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Ndipe (m)
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I just don't get it, if a guy is a mommy's boy, some women frown upon it and possibly see the mother of the guy as a threat. The term connotates a negative feeling of being tied to your mom's apron strings. While strictly not a mother's boy, I know that my mom and I had a very close relationship that at one point, that I used to plan on taking care of her in her old age. When I broached the discussion to my cousin, he asked me what my reaction would be if my significant other were to oppose it?
On the other hand, almost all girls in America, particularly those from the upper crust strata wear the term "Daddy's girl" with a badge of honor. And while some men may be threatened by the thoughts of their teenage daughters going on dates, or even offering to escort them (ok, I have never heard of that), society, I would think would applaud the concept of a woman being doted on by her father, while frowning on a man being catered to by his mother.
Why is that?
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ikamefa (f)
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@topic could you clarify mummy's boy?  mummy's boy as in loving your mum to bits caring for her, but being able to separate the love of mama from that of a wife, and not putting one above the other? OR mummy's boy as in when mama says JUMP! you ask how high ma?  , she is able to twist you around her little pinky,nobody else comes above her(in some cases she is richer than you )so c o s of your future inheritance  you don't want to annoy mama so as not to be LEFT-OUT of the will, so she rides you and your wife like a horse see personally i would go for the guy in the 1st scenario, c o s a guy who loves and cares for his 'ma and has got his priorities straight, would love and cherish his wife (a big assumption here ). this is one trait most girls look for when looking for a mate! in my opinion aint nuffin wrong being a mama's-boy as long as you 've got your ish! right. |
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Ndipe (m)
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Quite amazing that women are the ones who are quick to tear their contemporaries in pieces. And I ask again, why can't the same be said of "Daddy's girl"? Why does society bat an eyelid when a guy is a 'mummy's boy', but wholeheartedly approves of a girl being a 'daddy's girl'?
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almondjoy (f)
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Because daddy's girls are more motivated than mommy's boys. It is advantageous to "hook" up with a daddy's girl anytime anyday because a girl learns a lot from her father without jeopardizing her future relationships. Daddies rarely interfere in their daughters' relationships. Daughters can easily cut those strings too. But for a boy? Latching on too long to mama's apron can be not so beneficial. Mothers tend to be more competitive and meddlesome in their sons' lives with serious potential problems in the future if the guys decides to make their mamas their wives instead of the other way round. Especially if you encounter the "Patience Ozokwos" of this planet for mothers with wimpy sons.
Bottom line--daddy's girls combinations are less threatening than mommy's boys set ups. More relationships or marriages crumble with the latter than the former.
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Ndipe (m)
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Sorry, there are some fathers who are extremely overprotective of their daughter, particularly in the uppercrust strata, to the point that even guys are intimidated of dating their daughters.
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almondjoy (f)
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True, but generally speaking, mommies' boys threaten more damage to relationships and marriages than daddies' girls.
Fathers are usually protective of their daughters out of genuine concern for their safety because "men" are more rational about such things. Most fathers do not encourage their daughters to leave their marriages and go marry other husbands do they? Mothers on the other hand would gladly encourage the "mommies boys" to get rid of their mates and find replacements as it soothes them. Little room for compromise because they are control freaks! Most mommies' boys are weak-minded and cannot really speak for themselves.
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disea (f)
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Why, because they can be destructive of other peoples lives. I made a terrible mistake of having children with a "mummy's boy". He has always put his mother first before myself. His parents were divorced when he was 12 years old and his mother never re-married. He has been like a husband to his mother and still is at the age of 40. His mother gives him everything - they run a business together, have the same bank account - and it was myself that told him he could not live with his mother forever. His mother bought him a house and told me I would never go there because she owned half of it. She has never wanted to see much of her grandchildren either. I thought I could change this mummy's boy - but he will always put his mother first - and his mother has done everything in her power to keep me out of his life. Written below is a comment I received on another site regarding my situation.
Children who are deprived of proper attention , emotional support , real care that costs , by either parent has injured the relationship, and placed the dollar and a lifestyle so far removed from relationships, that I see it all too often , they end their latter years with no feelings, and /or no valued true family.
In fact they are not attached to, nor living in the real world. For arrogance and lack of real meaning in life is their end reward. And when Mummy passes on, ???
Where is the 'son'. His wealth attached to a lie , will be a certainty " Beware your sin's will find you out." A very powerful statement, and a truism.
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mellow (m)
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I think I concur with you there.
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