Why Are Nigerians So Abusive And Insulting?

this post is the truth, we just can't agree to disagree. No wonder we can't figure democracy out. if somebody comes up with something different we shout them down (common get out) woe unto them if they think of something different, we call them all kinds of names like small boy or mumu, and we wonder why our country never progresses, when we can't come to a consensus amongst ourselves. I must admit i am just like that, i guess its the way we were raised, we need to start reeducating our kids lest they become like us.

Left,

You are absolutely right in your assessment.  I use to wonder why Nigerians behave the way they did, i.e. tactless, crass, rude, abrasive, overbearing, etc.  Then I went to Nigeria.  I understood.  The society is a harsh place. 

Once I witnessed a bus stop to pick up passenger, and the adult pushed children to the pavement in order to get a seat.  Now this is the sort of treatment little children get.  So what do you think will become of the little children? 

He he he he he he he heh!

It is called survival of the fittest!  Children do not count!

He he he he he he he he he he HEH!

And the saga continues!

Its more of a societal thing, therefore we need to start reeducating our kids so they don't become like us. 

Social studies classes should be teaching our kids conflict resolution starting in Primary school. They need to teach our kids to agree to disagree with people at times and that since somebody has a differing opinion from you doesn't mean they are "mumus"(stupid). They also need to teach them that every disagreement does not need lead to a shouting march or a belligerent response from them.

Another big problem in our society is that we are not thought how to handle pressure and how to control our emotions, just fly a nigerian plane and see how horrible the hostesses are; extremely mean. Just because you've had a bad day doesn't mean you should take it out on everybody else. This also extends all the way to the top especially in leadership were people are ridiculed for having a differing opinion or even shouted down or barked at (common shut up jo or commot here jare).

Leadership requires cooler heads hence the cliche "cooler heads will prevail"  and our kids should also be thought in school how to reach consensus; where a decision is made that satisfies everybody and not just the majority, instead of those with stronger personalities ("gra gra" people) or those with louder voices dominating everybody else. If our kids don't get this right Nigeria might never ever get better, because there is no electricity or you don't have a job or because "go-slow" dey does not mean you should relay your anger on everybody else.

On a side note on leadership, a leader must always be calm during crisis and not show emotion and should make tough decisions and take responsibility when it doesn't work out, instead of giving excuses and blaimin other people for it.

My dear, this is a paradox.
Enlightened people do not display coarse and gross behavior.
A true enlightened person would behave appropriately in all fora.
Nigeria's current situation is reflective of how truly enlightened
the enlightened one are.

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WE NEED DIVINE INTERVENTION TO HELP SOLVE THIS CRISIS OF HARSH AND ABUSIVE CHARACTER OF NIGERIANS
BUT IT MAKES NIGERIANS UNIQUE AND DIFFERENT You KNOW, LMAO

It took years of shaping by the British to reach that behavior. I am not trying to aggaravate any fire or make anyone

feel like British people are evil. Those from back then who embraced slavery certainly were evil. My point is if you

look back to the days of slavery africans were abused and beaten, but were controlled in the name of respecting and

fearing God. Why do you think most African countires are authoritarians, bcause that behavior was embedded in their

system after so many years of colonism. The British proclaimed themselves as fathers to the Africans and that gave them a chance to mold our behaviors, disrespect their women and our women and WE LEARNED TO TREAT WOMEN LIKE SHIT TILL THIS DAY AND THE REST OF THE uGLY BEHAVIORS CAME LATER. ITS NOT NIGERIANS ONLY.

speaking for nigerians in nigeria,i guess its the stress, struggling under the hot sun can make u have a very short fuse, also i think it has a lot to do with the way you were brought up,speaking for myself,even when im abused online like a forum like this,it takes a while for me to go deep down and dirty because i wasnt brought up that way and if it was a real life situation and u abused me ill walk off and leave you to rant and rave or just keep on laughn at you(always seems to piss people off when you're like that ,than actually replying)
for nigerians abroad,i honestly don't have any excuse for theirs,guess we can put it down to the nigerian thing or personality traits that some nigerians have and others don't