Marriage And The Sickle Cell Genotype Issue

I think i have a lot of experience with the whole sickle cell issue and can relate to a lot of do's and don't's & give my own honest & spiritual belief to the whole issue.

God is a father of choices, if u have genuine love & honesty with each other , u should be together. Any doubt in your love or ability to stay together, move on and seperate peacefully. Although, i feel that you should always tell all genetic traits, interests, values etc as early as possible.

My sweet/ sad story,
Was in a relationship for 5 and a half years, the last 4yrs living together with the intention of getting married (literarily saving & advancing our careers to pay for a wedding ourselves), parents told me to check her genotype, told them that she had it done in nigeria and she's not sure of accuracy, but recalls it being AA

Told my parents that we would deal with all circumstances when it arises, how stupid i was to trust someone else other than God.

An SS cousin came on holiday (having wealthy parents with dad being a doctor) and died back in nigeria a week after. It prompted her to retest & she turned to be AS as well.
Her family & friends auto switched off & insisted we part , months after, she decided that she had to move on as we disagreed on the important topic,
What to do if the 25% chance occurs?, she wanted to keep at all costs with tears (optimistic), i wanted a test and abort( realist), our families wanted us to part at all costs( pessimist),

My personal view, if u both love each other & are perfect for each other, pain , suffering , difficult decisions, life's challenges would make u stronger each time,
If u both like each other a lot but not love, or one loves and the other doesn't, u should part ways.

AA+ SS, just prepare yourself in the worst of times for your hubby's passing & agree next steps, will, moving on etc, be smart with each other not stupid

AS+SS, don't u dare
AS+AS,  only if your love is strong enough, personally, i believe medical science is meant to guide our choices rather than be a definite for choices,

Take for example, my ex marries an AA, but the first kid or one of them is diagnosed early with downes syndrome or some serious mental/physical defect,  would she not be faced with the same problem?
If she keeps the baby with the second best man,she would struggle ,
If she takes a doc's advice of not keeping the baby, aborting would make her remember me,
If she learns of a medical breakthrough in 10 years time or the hubby turns into a monster, she would definately remember me

A woman has a bigger chance of a miscarriage nowadays in the western world than problems after an abortion

God is Love and love is ,    SELFLESSNESS
                                    ,   SACRIFICE
                                    ,   COMMITMENT      and finally
                                    ,   CONTEMPT

God never intends for us to settle for second best , stop the relationship as early as possible but if there is true love and agreed values, stay together

As for me, the next partner has to have same values, love GOD, love me and DOESNT HAVE TO BE AA or even african, as there would always be something in life that would make us all imperfect, challenges to face , bad habits to live with sacrifices to make

@snairegin

Its sad when both partners turn out to be AS, but it becomes bloody murder if they go ahead and concieve.

Unless you condone abortion, there is no excuse for playing heads-or-tails with the life of your unborn child.

Downs syndrome etc are natural disasters, like hurricanes or floods, that cannot be predicted or escaped. AS+AS giving SS is totally different, since the parents valued their love over the life of their child.

simple solution:AS+AS= do not do it. DOnt do it!!!! NEVER! Marry if you must but do NOT concieve a child! If you concieve and the child is not SS, its not the grace of God for you, it is God SAVING your child from YOUR EVIL.