Found Fiance In Bed With Junior Sister

girl the lord is your strength,don't know what to say

if you choose to keep the baby, then you have to keep the man.

forcing the child to grow up without his natural father is a worse thing than fooling around with your fiance's family.

if you choose to dump the man, get rid of the baby before it is too late. Those forcing you to make decisions based on abstract concepts like 'preserving a new generation' will show their true colours if put in your situation.

personally, I recommend you keep the baby (abortion is risky and messy) and forgive the man. You have no choice but to forgive your sister- such is the nature of family. You cannot hold a grudge against your own blood, for she is connected to you till death whether you like it or not.

However the decision is up to you. In any case the rest of the family must be made to know. This alone will deter any further shenanigans, I hope.


summary: do not raise an orphan whose father is still alive. Dont divorce your husband before marrying him. Dont turn your kid into a bastard by personal choice.

i just did

sorry for break, i told my sister to see me Monday just for me to hear her out and she told me she had 2 abortions for my guy, that she's madly in love with him, that I ADEBANKE should give them a chance.

i spoke to my Ex last night and i told him to come he said that my sister was the cause that she's responsible for him cheating on me, he said so many things that i almost passed out! am still 2months and 1 week preg now.

now tell me dear readers how will i have a baby for a father who has aborted for my sister?

Then Venice agree whit me u can't face that kind of disgrace in your relationship.

He is talking bad about your sister,   your sister is begging for his love.

I wish you luck in what ever you do.

Dear banke,

As I stated initially, there is something about this your situation that sounds unreal to me. It all seems like a serialized story by a writer for Hints magazine. How does someone in your position find the ccomposure to be typing on Nairaland?

But again, assuming your situation is real and you somehow have enough composure to be be typing on nairaland given such a stuation, (in which case forgive my skepticism as I make money by thinking in 360 degrees), we will need to hear from your boyfriend and sister DIRECTLY to give you informed advice. Your second-hand version can not be relied upon for their own side.

Please Could you ask both of them to register with nairaland (under pseudonyms) and tell us their side of this story.

Why crucify the guy. Though i am not supportin him but am sure your sis made the move,remember its his house. Your sis is a WHORE and your man is weak.

t4cash i don't have to invite them, all i needed from nairalands is just an advice, u know when two or more people encourage u don't feel really down, i don't know any body in this forum the only thing i want is their candid advice. no more no less. having the courage to write all this down is just sharing my pains and making someone to feel me!

i would need to know more
how old are you?
how old is your sister?
do you still love the man?

I just hope your sister is not carrying this guy's baby because he seems to be the most fertile man out there.
What was your sister doing in his house?
I see no reason why anyone should blame this dude. What do we expect when a lamb finds itself alone in a lions den?

Banke ,  how many more hurting news would u want to hear about what these two people have done, are continuing to and might get worse in the future ?

Well I wonder why all the people that were advising you to keep the baby and forgive these two ,are being quite now, the moment u started narrating this experience, I knew there was more to discover! if you want to keep the baby, u'll have to keep the guy yes I do agree with this , but why should you continue in this shit ? why ? I do sympathise with u in this predicament but I just want to let you know that this occurence is not strange in this world, many people are just selfish and HEARTLESS. At this point I do not think you should waste any more precious second by listening to either this boy or your sister  . While they were at it, they must have been having fun selfishly thinking about their own pleasure,obviosly not thinking about you, or VALUE the relationship they should both have with you.

Why should you now keep this pregnancy? how dare your sister ask you to leave them alone ? what sort of husband or father do you think this man would be? a MAN should be disciplined and strong to stand his grounds , do you think this boy would be MANLY enough, to responsilbly raise a family? I know how difficult this is but u need to pretend as if u are not the victim here, and imagine the advice u would have offered. The Lord shall be your strength, I wish you good luck.

@ Dauda,
I think you're spot-on here. Banke is just writing out a script. How blind can someone be? your sister was caught half-naked in bed with your fiance. All of a sudden u are 3 months gone and now your sister had 3 abortions for your fiance. Is S-T-You-P-I-D written on our foreheads?
Go and sell your story to Chico and Zeb Ejiro because Jerry Springer/Steven Spielberg will dial 911 on u for a cheap dumb story like this.
Admin shld put an end to this ridiculous thread.

Jackal & Dauda are correct what a load of rubbish!

was it because he found out u were pregnant he Proposed to u. anyway thats not the problem now. you just have to think this through what do u really want to do with the child.

Think about it. Do whats best for your future.

alj, i don't care whatever you say, my mummy is late and my daddy can't really do much, when he heard he was so annoyed! all they have to say IS to forget. honestly my sister told me when she had her last d & c and why should i think that it was for my guy? i have never caught them together before! but all I HAVE TO SAY IS MY SISTER HURT ME SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1