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kooldamsel (f)
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Girls please whats up with "he broke my heart,he jilted me"?Please,when he starts acting indifferently just end it.Seriously,it prevents the pain of rejection on your part.Some guys are hardcore playas,i'm not saying you should join the "two can play the game league" but its obvious he doesnt want you,so why push it.I guess same goes for the guys or what do you think.   |
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efuah (f)
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yeah, like i always say; waste not your time on things that are not worth it. sometimes we see the signs coming. . . n mostly ladies, turn blind eye . . waiting for him to forever change. hehehehe . . "before u think, i have thought" i will say goodbye before u even open your mouth   |
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Joey82 (m)
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Sometimes the boyz are smarter and u know u can't beat the reach, they make u see nothing coming at all and all of a sudden its good bye. At times, even if the ladies see the signs coming they feel they can change the situation with time (but isnt that what love is all about?; making people what u want them 2 b) between, your thread is anti male, aint we welcome? even the poll u desiogned up there is strictly feminine  |
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kooldamsel (f)
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@Efuah
Thanx my sis.How are you anyway?
@joey
Its all about the girls,you can post your comments and place ursef in our shoes n go 4 d polls.
For your info,GIRLS ARE BECOMING VERY SMART because the guys have hardened their hearts.Ive not suffered a heart break before,thanx to my policy n i will never
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Joey82 (m)
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@kooldamsel
Dont beat your hand on your chest yet because even as i don't wish u any heart breaks, u may likely meet a guy that will definitely out smart u.
Could b d 1 u've relaxed thinking u've won all his love that will turn to bite u off.
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2dye4 (m)
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is it that being the one to pull d plug on a relationship makes d pain go away cause i believe if u wanted d relationship that much, u still would still feel some heartbreak however mild
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efuah (f)
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@Efuah
Thanx my sis.How are you anyway?
am fine love  Joey, hw far? hehehehe all of us can be smart dear |
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havanah
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well if every time a guy gets indifferent u leave him u'll never stay in a relationship long enough to go further than the dating part people have ups and downs, there are so many things in life that could make a person distant or preoccupied that doesnt mean that he or (she) is indiffrent or thinking about leaving if u do want to fall in love u have to take your chances and give the other side thiers and believe me if u do fall deeply in love u'll find that it is worth it even if it ends with a broken heart  there r no guarantees in life and u shouldnt expect it in relation ships after all its for better and worse |
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2dye4 (m)
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" and believe me if u do fall deeply in love u'll find that it is worth it even if it ends with a broken heart " i definitely agree.  |
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kooldamsel (f)
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I'm not sayin you jilt all guys but when the signs are there that he doesnt want you,just end it.I believe no one wants rejection n d guy deserves it(or d lady) for playin games instead of quittin it at once.
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Joey82 (m)
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@kooldamsel, sometimes what u see as a sign to ending a r/ship might just be a your guy's way to spice up the r/ship or a way to test how jealous and caring u can be (don't want to sight examples anyway). I don't know about u but as 4 me, d most exciting time i've ever had in a r/ship is coming out of what initially lookd like jittering, if i choose your way, i'll always be on my toes picking faults and looking 4 a way to turn the bags first, but u always have to relax and assume nothing is going to happen (trust) while the r/ship lasts. @efuah i'm cool  and as usual, i'll not forget to ask after your hubby n baby boy. |
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jkpretty (f)
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wow some of people r making sense here @Havannah word! seriously, guys not only guys people have their peak & off peak periods, i'm going through some phase now that i think he's not showing love like he used to. When i threathened a break up, he said "u are going no where, u are here to stay" while i was busy working on my break up with him and he still did somethings that made me say to myself "give yourself a brain". my point: Some times they are going through somethings that makes the excitement in your relationship slowdown, if u are really in love u need to watch & pray for the best. if not u'll lose count of people u've dated. |
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yimiton (f)
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Yes!
I totally agree the poster.
When he starts finding faults where there used to be none, doesn't call as often as he used to, stop buying presents, your dress sense suddenly not good enough, not keeping to dates, becoming suddenly very quiet and angry, then, it's time to jilt him and fast too!
Don't let him give you and 'I think we need to talk' nonsence, tell him first, and walk out with your head held high.
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Joey82 (m)
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Yes!
I totally agree the poster.
When he starts finding faults where there used to be none, doesn't call as often as he used to, stop buying presents, your dress sense suddenly not good enough, not keeping to dates, becoming suddenly very quiet and angry, then, it's time to jilt him and fast too!
