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Alsutan
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Hi, guys i am new on this thread. I need ur adivice, i married a woman with 2 kids ten years ago and i have been takeing care of them,there schools and all what it take to bring up kids .I one day her daughter start to me how her mum was forecing them to go with her to see there father and she worn them not to let me know .The girl told me so many things .That anytime i Travel on a business trip ,she take them to him . And my wife has never told me .I can t understand her way .Mayb she want to go back to him or what .Why silence to me about. If not 4 her daughter i will not have know all this. She told me not to her mum know that she told. All this happening in my house . I am afraid. please adivice me.
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dada22 (m)
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that is a very confusing situation as u'll never know her motives da only tin u have now is ur right as da man of da house 2 know what ever goes on under ur roof sit her down and let her know u've found out about da father of her children & her visits and it's not a bad idea since her children deserve 2 know their father,u must not make her feel guilty because she 'll defend her actions, u'll not do this once & expect 2 know everytin, so u'll keep watch & communicate this once in a while. Don't assume anytin yet untill u are well knowledgeable about her motives, cheers because it might not be what u think.  |
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Alsutan
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Dada22. A big thanx
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havanah
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what a nerve recking situation ur in, u need to talk to ur wife, uve been with each other long enough to be able to talk and undertasnd each other, i think uve always admired ur wifes way of thinking since this incedent had put u in loss and caused u a lot of confusion!! talk to here and try understand her point of view, u have been good to her children and taken care of them which was a fine thing of u to do and shows what ur made of but they r and will remain the children of their natural father it is natural that they come closer to him and know him better maybe that is what ur wife had in mind she is seeking her children best interest and if thats what she wants try and keep an open mind and open eye so every thing will go around u instead of behind u, give her the benifit of doupt before u jump into conclusions,
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cliveland
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lots of line u didnt include;
1. did u ask of their father before ur wedding;
2. were dy actually married or she just had the 2 children out of wedlock;
3. how did u meet her, morally;
4. was she divorced before ur wedding;
5. do u both have kids of ur own;
6. honestly, 4give my bluntness, didnt u ever think d kids would never ask for their biological father? because it seems dy actually knew u were not their father
7. didnt u legally adopt them, d kids i mean n were ur grounds while applying for the adoption.
when u give honest answersto this questions u r most likely close to resolving ur confusion.
take care
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