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Lady M
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Hi Play F,
You've heard it all. It is nt rite bt nt withstanding it can happen to anyone bt d true difference is SELF CONTROL
n hw much u value your WORTHY as a Woman.
Play F, i dnt like d attitude of u using negative words on people's comment yeah sm where hard / mean bt stil carries a vital msg in it, u send back abusive words to them n later blessed those that make comment that appease u.
Play F, it doesnt make sense, even if u've committed d ACT we re nt to judge u because we ALL av our own short-coming bt of a different levels. All am trying to say is, u placed d thread 4 people to comment so y re u using abusive words on them? i believe no one, atleast in Nairaland, lue u into falling 4 your Boss n i tell u, this are the attribute that makes alot of individual to this-respect the P.A's (they think say na every P.A dey sleep wit d boss)
people av spend their hard earn money to contribute in advising u be it rite or wrong just appreciate d effort behind it n most importantly SEE BEYOND UR NOSE if u didnt need d advise so y did u placed it 4 people to comment on?
Sugarpie, is good to av d inner peace of mind in whatsoever we re doing, whatever!! dnt allow anxiety, worries, fear or any thing to robber your PEACE OF MIND if u re a xtain, He (God) will re-direct your thoughts if u truely seek HIM.
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Gridlock (m)
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my dear sister ,let me just give it straight to u that u are carrying an ignited dynamite in your hand which u have to get rid of before it explode in your face.lusting after another woman husband will only bring shame and pain to u.
God wil provide your own husband for u. "FI OKO OLOKO SILE" leave another man's thing alone
a word is enough for the wise
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bimbliss (f)
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having read through the thread i think its better not to offer u any word of advice.
from what some ones post says i want to deduce u are just seeking for attraction with this thread.
u av gotten it anyway and have a great day with your fulfilled desire
TAKE NOTE: be humble, it will take u far in life
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uchetobi (f)
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I can understand your attraction to him. Its easy to find things that are pleasing to you in him, its not a crime neither is it a sin.My sincere advice to you is begin to look 4 a new job, but for the main time concentrates on things that u don't particularly like in him. then also u should have a relationship outside the office, i mean at 25 u need a relationship that may lead to marriage
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Sarin (f)
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If your boss is not attracted to you then you are done. Better wake up before causing yourself a life error. But if he likes you, quickly get it over with and I assure you that you will regret it after hanging out with him for a few period. So, please brush it out of your brain before you lose a job and your feminine pride. Wishing you all the best your nerves might need to wisk it out of your brain. Tell your emotions to obey you and it will if you apply the right balm to soothe your infactuating spirit. Ciao  |
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play (f)
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bimbliss, u mistake me, i am immensely glad that sum people offered me advise.all those who mailed me with insults,didnt use abusive words, they stood firmly against it,.
my arguement is that, this is a contemplated deed(i need to make a decision), i have not committed it, as a matter of fact i have shared my fantasies and silent longing, because i needed to let it out to someone. it rather odd that am been judged and insulted for an act i am yet to commit, an act i didnt commit for the past 4 years , of been attracred to a man, who is seperated from his wife.
maybe i ommited the vital facts which could have helped my councellors, not withstanding, i don't stand to be accused.
i do this not because i need fame, what can internet fame provide me, a fame shrouded in mystery.
let me say at this point, that i have been uncontrollably been angered by the fashion with which some people have responded, i howvere value those comments, that advised and not judged.