Don't let him give you and 'I think we need to talk' nonsence, tell him first, and walk out with your head held high.
unless u don't love him, u can never work out of a r/ship with your head held high when it is not even your making in the first place. |
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Raji A (m)
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My own point of view is that when there is strange behaviour from your guy call him or her and ask what is the problem, if there is no +ve answer, then u shuld no that problem is coming on the way. u either run or u seek 4 advise. Bcos jilt is not something we pray for.
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jkpretty (f)
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Now the thing is:
Whether u quickly jilt him before he jilts u or not, point stil boils down to d fact that u know deep down in your heart, that it was stil from him. But truly, if u are in love, there's no pride there. I'll let him know i loved him even on that day he said good bye. There's is this way u feel ok wit your self, and no matter what, he'll always remember this, even when he's wit someone else.
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efuah (f)
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Oh prettyyyyy u have a heart O! hmm . . God help me |
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yimiton (f)
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Emm. . . . Maybe I've got no feelings!
I sincerly think there's no point going on your knees when it is clear the guy does not want you anymore
I'll rather walk out and he comes after me if he still wants in the relationship. Even a call from him could make a lot of difference. I hate humaliation and would rather cry on my pillow than make a guy feel he's still in a relationship with me because I 'begged' him to stay. Like out out pity.
I really wouldn't do that, no matter how much I love him. My elder sister used to say, 'let him go, if he truly belongs to you, he'll get back to you'
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yimiton (f)
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@ Efua,
I feel you. Some of our ladies do have hearts.
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Joey82 (m)
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oh yimiton, ure so feminine, why must d guy always run after u, why not stay put.
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yimiton (f)
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Oh Joey82,
Because they enjoy it more that way. It makes you thick and it makes guys feel you're confident and independent.
Spoiling your guy a little now and again is OK but
Ever listen to irritable by Beyonce?
Guys never leave girls like that!
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Joey82 (m)
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yimiton,
don't even bring in beyonce's song in this matter because i hate her arrogance in that track u mentioned, besides those are mere cating and should not be taken in to real sense.
between,
its not every gue that likes to b spoiled every now and then, it makes life suck
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yimiton (f)
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Joey82,
OK, Beyonce's song out.
But I still maintain my stand on this issue.
What I mean by spoiling him is making him feel like your world revolves round him, like 'oh my gosh, I'm so happy I've got you in my life' sort of thing and meaning every single word you say or every single action you perform.
Just pamper him, nice gifts now and then but if he flops, let him know you could just walk out and not be the worse for it. With an air of 'I'm cool, I don't need you in my life to stay that way.
Guess what, he'll give you that call you just might be waiting for!
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tonia2000 (f)
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Ladies should learn to be strong sometimes,i can't wait until a guy tells me to go its rather insulting.Women aren't supposed to be treated like beggars,if your relationship is having too many problems that u can't handle plssssssssss leave before one guy jilts u  . |
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Scopium (m)
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Ever listen to irritable by Beyonce?
I'm sorry is this a new song? I've not heard it before. Jilting because turn of events forced you to when you really cherished the affair always leaves you with a tiny feeling of loss. You just lost one. If things are no longer at ease in your relationship you can just fall apart. I mean you can just jilt to clean up the filth |
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Joey82 (m)
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but if he flops, let him know you could just walk out and not be the worse for it. With an air of 'I'm cool, I don't need you in my life to stay that way./quote]
now i understand u and your stand here is different from saying u jilted first, infact its not jiltering at all |
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bababs (m)
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in my case, am searching 4 courage to call off the relationship not necessarrily to jilt. she heard certain things about ma going out wit a girl in the neighbourhood n never bothered to tell me. rather, she refued talking to me n answering ma calls.infact she even embarrased me on the road one day. tho weve resolved d issue, bt d relationshipis not the same again. am just praying 4 d right time n atmosphere to call it quits before she does
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efuah (f)
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yimi so u dey? av bn sick . . n u call yaself my big sis aight? |
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yimiton (f)
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yimi so u dey? av bn sick . . n u call yaself my big sis aight? @ Efua, I'm sorry My Love, I guess that homing pigeon we sent lost her way. I'll keep in touch with you henceforth, our sisterly love shall ever wax stronger.
@ Joey Now, we understand each other. |
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Easybaby (f)
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@efuah,how bodi now? hope you,re ok now? please, don't sick o
thanks for your wishes to me
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Joey82 (m)
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yes yimiton, we do.
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yimiton (f)
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@ Joey82,
I'm glad we do, but what if . . . in some situations, that call never comes?? who jilted who first?
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