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IAH (f)
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Ladies, what do you think about women who get married and do not change their maiden names to their husband's names? Men, if your wife refuses to change her maiden name, how would you react to that? Sometimes I just think my present name is sweet and I don't want to change it.  |
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flower (f)
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I know of a lot of women who have not changed their names after marriage, and it seems to be ok with the husband. Most women opt for the hyphenated last name as to preserve both her roots and his, while others drop their original middle name (or keep it) and use their maiden names as middle names. As odd as this may sound, I read an article a few months back about men beginning to change their last name to that of their wife's!  It just depends on the couple |
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prince_onx
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not in my generation!
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prince_onx
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soon there will be an article where women go to the man's family to pay the dowry and ask his hand in marriage! nonsense!
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Ynot (m)
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As long as she perform her wifely duties, she can have queen elizabeth as her last name for all i care. Unfortunately, african tradition frown at women who retain their maiden name after marriage. Most people see that as a weakness on the man's side(he's not in control of his house-hold) and his peers will always taunt him. Besides, changing her maiden name to that of the husband is seen as a proof of marriage.
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Akolawole (m)
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Oh my God!
I hate married woman carrying over their parent's name.
i don't like it at all.
They are married, thats period!
This nonsense started in our country late 80's
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IBB Fan (m)
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the day a woman goes to a man's house to pay his dowry, definitely he will be the one to move-in with her and probably do the "iyawo" duties.
but seriously, is there any woman that wouldn't like to have "BLACK-BRIGGS" as her new surname if she was to get married to me?
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Yeah. I think it's wrong for a woman to still bear her maiden name after marriage!
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IBB Fan (m)
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@skidoc
oh boy, u b heavy bad belle ooo!!!
just imagine how sweet it would sound; Z4M4eva Black-Briggs
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Skidoc (m)
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Hmm  |
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IBB Fan (m)
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*sneaks to the backyard to go and empty my stomach of the excess laughter*
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idiot-boop (f)
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Hiya I don't like the idea, but bearing your married name is not set in stone, so if husband agrees all well and good. but i totally don't like the idea. Feminism gone too far is what i say, Sometimes the wife is the only heir or child of the parents so she may feel like preserving the father's name like someone said by hypenation. I love some of the guys in this forum you are such cave men arent you?  . its ok though i am old fashioned and totally don't believe in feminism and all the rubbish about role changes . men are men , women are women. |
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IBB Fan (m)
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@betty
you know my mother is BEATRICE (BETTY) BLACK-BRIGGS
i don't know whether my only sister out of 4 kids will look into your idea in order to retain her present surname.
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kimba (m)
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I know of a lot of women who have not changed their names after marriage, and it seems to be ok with the husband.
Most women opt for the hyphenated last name as to preserve both her roots and his, while others drop their original middle name (or keep it) and use their maiden names as middle names.
As odd as this may sound, I read an article a few months back about men beginning to change their last name to that of their wife's!
It just depends on the couple
@flower, did this one happen here in nigeria? |
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IAH (f)
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Lol, so all the men here don't like the idea. What if the husband's name is not sweet to the ears? Like Kamoru or Sule.  |
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Seun (m)
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The surname I bear is not even mine - afterall, I did not coin it - so this is not a big deal. However, it can be troublesome to deal with third parties who are surprised that your wife doesn't share your surname. So if the husband's surname is not good, perhaps the husband and wife can agree on a new name to share?
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IBB Fan (m)
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check: IAH BLACK-BRIGGS
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Grizzly (m)
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Wutever happened to (NEE)??  |
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Badman888 (m)
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It depends on the family some women use their maiden name as their middle name.
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Shannon (f)
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The only situation where I've heard of this being popular is if the wife already has an established career that involves dealing with many different people. Other than that everyone I know has gone the traditional route after marriage. My mother and sister both took their maiden names as their middle names when they married. If you feel the need to maintain some connection to your former surname I would think that would be a better bet than dealing with hyphenations and whatnot.
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idiot-boop (f)
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[/quoteyou know my mother is BEATRICE (BETTY) BLACK-BRIGGS i don't know whether my only sister out of 4 kids will look into your idea in order to retain her present surname.] IBBY love your mum's name. But you are there to carry on your father's name , aren't you going to marry and have kids or are you, hmm? i meant when there are no males in the family. Never mind some one said about the names not sounding nice, come on, surely if you love your man it shouldn't matter . Oh! except for the poor kids on the play ground  , hmmm, now that can be tricky imagine ''ukelegharahia''whoa thats actually my cousins married name. No offense to the Ibo's in the house just messing around. |
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flower (f)
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Kimba- No, that did not happen in Nigeria Prince Onx - There are already women proposing to men |
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mamaput (f)
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If to say my papa na big ,big man(MR Okoro)and every were I go the greet me as Madam Okoro
I will keep that name .
Not after i will answer Mrs Nwafor and when i come no one will greet me again they will ask Mrs Nwa what?
Then shannon has explained why . No need to play parrot.
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loriann (f)
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i love my name but it really depends on my husband
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naijababe (f)
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I couldn't wait to drop my maiden name and i adore my new surname as much as i adore my husband but then the name is cute  |
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snazzydawn (f)
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If you cannot change your maiden name to your husband's, then you might as well not marry. Remain in your father's house.
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Seun (m)
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Remain in your father's house. Snazzydawn, that is so sexist of you. Must a woman stay in a man's house? Why can't she stay in her own house? If you cannot change your maiden name to your husband's, then you might as well not marry. Is it the name that makes you a married woman, or the companionship that lasts a lifetime? |
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harvey (m)
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whoever am getting married to has to bear my last name.or she is out of my house.love or no love.oyinbo no go come change our respected culture with their nonesense.
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Analytical (m)
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@Seun, you are so right here: The surname I bear is not even mine - afterall, I did not coin it - so this is not a big deal. However, it can be troublesome to deal with third parties who are surprised that your wife doesn't share your surname. So if the husband's surname is not good, perhaps the husband and wife can agree on a new name to share? That was exactly what we did. Not that my wife did not bear my former surname, but we decided to change the surname to something more positive than it was. The old one has something to do with 'Ifa' (an oracle), while the new one has 'Olu' (The Lord) as the prefix to reflect our faith. After all, I did not coin the former one, like you said! |
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harvey (m)
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@Analytical
i agree with that,but not that u will have to change urs to ur wifes,or ur wife choose to keep hers.
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