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sfdaram (f)
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when a Nigerian married man is caught in an extra marital affair, no body talks about it but when a Nigerian married woman is cut in the same act, is always as if hell will let loose. why?
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sfdaram (f)
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@chidnosky,
yes ve heard is men's world but who makes the act normal for men and abnormal for women.
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crazykid (m)
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Well the man is the head of the family every other person comes second to him; that’s why a man won’t be rebuked much when he commits adultery.
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ozigbo (m)
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Because we are in charge.
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kerenti (m)
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@naijacutee
I don't believe your statistics is as a result of men being more adulterous than women.Ofcourse,everybody knows that there are more women than men.Come to think of it,you are complaining that these men are adulterous,do they sleep with pigs and dogs?No!Everytime they commit adultery,it is definitely with another partner that is cheating on her real partner.So,we be thesame thing ooo,make una no talk that one again.
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almondjoy (f)
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@Topic
The fact that you can think it is okay to use the word in your classification as normal does not mean it is normal to most. No, it is not "normal" for anyone--male or female! A socially deviant behaviour for the most undisciplined mind. Because like most things in Nigeria, morality is not a priority.
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naijacutee (f)
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@naijacutee
I don't believe your statistics is as a result of men being more adulterous than women.Ofcourse,everybody knows that there are more women than men.Come to think of it,you are complaining that these men are adulterous,do they sleep with pigs and dogs?No!Everytime they commit adultery,it is definitely with another partner that is cheating on her real partner.So,we be thesame thing ooo,make una no talk that one again.
I don't mean to engage you but statistics speak for themselves. You are right, there are more women than men, and that only goes to confirm the fact that the infected men are spreading HIV faster than the reverse, simply because our culture doesn't forwn strongly enough on male promiscuity. It's simple, think of it - You put 10 women and 2 HIV+ men in a room. The 2 men can easily sleep with 5 women each within a short period and give them all the virus. Ratio of infected population of males to females - 1:5. |
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kerenti (m)
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@naijacutee
You seem to be diverting from the poster topic.The poster is talking about promiscuity/adultery not HIV/AIDS.It may be true that men spread the deadly virus than women(that is if your statistics is even right)as they sleep with more of the opposite sex than women do but does not necessarily mean they are more adulterous because someone has already commited an adultery once you have engaged in the act,the number of times doesn't matter.In short,you spread the virus as a number of times you sleep with different people while you become adulterous just only once you have slep with somebody who is not your partner
Let me take you to another point you have not realised,though women are many than men,I'm sure the ratio is not more than 2:1,at most 3:1(unless you want to tell me that more than 70% of Nigeria is women).Meanwhile,you have men sleeping with more than 5 girls within a short period of time,within a short period of time i said, shouldn't it be 1 man sleeping with 3 women for a lifetime(that is even with the assumption of 3:1)?I hope you are not lost in the mathematics,do i make sense to you at all?
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kerenti (m)
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@ poster Why Is Extral Marital Affair Normal To Nigerian Men But Abnormal To Their Women? Well, this is absolutely true and the simple answer for your question is: that is our culture.It has been like that even before our generation were born and i don't think there is anything anbody can do about it.You would even hear some women supporting this,saying "it's the species of men that are promiscous, not women." Our culture has really affeceted our thinking and there is nothing anybody can do about it,you would be alone trying to change it so,the best thing is to "join them if you can't beat them." I thank God I'm a man(hahaha) @ poster also Why the question,have you been caught?  Too bad!  |
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naijacutee (f)
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@ kerenti. I'm not diverting - Wherever there is promiscuity is encouraged, HIV/AIDS is not too far away.
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manmustwac (m)
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Well like chidnosky said '' its a man's world'' and Nigeria is a male dominated society. Come to london where a lot of my nija friends some in their late 30's or early 40's (all married with kids) talking about how they made love with their girlfriends during the weekend etc. You'd think these boys were still in Uni. And i can't imagine any of their wives doing that.
But then back in the days before colonization men never used to cheat on their wives because then they were married to six or seven of them so there was need too.
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bawomolo (m)
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Well like chidnosky said '' its a man's world'' and Nigeria is a male dominated society. Come to london where a lot of my nija friends some in their late 30's or early 40's (all married with kids) talking about how they made love with their girlfriends during the weekend etc. You'd think these boys were still in Uni. And i can't imagine any of their wives doing that.
But then back in the days before colonization men never used to cheat on their wives because then they were married to six or seven of them so there was need too.
translation, every man needs to be surrounded by his hoochie harem |
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albridge (m)
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have you ever heard the phrase, "and you think you are a man". men are culturally entrusted with a lot of responsibilities. whether or not they carry those responsibilities well is another matter. the thing is that with responsibility also come certain privilege. it would be dumb for anyone to expect that the driver and the managing director (not that i am referring to women as drivers. don't get me wrong) should have the same salary of recreational privileges.
with great power comes great responsibilities. with great responsibilities comes great power and certain perculiar privileges.