lady m, am thankful for your mail,it was really sweet
som of us , seek advise, but if these is how many of us pass off advise, u are doing more damage than harm. truly, this abusive and hurtful method of advise, should be reviewed. ask yourself,if your in dire need of councel, and you're insulted, how would u feel
gbam
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Congolese
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Many moons ago, I was job hunting and got an interview with a multinational company. I had an initial interview with one of the assistant directors, I was told that the CEO of the company would make the final decision, two days before the big interview I was strolling along for a lunch appointment with an old school friend, when suddenly a figure of this finnnnnnnnnnne man happened to stop me and asked for the time, I looked puzzled as he was immaculately dressed and I decided to be a diva moment and replied "what sort of a man would leave his house without a watch or at least a mobile phone with the correct time, huh". Then I simply just walked off. You should have seen his face. I gisted my friend and we just laughed off thinking it was chat up line and he just wanted to aquaint himself to me. Two days later, showed up for my interview, nervously waited to be interviewed by the CEO, he finally shows up, Guess who the CEO was, yup, the good looking guy who asked me for the time, didn't know whether to laugh, run, hide, we just looked at each other and started laughing, the attraction was so powerful, only god could have scripted it, to cut a long story short, I got the job, he was married(I was too young and ambitious to care), we connected mentally, physically and spiritually, we both had the best time of our lives, until I reconnected to God and decided it was not good and I broke off all contact, moving house, area, job, number changeetc, Recently bumped into him, he was yelling my name out, after 8 years, boy he still looks good, and that smile, yes we are back together and it does not feel wrong, it feels absolutely right, such is life. If you love him for himself that's different but if you love him because he's your boss and the perks, you'll end up dejected and hurt in the long run.
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zigam (m)
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Rebuke Satan now
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dremoney (m)
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craze dey worry u ,no b small,
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Lady M
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Play F, Maturity is d answer my dear that is just d truth am as well on that training of learning hw nt to loss my head n my mind at d same time. Play F, am sori if my contributn might av hurt u bt i tell u take d vital information among d advise n do away wit d ones that re nt okey wit u, bt is nt for you to send back abusive words to people that is hw i see it anyway.
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Lady M
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and am sure by nw u already knw what to do.
All d best galfriend.
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finekid (m)
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I'm sure everybody, including our dear Play, knows that it is wrong to date a married person, office boss or not. By the way, whatever happened to all the single suitors?   |
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Olusleeky (m)
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wonder wonder wonder
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corrosive (m)
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Easy, why u wan break another woman marriage please get your self a man
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calyx
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@congolese
You are sick!
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babadee (m)
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Wow,
Congolese knows what she wants, play should too
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afrodixie
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That is why it is very important ------don't get you ever, ever, ever get caught in the first place.  How can you embark on such a treacherous journey without covering all "bases"?  Impossible!!!!  @Topic---if you must, please take care of your shit!!!!!! Sometimes these things do happen!!!!!!! You are not the first and will not be the last by any means!  If you must--enjoy every bit of it! Many moons ago, I was job hunting and got an interview with a multinational company. I had an initial interview with one of the assistant directors, I was told that the CEO of the company would make the final decision, two days before the big interview I was strolling along for a lunch appointment with an old school friend, when suddenly a figure of this finnnnnnnnnnne man happened to stop me and asked for the time, I looked puzzled as he was immaculately dressed and I decided to be a diva moment and replied "what sort of a man would leave his house without a watch or at least a mobile phone with the correct time, huh". Then I simply just walked off. You should have seen his face. I gisted my friend and we just laughed off thinking it was chat up line and he just wanted to aquaint himself to me. Two days later, showed up for my interview, nervously waited to be interviewed by the CEO, he finally shows up, Guess who the CEO was, yup, the good looking guy who asked me for the time, didn't know whether to laugh, run, hide, we just looked at each other and started laughing, the attraction was so powerful, only god could have scripted it, to cut a long story short, I got the job, he was married(I was too young and ambitious to care), we connected mentally, physically and spiritually, we both had the best time of our lives, until I reconnected to God and decided it was not good and I broke off all contact, moving house, area, job, number changeetc, Recently bumped into him, he was yelling my name out, after 8 years, boy he still looks good, and that smile, yes we are back together and it does not feel wrong, it feels absolutely right, such is life. If you love him for himself that's different but if you love him because he's your boss and the perks, you'll end up dejected and hurt in the long run.
