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dimpules
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Please,
stop sleeping with her for your own good. No matter how sweet she may be. You can always put your feet to the ground and say NO. Or rather FLEE. stop blaming her.
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rasputinn (m)
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Hey Kastro,don't listen to anybody just go ahead with the good job man.Expand your operational base from cars,car parks etc,hell no no no,those places aint enough man,do it too in your office,in front of your church or mosque or shrine,along the road especially @ bus stops,I think CMS bus stop is cute, or better still on your street,you'll love the thrill.Then you will have enough stories that nairaland thread alone cannot contain,you may even write a book about your heroics and make money from it,I mean look at the economic side too.
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owenjay (m)
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This is my first time in the site. A Friend introduced me.
I am however, chagrined by the contributions of members. Everybody tends to put on this toga of "holier than thou".
Whoever knows he/she is sinless should cast the first stone.
I think you guys are being hypocritically and your suggestions only shows that you guys are only smart by half.
I suggest that you visit some of these foreign blogsites like perezhilton, tmz. hollywoodnews etc.
It takes manly guts for someone to come to a public forum like this to seek for intelligent help for his/her problem.
The least some of you hypocrites can do is to shut up already if you don't have an advise and let those that have words of advice to speak.
This should be a forum for intelligent discuss on sexuality. If you know you are not up to it, there is a forum called "General Discussion". You can as well go there.
As for the member that is requesting for advise, I really sympathise with you because it is not a relationship that is easy to get out of, once you are in it. Apart from dogged determination, which often times fails to yield desired result, the only efficacious solution is for you to seek for transfer from the Department you are presently to another one where you wont be seeing the Lady regularly.
But as long as you see her regularly, you will always go back.
As you work assiduously to get out of it, you need to treat the Lady with dignity. Sex in Cars and odd places speak volume of ones character. Love making is not a thing to be trivialised to the extend of making it look slutty.
If you can't get a decent place to have her, don't even attempt it.
A Lady that allows a Man to have her in such places as you mentioned is not worthy of womanhood. And there is no respect for such a woman.
Good luck.
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rasputinn (m)
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C'mon guys,kastro does not need any help or sympathy.From simple psychological analysis of the original poster,Kastro came across as somebody not 100% ready to put an end to the act just yet.Now he wrote "This thing has been on for a while now, we've just been banging in all he odd places, "By using the subscripted word,he appeared to be gloating.
Secondly,from his response to Noimbull's contribution Noimbull sorry to say this but you sound like someone who wouldnt mind having fun but just can't simply get,here subscripted,kastro obviously sees nothing wrong in having the kind of fun that ,according to him some other people yearn for but are not superhuman(emphasis mine)to get it.
My point:HE IS NOT REMORSEFUL,maybe in dire straits,yes,but certainly not remorseful,hence you guys should stop wasting your sympathies and advice already.I stand by my original post.
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denony (m)
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1. You are celebrating your irresponsibility. 2. Lack of self control 3. It seems you are sex addict, that u can't get the satisfaction from your wife. I know your wife and I must let her know this  If you want to Prevent leting her come about this, reach me on this line 08032122177, so we can negotiate before I loose control, and let her be aware of this. |
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ibrahiem (m)
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u have to be careful with life,ma brother
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smtprince (m)
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@all
i guess this is shakespeare's "much ado about nothing"
I don't see a reason while we are still on this thread. Time out everybody go home and rest and do not post any advice or ill word anymore.
Thanks
Management
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skind
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why are u criticising this dude. this things happens. lets stop the attack and advise. lets stop behaving like saints here. it happens in virtually all offices. i have an instance of this in my former office where my boss was having fun with her secretary even in the office. cheat happens my guys.
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Eclairs
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Most of us find ourselves in similar circumstance yet we leave in self denial. The guy needs help. @poster, if you mean wht you are saying, I pray the Lord help u but be ready for His purnishment cz no sinner shall go unpurnish.
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pc guru (m)
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 i don't think u have a problem just stop sleeping with your staff.people might advise u to tell your wife,it's a good thing to do.but not all good moves are wise actions, stop cheating ,since it's a need-not-to-know basis keep it to-yourself and wisely save your marriage,plus i think u are full of shit. the truth has to be said
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holyeye (m)
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Bros whatever is worth doin at all is worth doin well. Nothin do u.  D niggi no need any help. E dey enjoy am una say e get problem. Wetin no dey happen. No be 2day, walahi e don tay. Take census and u will fnd out that it occurs in 90% of work enviroment or nuclear firm. Sooner dan later d tin go comot bodi. No just go love up oooooooo. Madam must to always be number 1. No long tin |
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nedulity
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my advise to you is quite the act before it destroys you men not only are you insulting your marriage but you are laying a curse uppon yourself please do the right thing and be true to your marriage
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jimmyxxl (m)
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please give me a call I lovedating married people, 08053980714
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lg
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intrested in learning forex and making a living
from forex then email: lordgbengs@yahoo.com or call
08035748474
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larryA
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This is on like a responsible man, please grow up. Marriage is for real not football.  |
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mama orga (f)
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I wouldnt condemn you but all i can say is that i thank God that at least u know what u are doin is not right
there are some guys that cheat on their wives and they don't see anything wrong with their actions.
to all u guys criticising him. has any of u never cheated on your galfriend or wife before?
he witout a sin should be the first to cast the stone.
but bros. picture your wife doin same
can u stand it.
do unto others what u want others to do to u
as for that your co-worker,
sex dey sweet am well well
she had better get a single dude who is heavily endowed to screw her brains out
if she see sex she go run
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larryA
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mama orga, This is for mature minds, when you are married stop playing games.
