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Anoushka (f)
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Men: would you date a girl that already has a child? And she is still young and attractive - under 25? By this i mean there is no future between her and the father of the child? And girls, vice versa. - Would You Marry A Single Parent? - |
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teju oso (f)
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i'm not a boy. i'm replying because i'm 19 and i have a baby, still boys want me, they know it and they tell me they would marry me regardless of my son so i think it's cool. go ahead
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nawah (f)
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When i met my husband I already had three kids. I tell you when a woman has a kid already,she really wants the next relationship to work out. When youare nice to the kids that softens her heart so much.
One of the reasons i love and respect my husband above any person on earth is because of the way he treats all the kids fairly and shows them the same kid of love and treatment.
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skywalker (m)
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Why not! As long as she will allow me to love her child the same way I'll love mine. No problem
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dablessed (f)
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I am a single parent and a widow and i can say that dating someone who already has a child comes with a lot of maturity. Some pple just cannot handle it while it is perceived as "no big deal" by others.
My advice: Dont dabble into it if you really cant handle it.
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flower (f)
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Dablessed, I agree wholeheartedly with you.
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banke (f)
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i don't think its a bad idea! but if the man is reasonable you can go ahead.
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freddie! (m)
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if her child or children will not affect her and the way she sees our relationship psychologically, why not?
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ono (m)
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Surely I will. But I'll do a lot of homework on the lady in question, before dabbling into a relationship with her. And I'll surely love her and her children alike.
But one thing though: The lady must be a real single parent, she must be a widow. And I must find her really attractive at her age.
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Badman888 (m)
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Yah, but you hav to study her closely and stuff but they might be problems with your own family members,
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IAH (f)
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I once asked this kind of question on this forum because one of my 'husbands' in Nigeria is a single parent. I do like him though, but that child part is a big No-No. I want to be the one to give my husband his first child. The sort of happiness he'll feel if he's had a child previously will not be as much as if that's the first time he'll be a father. If you don't mind, you can go for it though.  |
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nawah (f)
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Well I wonder about that because I have 8 kids and the happiness was everytime the same. Every child i domething specuial and a gift from God.
I appreciate it so much more when I see my husband doing something fot the kids that he is not the biological father.
And I tell you my children see him as their father in every way,
It way not easy at first but I gave him a free hand with the kids and allowed him to disipline them. When his own kids where born he started to realise that kids can misbehave too.
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ono (m)
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@IAH, you were married to several men in Nigeria, in the past??
Gosh!! dablessed, you're a bomb waiting to explode. You're so so so pretty.
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venice (f)
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Well i guess there is nothing wrong in dating a single parent.
i myself am a single mother of one(1) only, am Independent and don't depend on any man, nor does the father of my child support my child, but i fought the battles on my own, and i believe that aslong as i'm independent, and i meet somebody who can love and respect me and my lovely daughter, i think the relationship will work out.
Aslong as the single parent is responsible, caring, loving etc.
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Rosby (m)
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I am a lady and a single parent. A mature mind will see nothing wrong in it. The main question any mature mind would ask is 'do I really like and love him/her?', if the answer is 'yes' then the issue of 'child or children' will never be an obstruction. Why? if you may ask! Because love is unconditional, thus if you love him/her it means you love all around and in him/her. Accepting the child/children will even be a thing of joy to you.
It is only an immature mind that sees it as taboo - but it is funny! Dating and marraige is all about where you can find 'love (peace and happiness)' - your missing rib or the rib you were made from. So when you find it don't ever let it go because of reasons such as 'he/she already has a child/children'. If you are able to find love with a child/children, is an added value to your life.
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ono (m)
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So, Rosby, what happened to your daughter's dad?
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blacknight (m)
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one wetin be you own sef, leave my darling Ruth alone oooooooooo.RUth my darling i'm here for you jore
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ono (m)
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But blacknight, which one be your own too? This is Rosby's first posting and you're already on fire for the lady.
Na una type dey carry beat women for house so. Make you take time o. Me I don marry, express don leave you behind. You think say na play play we come do for here. Carry ya playboy pattern go Romance section o o!!
So, abeg Rosby, what happened to your husband jare?
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Rosby (m)
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Ono,
Just as I have said before, finding your missing rib/the rib you were made from is a highly priced thing that should not be forfeited for reasons such as child/children, because finding it is not easy.
Although, the question you asked is a very personal one but I will give you an answer. I found no love (peace and happiness) so i retrieved.
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ono (m)
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Ono,
Although, the question you asked is a very personal one but I will give you an answer. I found no love (peace and happiness) so i retrieved.
E be like say you be Isoko/Igbo lady. Welcome to Nairaland. But, erm, wetin be retrieved, na divorce?? abeg that one na Queens English o. You fit break am down for me.Don't mind my pidgin o. Na Warri make me be like that. |
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Rosby (m)
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Well, Ono? I can't go further than this. Am very sorry. This na public zone
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ono (m)
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You've got YIM? If yes, then lets chat, privately. I will tell you a lot of things about myself too.
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Rosby (m)
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Yes, I have got and you. And how can we exchange.
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kimba (m)
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@rosby, @ono abeg, by the time the two of you finish on messenger or wherever, make u give us a short conclusion about the matter.    |
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kimba (m)
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@rosby, @ono abeg, by the time the two of you finish on messenger or wherever, make u give us a short conclusion about the matter. |
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IAH (f)
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@IAH, you were married to several men in Nigeria, in the past??
Com'on Ono!! you know what I mean. |
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hazeleyes (f)
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Anoushka, I feel with you, am a single parent myself and i no what you are on about. but i must say there are few good ones out there who would welcome you withall your bags and all one thing i say is that whatever God has destined would not pass you by are you a single parent ? if you are lets talk bout the issues of raising a child in london on your own Holla  |
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ability (m)
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Well i will like to know your mind in regard to seeking single parent.
Are you in love with any one at the moment. or what do u really want are u a male or female let me know am interested
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dablessed (f)
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@ Ono: "But one thing though: The lady must be a real single parent, she must be a widow. And I must find her really attractive at her age."[/b]
Ono, i really didnt know that there were categories of single parents. So in your opinion, a real single parent is someone whose spouse is deceased? Oh i see
@ Ono: Gosh!! dablessed, you're a bomb waiting to explode. You're so so so pretty[i][/i]
Thanks Ono, i am almost blushing here! How are you finding married life? Regards to lady Ono.
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