I am telling you! That law of Murphy abi na Okafor is very strong oh! Especially that "tin" between you was so gooooooooooooooooood! You will never forget it--no matter how born again you are! You go girl! I am so jealous! You are so real and I am loving you for it! May happiness be yours always!!!!! |
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RichyBlacK (m)
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Many moons ago, I was job hunting and got an interview with a multinational company. I had an initial interview with one of the assistant directors, I was told that the CEO of the company would make the final decision, two days before the big interview I was strolling along for a lunch appointment with an old school friend, when suddenly a figure of this finnnnnnnnnnne man happened to stop me and asked for the time, I looked puzzled as he was immaculately dressed and I decided to be a diva moment and replied "what sort of a man would leave his house without a watch or at least a mobile phone with the correct time, huh". Then I simply just walked off. You should have seen his face. I gisted my friend and we just laughed off thinking it was chat up line and he just wanted to aquaint himself to me. Two days later, showed up for my interview, nervously waited to be interviewed by the CEO, he finally shows up, Guess who the CEO was, yup, the good looking guy who asked me for the time, didn't know whether to laugh, run, hide, we just looked at each other and started laughing, the attraction was so powerful, only god could have scripted it, to cut a long story short, I got the job, he was married(I was too young and ambitious to care), we connected mentally, physically and spiritually, we both had the best time of our lives, until I reconnected to God and decided it was not good and I broke off all contact, moving house, area, job, number changeetc, Recently bumped into him, he was yelling my name out, after 8 years, boy he still looks good, and that smile, yes we are back together and it does not feel wrong, it feels absolutely right, such is life. If you love him for himself that's different but if you love him because he's your boss and the perks, you'll end up dejected and hurt in the long run.
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feyisara (m)
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Please kill that feeling or the attraction you have for your boss it won't do you any good rather it will get you into trouble come to think of it he is married just stay off him, it might be difficult but just look up unto God and ask him for direction. this is one of the reason why http:www.dynamitesinglesforum.com is created to address issue like this that are affecting singles please visit the forum and seek for opinion i believe you will get more advice.
Good luck
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charlione (m)
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@poster, people like you are the temptation all married men have to put up with. so u want to give him some . go ahead and let him know. if you are good looking,he might not be able to resist but when he's through with you,he will go home to his wife! |
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play (f)
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congolese, thank you for the mail, am sory but am just wondering, 8 years, does he want to marry u, are u sure. don't tel me your married because that, another matter.
and really you should not waste your time with him, particularly if he has no plans of marrying u. i understand the connection, have been there. this my boss in question, confides in me, tellsme alot of stuff about his personal life. am like his life line,maybe thats why i am attracted to mhim. there is a unspokn connection between us, which we try to hide with our work. thats why am here helples waiting, hoping that he might say sth. he is seperated u know, but he never talks about his seperation which is why am still in doubt about his marital status. u no, i want to settle down with him, maybe, but i gats to be sure.
lady m, u are so sweet , keep it going
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blueeye18 (f)
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please keep way since u no he's married God will give your's OK please so that u will not cry  |
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Jimi90
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Dear Play,
My advise-Sleep with him
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ola4u
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Wake up from your slumber, Baby.
You did not belong to your boss, He already got His bone of bone and flesh of flesh.
Your problem is heart problem, You are long thinking about your boss and mind is now fully there because u are seing him everyday, and probably he is also nice to you.
Look for a young man and get married to.
God bless you.
ola
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2dye4 (m)
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@poster; consider a career change, because u just can't av him, nd ifu keep on this way, u'd go crazy or commit succide!
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papabaks (m)
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I think you need to go for MEDICAL check up to confirm that you're 100% Ok,
What a shame to Girls of nowadays.
What so ever you sow you shall reap. Law of reciprocal.
papa.