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kenosky (m)
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logs in,  then sighs how did this thread get to page 4?
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johhnnie (m)
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nairalanders, when anyone of us has a psychological problems such as this. though, we may not harbour such, at thesame the guy is faithful and bold enough to speak out not because he wants to show the dog in him but because he agrees that he has a problem that needs solutions proferred. whot if i told u that im HIV positive what would u do STIGMATISE me, lets be problem solvers. the girl or the guy might even be related to any of us who knows, thank u
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nivek
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false confection, are you telling us to clap for you or advice you, My friend go and sit down. if you need deliverance , go to church don't disturb our nairaland. |
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nivek
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what will you do if you married a woman who is not interested in having sex.
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marachi
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You ar full of s#it
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justcold
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eeyahh! too bad for you oh!!! just keep it up sha, since you';ve started, and put your real name here too ehn!? so you can publicize the shameful thing well well,
PS: rem to tell your wife
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MsCee (f)
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@justcold PS: rem to tell your wife that's if she's not already on nairaland. |
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Ibo Man (m)
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Turn the table around and ask yourself how u would feel if your wife did
the same how would u feel.
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kola oloye (m)
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just repent before it is too late
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vincey (m)
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Girls dey harsh ooo, shoooo in onw way or the other, all the perticipated ladies would have done things similar if not the same, sleeping with another while u have urs. If u like raise alarm, curse, swear whatever. You DON DO AM. but nothing they hapen sha. Guy, if u really want repent, u know the right thing to do, there is always a way out But if u dey njoy the thing come they take us play 4 here, carry go, no be when u enter grave u go enjoy your ife but REMEMBER what goes around comes around, that is, Another manager is also managing your WIFEEEEEEEEE.  I believe u like am that way. As the babe they screen, na so your wife go they screen too. But the person fit come they BRUSH your wife pass as u dey do am oooo. FIND OUT FROM THAT GUY WEY SAY HIM DON WATCH THE UNFAITHFUL |
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emiemi (f)
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Kastro, the first question I would ask u honestly is 'why did u marry'? If u intend to still be sleeping with your colleague, an old flame, the girl next door, u could have just remain a bachelor. But on a more serious note, if that is what u av been doing behind your wife's back (not that u can do it in her front anyway), please stop it and repent. Unfaithfulness and cheating is the no 1 hazard for any home and it will breed a lot of other 'younger children' The truth of the matter is that if your wife gets to find out somehow, she would be heartbroken and might distrust u henceforth. I'm sure u want a happy home with your wife and kids. Please repent of your evil act and appreciate your wife more. If it's that your marital sexlife has become boring, discuss it with her and look for ways to spice it up together. You will be a happier man that way. As for the female 'colleague', like someone has said, I pray and hope she gets a taste of this in the nearest future. Some women are just loose. The man is married but they won't let him be. |
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muchbabe (f)
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@ emiemi
your right on point
@poster
You should be having this confession with your wife and not nairalanders and try to sought out your relationship. If u married her, u obviously thought she was the one for u so i wonder y u gotta do this now.
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manakins
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Well it must be fun for u to still be hanging on.
View it lik when both of u are tire it will fizzle away.
You don't need any adv ise its your choice.Stop feeling
like bad because u are bad so why the innocent kind of thing.
Have fun but no pregs.Could be worse.
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jamznato
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we all face challenges in work places but the ability for we to solve problems rightly shows maturity. I suggest maybe your wife and co-worker are not thesame so you know the best thats y u go for it.
But remember u are married and you know the laws abiding it. The result for adultery and fornication is HIV/AIDS. if what u do pleases God continue but if otherwise bros stop because corning man die corning man burial. GOD IS NOT MOCK.
We all sins by one way or the other we are not worthy besides our rightouesness is like a fithy rag before God and He says who commit adultery likes wisdom and destroy himself.
I don't think you really really need an advise if you have the holy spirity in you. God is with you and the spirit in you communicates with God . For he looks at the inward appearance. He is faithful to those who are faithful to him. pray so that devourer will not set in your life.
Bros I no say make u stop oooo. But if wetin you de do clear for your eyes as a married man and brings glory to God, continue. Remeber you are not the owner of your life.
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creamdream
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Just decide to sto, if you mean it, you will, if not, then you are on your own
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