A Pretty & Naturally Endowed Lady Whose Spoken English Is Awful

I'm afraid I don't see the relationship between her looks and her ability to speak English.

Is her inability to speak English a matter of her education (I realize that English is an official language in Nigeria) or is it that she simply feels more fluent speaking other languages? 

Or does she simply choose not to speak English well?  Does she feel it gives her more "street cred" to use fractured, slangy expressions?  If that's the case, yes, I would question her priorities in that it would seem that she's trying to succeed on her looks alone.  IF such is the case, she's making a huge mistake.

Regardless, I wouldn't use those two criteria as the sole basis of evaluating her.  I'm sure there's more to this lady than a lovely appearance and questionable language skills.

My main criteria for a woman in the first instance are her looks and English.She has to be fluent so that she doesnt embarass me

Fluency in English does not potray Intellect

Great command of English on d other hand gives me an ache for a second look

If complemented wit a good look, that's ---wow!

eyaaah! but its not too late to hire a tutor for her. . .12 hrs everyday would be fine

 @ jahbert

  There was no need for that! Referring to me as being crazy!

   It was uncalled for. You don't have to be abusive before making

  sense in whatever comment you have to drop.

 

In a less developed society like Nigeria, spoken English is an extremely reliable indicator of the quality of education of an individual, this in turn is a reflection of his social background.

Now the amount of overlap of your social circle and personal interests with those of your partner, plays a very big part in the success or otherwise of any romantic relationship, because it determines the number of goals you have in common with each other. Until we achieve mass literacy and universal access to a high standard of education (regardless of whether your parents are dirt poor or filthy rich) people in mydynasty's situation will continue having issues like this. That girl will surely have problems fitting into his world.

There are 3 things that keeps a man

1) A pretty lady mesmerises a man
2) A listening lady keeps a man
3) An intelligent lady challenges a man

some ladies and men have this problem of talking in public so they always make mistake so there English is awful it goes both ways men and women not only women. If you love her help her to overcome the problem and stop judging

i don't know if you are educated, but if you are,be sincer to yourself, can you date someone who can't speak english

how can you even care for such a person when there is no smooth communictiob.

sometimes we just advice people to do impossible things, just because we can can type and get away with the rubish we type.

At times, we are our own problem. When i say "we" I mean Nigerian youths. We tend to paint ourselves black forgetting that there are other worst things going on around the world. Have you ever come across a German that cannot even spell "was"  talk of spelling other big grammartical words in the dic. English is our second language though official in nature. But mine contribution is that you can help her to see the best in her outspoken english. At least, you love her.

Frank 3.16, It is not my intension to display my education level but since you sound like you are interested to know I am a graduate, with a good job married to most wonderful man on earth. You sound impossible, Let me tell you some thing when I met my husband he was not what an average Nigerian girl will like to marry but because of the word LOVE and there are powerful potential in him but there is no opportunity to bring it out I was patient and considerable  right now he is in pharmacy school about to graduate with honors and is far more better than what he was all I am telling you is that where there is love and understanding nothing is impossible. Remember the old saying "delay is never denial". If you can't help one work out his/her weak point please leave them alone. All of us needs time and opportunity

thanks for the education.
i know that a man who can't speak english is far better than a lady who can't speak english. we men are even trying to put up with the ladies who can speak very well(because with that they still act dumb) not to mention someone who can't speak.
again ladies have been found to be more patient in relationships, they can easily adjust if they want to, they are much psychologically stronger and have the strenght to endure.

i bet you, if it were the other way round for you and your guy, the relationship would not have gone to this extent.