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proo212 (m)
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Women are also entrusted with a lot responsbibilities, so what's your point? You are just looking to justify your morality and choices.  What is wrong is wrong, there's no need to disguise it with grammar. If you can't be faithful, then don't make that kind of a committment. Then everybody is happy |
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$ammy (m)
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Not this days again oh, Yoroba women in this Lagos no dey gree again oh, Them sef dey compete with their husbands in tearing outside marriage.
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naijacutee (f)
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Thnk you very much proo. For calling a spade a spade. People like you make their mark.
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NubianQ (f)
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Naija cutee,
i agree with you on your comments regarding men and the disease thing,
well, men thing they can cheat because its a mans world, yeah right, to be honest,i am no saint but i feel that when a man cheats he is probably just trying to make a statement that he is a man or just being a Boy. the consequences of that are very bad because d woman has to live with him and recieve the "spoils of sex"
well, women just need to wise up. its should go both ways then maybe men would realise that cheating hurts and people should learn to spice up their lives.Women cheat as well but Men eat the cake.
when it comes to tlking about men, esp when it comes to Nigerian men, i have a headache but i do like them anyways because they are confident. but the way they do things sometimes esp cheating,can't deal with that,
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vivaladiva (f)
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i personally don't see the reason why eye brows are raised, my principle is what is good for the goose is good for the gander
so long as u are ready to live with the consequences, if a man cheats on his wife then if she so desires she can cheat too. that is probably why i don't live in nigeria, the double standards are too much to bare
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wendymanda
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i personally don't see the reason why eye brows are raised, my principle is what is good for the goose is good for the gander
so long as u are ready to live with the consequences, if a man cheats on his wife then if she so desires she can cheat too. that is probably why i don't live in nigeria, the double standards are too much to bare
I say that all the time and when I do am called Proud. |
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vivaladiva (f)
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wendy my dear u are not proud, if a man cannot be satisfied with one pussy then why on earth should i be satisfied with his lonely privates when there are oda massive dicks in the rriver waiting to sucked and fucked
ABEG WHEN A WOMAN IS OUT SPOKEN ABOUT HER SEXUALITY PEOPLE WANT TO CRUCIFY HER DONT LISTEN TO THEIR BULL SHIT COS THAT IS WHAT IT IS
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4 Him (m)
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i personally don't see the reason why eye brows are raised, my principle is what is good for the goose is good for the gander
so long as u are ready to live with the consequences, if a man cheats on his wife then if she so desires she can cheat too. that is probably why i don't live in nigeria, the double standards are too much to bare
Dumb comment. Nigeria is not the only nation on earth where female cheating is frowned upon. Even in the western countries . . . male cheats like Bill Clinton get away with a mere slap on the wrists. |
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vivaladiva (f)
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4him if u bothered to read the topic moron
it specifically talks about nigerian men idiot
if u don't like the fact that am talkin specifically about nigerian men
please go and hang your self Ahole
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vivaladiva (f)
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its a mans world, tis also a white mans world so then colonization and slavery should be allow
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4 Him (m)
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4him if u bothered to read the topic moron
it specifically talks about nigerian men idiot
if u don't like the fact that am talkin specifically about nigerian men
please go and hang your self Ahole
You have anger management issues. Solve them instead of using Nairaland as an outlet for your frustrations. Loud barrels like you are usually empty. |
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vivaladiva (f)
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when i come accross irrational men like u i just shake my head
u need to look beyond your horizon and understand that the world is changing
when a woman is opinionated u say she has anger management issues
personally i don't give a shit
if i choose to vent my anger on nairaland am i stoppin u from doin so wanker
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4 Him (m)
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when i come accross irrational men like u i just shake my head
u need to look beyond your horizon and understand that the world is changing
when a woman is opinionated u say she has anger management issues
personally i don't give a shit
if i choose to vent my anger on nairaland am i stoppin u from doin so wanker
calm down, you may break your keyboard soon. You seem to be under the illusion that anyone is particularly interested in the inanities you spew about. Who really cares about whether u're opinionated or not? It is immature loons like you who mistake verbal diarrhoea and a penchant for verbal sparring as "being opinionated". There is a clear difference between being blunt and being an insultive nuisance. No one is stopping you from venting your misplaced anger on Nairaland, its just one more evidence that u have deep seated problems that you need to resolve. |
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dangermous
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Both of una get issues. We suppose find one private thread for una to do some private e-piping
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vivaladiva (f)
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u know what 4him go finger your self
if u don't want to talk about the issue tis fine by me, i have nothin to gain or loose
save your rantings for some one who really cares
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4 Him (m)
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u know what 4him go finger your self
if u don't want to talk about the issue tis fine by me, i have nothin to gain or loose
save your rantings for some one who really cares
there's only one person ranting here, it sure aint me madam opinionated. Issues like this become redundant when trolls like you are around. |
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NubianQ (f)
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u know what suit your self mr 4him bye
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