My Ex Wants To Have Lunch And A Talk!

@poster,

Allowing him to come over for a chat/lunch does not seem sensible IF you are not trying to get back. Anything he wants to talk about can be done on phone and if that doesn't work with him, he should keep the gist to himself then. You said he doesn't want to talk on phone. How does that concern you? What if you don't want to talk in person too? You certainly don't need to see him. What will your current dude think of your ex traveling from out of state just to 'talk'. Regular chaps don't make such trips just for peace or to tender apologies, such trips are targeted at comebacks. So if you are not game for that, just say no.

Lizzy4u, point of correction: it is not realistic to think couples with bitter or sweat past relationship would forget one another just because they are seperated. For good or bad reason, memory lingers.

@adekennis

Nope. C'est ne pas. Ko le se se.

ok, take for instance, you both starts again and after some time he fucks up big time this time arround how will you

feel? very very painful my dear talking from experience. open your eyes girl don't even go near him atall do not give him

the feeling that you are still available, be faithful with yr new guy, he may start suspecting you unnecessarly. tell him off  you can talk anything on phone let him no you cannot make it PERIOD

Pink tea,

My advice to you is that you let him come for the lunch and then stand him up. Just don't go for the lunch.

I bet he wont call u back ever.

There is no point in opening old wounds. If u say u hav a good relationship now stay  there and resist all forms of temptation.

Sorry to be crude but "na small s**t dey stain yansh"

A word is enough for the wise.

jericho

Exactly why i advised that if for any reason, she considers going for the meet-up, her new boyfriend should be informed before-hand, not afterwards. And if after a long talk, he doesnt find it ok, then she should say a "polite no" to her ex . . simple as that, some things are more important than others.


Fair analysis, but i prefer her saying "no" to the meeting than standing him up. The past has to pass for the present to be, they went their seperate ways 9months ago, she's happy where she's at now, now i see no reason why she should be cruel to him before making her stand known, taking revenge now will only seem as if she's still bitter whch she doesnt sound to be. A "no, i can't meet with you" should do.

Please inform your present guy and go ahead to have lunch with ur ex guy. Make sure your present guy will protect you that day.

Maybe he wants to tell her he is HIV positive and she should check herself _{**just kidding**} 

I AM SO SICK OF HEARING WHAT HE WANTS   
 
We are such a catering society. The only thing that should matter is WHAT SHE WANTS as the outcome of this phone call/request/meeting.

If she wants him back then she knows what to do
If she does not want to jeopardize her current relationship then she knows what to do
If she wants to eat 'lunch' with him, wipe her mouth and then pretend she never ate anything then she knows what to do

It's all about WHAT SHE WANTS.

This game of being confused is so yesterday 

@mafolayomi
who said anytime about starting again, start what if i may ask?

@Rubbermaid

if i decide to have this lunch, it will be out of curiosity
does that sound comfused to u child!

@cute_ass

thanks girl

@Poster

Put yourself in your guy's shoes.  If the scenario happened to your guy, would you want him to go? If your answer is yes, then I guess your conscience is clear, just inform him. But if your answer is no and you sneak off to see him without informing your dude, then it's a form of cheating - not so?

Just be cool and have a nice time.

ehhhhh i'm not advicing you to go o.

give me a clue 

ANYTHING U ALL LIKE U CAN SAY!

1 THING I AM COCK-SURE OF IS THAT WHEN THEY MEET SOMETHINGS WILL HAPPEN THAT WILL LEAD TO ANOTHER THING,

JUST GIVE US THE GIST because U LL LOVE THE EXPERIENCE

ITS BEEN HAPPENING SINCE THE 20'S

Girl c'mon, thats the oldest rick in the book, he probably just wants to GIVE IT TO U ONE MORE TIME. It happened to me once, i had a girl i really cared about and stupidly i didnt have sex with her, after SHE broke upwith me, my motivation was strictly for revenge to rear that rubber(virgin), i havent yet suceeded but when i do i'll let you know.

No, I 'm laughing because I believe we are actually very good friends in the real world. No wonder we make sense 

I took a good guess from your favorite scripture, your location, and G-money. By the way, I go be like you one day o.

Hints:
You got a generic email from me today. Corporate world. I go slap them for you. My momsie makes wicked efo. Thornton. New House. PM. Ok, I stop here.   

Nothing dey shake. Ssshhh. Good to see u here 

_{I have a meeting in an hour but I'll call or send a txt later.}

@Poster

If you're emotionally strong enough, then go for the "lunch and talk" and make pretty sure you stick to the plan! On the contrary, if you're not so sure of your emotions, please forget it - you could end up losing a good thing or breaking some heart (did I mention that the broken heart could indeed be yours?)

A word is enough for the wise, I think we've seen more than a million "one word" so far on this forum.

Cheers