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strong_arm (m)
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well the idea is a bit difficult but plausible especially when the opposite sex is a hottie and you know it. thats gon be really hard . when you see other girls admiring your hot male friend then you go wondering "why am i not with this guy?" hm  |
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chiegemba (f)
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i believe d friendship should be defined, clear and fine lines drawn better still openly talk about it if either is havin otherwise feelins finally reslove d issue and u would have a bff best friends forever which is very possible no matter d sex  |
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maiyake (m)
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Petrol and fire is a deadly combination. Do not be decieved. Flee every appearance of evil or take the consequence.
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showstopa
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sure, my best friend is a boy and trust me we don't see ourselves that way.
there was a time he started getting jealous when i tell him about other boys but now all thats water under the carpet.
i love and respect him but that is it and my boyfriend knows about him
u can manage it,its no big deal
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Macutie (f)
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It is possible in some really rare occasions !
It happened to me in fact! we had a great friendship then things started getting complicated when i found out that he started having feelings for me!
Now we just speak occasionally. We are not as close any more.
Its a bloody waste of a great relationship! And it still hurts!
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debosky (m)
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Another unfortunate victim cast into the ABYSS  Will these guys ever learn?  |
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I-man (m)
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Nothing is as annoying as being put in the "friend zone" when your intentions are anything but platonic
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osakings (m)
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some people cannot do with just being friends. so we should not deceive ourselves. in any case i know some more people can cope without having any special interest in the lady. but sincerely speaking, guys you've got to zip-up, and ladies should also learn to close up.
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olanajim (m)
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May I ask how are we supposed to treat our business partner or colleague of opposite sex? Date her?
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johnpeace (m)
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Hello everybody in the house,
I really enjoy the topic,
Actually, to be honest in friendship with opposite sex takes serious wisdom and endurance. Most expecially, when you like yourself.
To my own point of view, if you like the friend, express your mind. That can only make you to be free. If he/she refuse, then, you either forget your feelings and continue your friendship with him/her or you continue to express your mind since that is what you want.
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esilove (m)
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It is very possible depending on the type of girl.
You know there are girls who will keep on seducing the guy till you do what you did not expexct.
Other than that it is possible to have a friend of opposite sex without any thing involve.
i am a leaving example.
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goma (m)
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In as much i truly believe its possible 4 male and females to be friends without any strings attached, i truly don't support it unless both have intentions of upgrading the friendship at some point. why? well we all know unlike terms attract and sooner or later there would be that pull that can't be broken easily. So my dear brothers and sisters, think it through first . |
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Bonie (m)
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Its quite true, is all about the mind set, my best friend is female we never have anything indecent, is about self decipline and contemptment, cheers guys learn to have friends of opposite sex, if you understand each other there will be no problem
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Olusleeky (m)
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its very posible, i had a female frnd in my days in d university, we were very close, we sleep on same bed without a tin happenin. on my side, notin, i wilnt no about her but am sure she felt notin. she later had a boyfrnd who happen to be my frnd as well.
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olanajim (m)
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Had God allowed us see what transpires in heart of our fellow man, some people would have long been roasted alive.
Reading some people saying they can't relate with opposite sex without lust attached make me wonder at the kind of mindset they carry about. Maybe even their female teacher, colleagues, servants etc would flee at the realization that their beloved student, companion, buddy is filled with lust for her.
A corrupted mind!
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mekoyo (m)
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Be careful.
It also the depends on the kind of person you are, so you don't fall a victim of circumstances.
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koolboi (m)
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i can only be close friends with a girl that does not attract me sexually
if d girl is sexy, its either i`m fucking her or we are not close friends at all
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T Singerr (m)
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I don't see nything wrong with having an opposite best friend. erthin is in the mind and its when you give your mind an opportunity to wander in that direction that stuff like that can happen.ive had a female best freind for the past 4 years successfully and truthfully theres nothing attached to it.
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Seun (m)
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If your best friend is a member of the opposite sex, then your boyfriend/girlfriend is a mere sex partner. A pimp/prostitute. It also makes your friend more important than your partner, which sounds weird.
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T Singerr (m)
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Guy! lets be very realistic. its not every relationship that works like that. some people need an out of the relationship friendship that can be controlled to help reduce the tension and pressures in the relationship.
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debosky (m)
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If your best friend is a member of the opposite sex, then your boyfriend/girlfriend is a mere sex partner.
while the 'best friend' is the Intellectual Whore whom you share your thoughts and ideas with, I believe Seun is actually getting the picture |
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Seun (m)
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If your partner is not your "best friend", then he/she is not the most important person in your life. If you are a man and your "best friend" is a woman, then your girlfriend isn't the most important girl in your life. I don't think such an unimportant relationship can (or should) last very long.
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babadee (m)
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its very posible, i had a female frnd in my days in d university, we were very close, we sleep on same bed without a tin happenin. on my side, notin, i wilnt no about her but am sure she felt notin. she later had a boyfrnd who happen to be my frnd as well.
na wa O!, in my bed? theres got to be fire in the hhhhh000000llllllllllleeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i believe it is only possible after the fact that is, you try the hook-up then become friends if the line don,t work |
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fatty27
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We all know very well that a partner may not be best friend in reality. Whatever happen to the concept of friendship. Male or female, a friend is a friend.
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debosky (m)
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i believe it is only possible after the fact that is, you try the hook-up then become friends if the line don,t work
Precisely, those dumb unlucky fellows become either cuddle bitches or intellectual whores. what a sad existence! |
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henry007 (m)
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i think i'll go wid intellectual ho's i have one anyway(boyish though)
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MP007 (m)
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Its hard to keep friends of the opposite sex without having some feelings, There is nothing wrong, MODERATION ,
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olanajim (m)
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Debosky, seun et al, I posted some questions above in my last two posting, could you be kind to answer them?
While I agree that it can be hard especially with someone you have sexual intent with. It is also fair to admit that some people had already achieved that type of relation.
Let me give an example. There people who would look at a nude woman with utter disdain. The more they see her, the more they hate her. Their kini would just remain as soft as butter.
Yet, there are others whose kini would salute at even the mere sight of a female pant. They would practically wet their pant when they see a half nude lady.
With this example, it is clear why it work for some and crash on others.
Another point you seem to missed completely is "who is a friend ?" I am sure this is responsible for why we have that kind of responses.
Let hear what you have to say!
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earthrealm (m)
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yup,
it cud be done, though a lot depends on the persons involved,
most times, u end up having one person wanting more!!!,
if u have watched smallvile, <superman series>, u can see what is happening between chloe n lana, u would appreciate what am saying.
such cud happen in real life too
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collinx (m)
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This is very possible.the only deciding factor is the maturity of those involved.
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LiquidMind (m)
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Best Friends Of The Opposite Sex?. That is for men who don't know the rules to the Game or what they want
don't be one of those gorillas with pretty girls who paw them and grope them and make them
complain to you about how all men think about is sex.
Don't listen to that, bunk. Yeah, I said it. Sorry for the strong
language, but it had to be said.
When you play this game with the opposite sex, Always go for what you want from her, if you can't get the pussy, eject her out of your life immediately, or you can just keep playing with yourself.
You are not some puppy dog and IF you are, you have some growing up to do.
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shens2006 (m)
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bullshit |
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