My Girl Confessed To Me She Double Dated During Our Courtship. Shd I Forgive Her

this is serious and so are your tenses! ok, giv her some credit for her boldness and honesty in tellin u. but i guess you will av to deal with your trust issues while she deals with her guilt issues. i think u should know why she had the relationship with this other guy and why it ended so as to forestall future similar situations. finally,forgivness & second chances are for those who understand it, i think this particular chick derserves it.     

then u can conclude she did not have any geniue intentions to cheat except the fact that u gave her some reason to feel unappreciated. however, its still no excuse because she should av discussed this wit u and try to move the relationship forward. her idea of not puting her 2 eggs in 2 baskets anymore is noble because u cannot open and maintain 2 emotional bank accounts, one will definitely suffer for the other. think u should giv it a second try especially if your convinced she still loves u.

Dont disturb urself, it is ok she confessed. some are worse. U are lucky but dont ever have sex with her without using a condom since u have discovered that she is a mobile shop

If I may ask: have you been sincere to her? You didn’t say whether you are married now or have plans for that. If you’re just into a relationship that involves premarital sex, bear in mind that ‘he who sins with you can also sin against you’. Anyway that is ‘by the way’.

I think your girl deserves some commendation for her boldness (after all, how would you have known if she had not decided to confess?). But, you should find out why she did that and if such a thing would not repeat itself in the future. In trying to find out the reason for her action, do not condemn her. If she has sincerely decided not to repeat it, you’ve got to forgive and forget. Do not use that against her even in the future or give her the impression that you no longer trust her. But if there are indications that such a thing is likely to repeat itself in the future, you have to think twice. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.

If you actually think your actions then were bad,then you should give it a  second though and be very careful,

@eespunge and sobola75

you guys have said it all!!!

you need a girl that is absolutely and unreservedly committed. you should get rid of this girl.

be rest assured that next time you fall out of line she will do the same; and man you are bound to.

so my friend dont hold on to a girl who feels that 2 can play the game. they are nothing but pure heart ached

There is a reason for her confession just watch it brother.

@Sanrima
what kind of talk is that,
that she's allowed to cheat cas her boyfriend cheated,
that's a stupid reason to cheat

@poster
U HAVE TO GIVE HER A SECOND CHANCE, YES FORGIVE HER, SHE NEEDS U NOW MORE THAN EVER, CAS FOR HER TO COME TO U WITH THIS STORY, SHE'S HURTING

 i dont understand ppl n ther foolish advise,give advise daT u can practise and endure. and pls dont give advise in a situation u ave no idea  how it feels like. cos if u do know how it feels like.  u ppl will not be giving dat advise. abeg mumu boy am suprised u are still asking questions and thinking abt giving her a second chance. let me give u picture pefectl  ,  she fUCKED ANOTHER GUY  probablt witout a condom ,  and am sre it more than 50 times,  probably te same place u fuked her 2 , probably few minuete after ufucked her. it looks like u are ready to die  because if not u should be on your hill running away from d idiot , ojukokoro gurl.  by now.  chia i dont know,  where guys are suppose to be sart they wont be smart,  they will b acting like mumu.  if the gurl  does not want to put her egg in one basket ,  ,  its ok now ,  u to put your egg  in many  baskets,  2 can play d game abi  . u are now acting like one mumu follow follow woman wrapper,  oju e sha ti ja ,  keep begging  and asking ppl if u should take her back,  u will die of  MAGUN after 6 months  of your marriage ,  abeg gurls  no dull urself oh ,  dont let any guy tell u dat krap abt i dont want to put ma egg in one basket . tell him to go n share abt ,  RUBBISH. abg u ppl dot gt e md wit al dis questons ohh , 

@poster

If you do no check your tenses she would most likely do it again, till she finds one who writes perfectly unlike you and dump you for GOOODDDD!!!!

OMG, LMAOOO

Infact she deserves a House

yes u should

if she does not love you, shewill not tell u she did cos u did not catch her

dump her cheating ass, wots 2 stop from doing it again, foolish excuse, y didnt she come and meet u bout the mater, instead she busy yanning ballz about puttin 2 many egs in 1 basket

@bebe2007, u harsh o 

@evamiibee, thats a very graphic image o, bros!!! like 50 times and at the same venue? kai!!!

@ poster, there r so many considerations when this kinda issue pops up:
1. How exactly did u push her away?
2. What stage is your relationship in? engaged/married or just still nacking d shit out of each other?
3. Are u the forgiving type of guy or a hard &  type like evamiibee? U sound like the forgiving type sha 

My advise:
1. If u can live with it and not refer to the issue for the rest of your days, then forgive her
2. If your the tyype that's very scornful and won't forgive, better just tell her and part ways

Goodluck!!!