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Lady M
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Play F, i need to ask u, re u a xtain? because if u re, i feel u shld knw that your boss is just separated n nt that d wife is late bt alife that alone is enough reason for you to kill that deadly feelings u re having 4 him because is nt REAL. y do u want to go into smthing that u can't be proud deep inside of u? hmmmm, let him sort himself wit d wife ok, n believe that God will 4 sure connect u to your own man because sugarpie d feeling u re having 4 your boss is just for you to chop that food that belong to sm1 else. What u need do is to pray 4 your boss 4 God to restore his marriage back. Dont u think so?
i guess if u keep praying 4 others hmmmm God will 4 sure be settling your own issues as well.
please dnt give in to d devil wit such feelings ok, d devil has set d dinner so good for you to fall in, please sugarpie dnt, u've survived it this 4 years nw, u can if u truely seek d face of God concerning your boss 4 God to restore his marriage ok!
4 your boss to confide in u is good n use it to d Glory of God by praying to God concerning those feelings or pains. because that man is stil inluv wit d wife. n if 2mor he takes u in to his house, hmmm my dear u go dey fear because he will 4 sure employ a p.a abi u stil go wan dey work 4 him as his p.a n wife as well?
God truely knw y He allow sm challengings to befall us because is to His Glory n as well to help our next generatn. Play F, if u try n av that SELF CONTROL u wil be a TOOL / A MENTOR to those that might av to face such battle in time to come.
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jaguda (m)
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Ok People (Nairalanders), look at the last line from the poster, she is asking, "What do i do?", please advice and not BASH her. Who amongst us can swear we have not had these feelings before? of longing for something beyond our grasp, that position, that car, that ornament? its the same feeling. Guess we were lucky to be removed from the radius of our obsession before damage was done, like getting a new job and easing the feelings before kasala burst.
To the young lady, follow your head this time around, but if u can't, face your fears. History is full of people with guts, u never know. A problem shared is a problem solved. I believe you wanted to share this badly and u couldn't be caught dead talking about it with your close friends, that is why u sought this faceless forum.
@ Seun, you're one great guy, kip it up!
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shigidi (m)
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na wa for you. try free the guy this babe. hope say in wife no dey nairaland  |
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ayasco (m)
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u need free the man oo he is tagged 'TAKEN'.Go for urs them plenty outside.maybe he doesnt even look at u more than once and has no feeling for u.
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abbeyboy (m)
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Hi Play,
i guess much has been said about your situation. i won't add to what i said earlier 'because some people there spoke my mind. However, the decision rests with you to either tell your boss or not and try elsewhere.whatever you decide to do, prepare yourself for the consequences,either good or bad. i wish you well.
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afrodixie
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congolese, thank you for the mail, am sory but am just wondering, 8 years, does he want to marry u, are u sure. don't tel me your married because that, another matter.
and really you should not waste your time with him, particularly if he has no plans of marrying u. i understand the connection, have been there. this my boss in question, confides in me, tellsme alot of stuff about his personal life. am like his life line,maybe thats why i am attracted to mhim. there is a unspokn connection between us, which we try to hide with our work. thats why am here helples waiting, hoping that he might say sth. he is seperated u know, but he never talks about his seperation which is why am still in doubt about his marital status. u no, i want to settle down with him, maybe, but i gats to be sure.
lady m, u are so sweet , keep it going
Please everything does not have to lead to marriage! Just have fun. The man cheated on his wife for heaven's sake!---Who wan marry am? I would rather keep him as a "shagging" partner--since he has proven to me that he has a "wandering prick"! Let it keep wandering then since it serves the greatest purpose well in that context---just protect yourself from unwanted gifts! If he likes, let him be born again and unmarried---I will not marry him. But for good time's sake, the pleasure will always be mine till I get sick of his arse---or his dikey shrinks! Marriage ke? That sexual magnetism at work is to die for! Let us keep it at that. Is it everyone you sleep with you want to marry?  |
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