand before ourselves?

It has being a serious issue to me, reply me if you have any suggestion.

Alright Pinky

If a guy wants to leave you, he will leave you.  There are no tricks you can use to keep him to yourself.  The most you can do is offer yourself as a second-hand lovemaking machine for him; but he will definitely pursue other girls.and tell them that he loves them and not you!

Say Kenya well said

Look guys if you know that sleeping with a girl is going to be stress for you why don't you just let the girl go. If you sleep with a girl just for sex knowing fully well she loves you and she leaches on you who do you blame. In this my sexual active life ive come to find out alot of things and one of them is "if you can't handle the heat don't light the fire"

Ive had so many girls hate me in this world just because i did not sleep with them, just because at the last moment i realised that my feelings for the girl was not all that and sleeping with her would just complicate my life and hers,  i back off and they take offence to it and some don't even talk to me anymore( and women you think you people are not a complicated issue)

i think if you are going to bed a girl be very very choosy about it our manhood must have pride too and the same way women make shakara their Mrs Smith you the guy can also make shakara with your Mr Smith (atleast thats the way i see it)