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carbonate (m)
Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« on: March 21, 2006, 12:40 AM »

Are Women Always Confused?

This female, who has been separated from her ex for some months, still has all the cards, presents and basically everything from the relationship still out in the open.  She still uses his pet name for a few things but doesnt holla at him at all.  No calls, no meeting, nothing

What does it mean?
carbonate (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #1 on: March 21, 2006, 12:44 AM »

like wheneva they talk she is brief, always cold n generally acts like 'iron maiden' With all these tings out in d open and still having d pics n all d memories. Has she truely moved on or is she deceiving her self? Is it possible 2 move on like that, wid all that stuff not affectn u. Also when asked 2 return pictures, refuses too and yet acts like your d last person on earth she would want 2 talk 2! I mean this is a true story,  is it jst a solitary case or all gals r like this @ times. Ne clues about wots going on?  Grin
2cantango (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #2 on: March 21, 2006, 12:49 AM »

It's possible that she's not ready to let go. She may know it's over, but to actually put away all those things she has left out around her, that will be what makes it 'real' to her. It is said that the end of a relationship can be felt as deeply as the death of someone, I think she's just coping with it in her own way.
Zahymaka (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #3 on: March 21, 2006, 01:34 AM »

Methinks she's trying to show she's still friends with him even though they're no longer "more than friends." I t's better than some relationships that end with open animosity on both sides.
carbonate (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #4 on: March 22, 2006, 10:55 PM »

oi! doesnt anyone else have any opinions on this,  come on  Undecided
jogego (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #5 on: March 23, 2006, 10:33 PM »

 girl is living in denial land,
oasis
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #6 on: March 24, 2006, 12:50 AM »

Women are an enigma.  They communicate by signals, rather than verbally.  So, it's up to the ex to decode those cryptic signals, and take the appropriate action.

Worse still, this kind of kooky behavior varies from woman to woman.  So, only somebody who's been around a particular woman can predict her messages to any degree of accuracy.
idiot (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #7 on: March 24, 2006, 01:25 AM »

women are evil,

they get a man to sell his soul buying them thousands of dollars worth engagement rings,

then when they end the relationship, they have the gall to actually keep the ring as if it were a GIFT.

I'd say, all men should have compromising photos of their women taken after engagement as a gift.
Tetris (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #8 on: March 24, 2006, 03:38 PM »

Quote from: idiot on March 24, 2006, 01:25 AM
women are evil,

they get a man to sell his soul buying them thousands of dollars worth engagement rings,

then when they end the relationship, they have the gall to actually keep the ring as if it were a GIFT.

I'd say, all men should have compromising photos of their women taken after engagement as a gift.

your user-name most accurately depicts your wit judging by your input.
get over your bad experience (if at all) and become a better person.
lauren804 (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #9 on: March 24, 2006, 05:30 PM »

haha i did that for my boyfriend once and i gave him the ring back but i never got the pics back ! gerr ,  the things i have learnd !
Bright2 (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #10 on: March 24, 2006, 06:37 PM »

So far as u are  not  holding his life,u can have those  things it's allowed CARRY GO.
carbonate (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #11 on: March 24, 2006, 08:51 PM »

lol @ tetris! allow d guy nw, guess he's here 2 jst stir up some s**t!
Rhodalyn (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #12 on: March 24, 2006, 10:01 PM »

she's still got some feelings for him, still has memories of him, memories she'll never forget
Free (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #13 on: March 24, 2006, 11:41 PM »

yeaa she definately still got feeling for him, if ya'll break up let it GO,  Grin
Zahymaka (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #14 on: March 25, 2006, 12:12 AM »

The man might have misbehaved before they broke up -- thus although she still loves him the momentoes are there to serve as a reminder, both of the sweet time they shared and of the fact that after giving so many gifts, he misbehaved.

If they're very precious things like gold or diamonds do you expect her to get rid of them?
idiot (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #15 on: March 25, 2006, 05:47 PM »

Quote from: Zahymaka on March 25, 2006, 12:12 AM
The man might have misbehaved before they broke up -- thus although she still loves him the momentoes are there to serve as a reminder, both of the sweet time they shared and of the fact that after giving so many gifts, he misbehaved.

If they're very precious things like gold or diamonds do you expect her to get rid of them?

An engagement ring is not a memento or reminder, it is a representation of the promise to get married.  No matter whose fault the engagement ends, it should be returned.

Even barring that, engagement rings tend to costs thousands of dollars.  If women make a habit of keeping them even after they've decided to end the engagement, then men should NOT buy any such things till after the marriage.  It doesn't make sense to me to throw money away in that manner.
Zahymaka (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #16 on: March 25, 2006, 06:01 PM »

An engagement ring is a gift -- or do you expect your friend to return all gifts you gave him/her when you quarrel no matter how expensive it is? That's pettiness.
idiot (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #17 on: March 25, 2006, 06:10 PM »

An engagement ring is not a gift.

In case you don't know, gifts are things given out of love, w/o any expectation of anything in return.

An engagement ring is "required" by most women, and is given in expectation of getting married.

It is definitely not a gift.
lauren804 (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #18 on: March 28, 2006, 05:01 PM »

Quote from: idiot on March 25, 2006, 06:10 PM
An engagement ring is not a gift.

In case you don't know, gifts are things given out of love, w/o any expectation of anything in return.

An engagement ring is "required" by most women, and is given in expectation of getting married.

It is definitely not a gift.


dito , my mom taught me don't say i do till i see a ring lol ,  . but    i think that every one has it all mixed up ,    i think u should get a band then a dimond
carbonate (m)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #19 on: March 28, 2006, 06:11 PM »

An engagement ring isn't a gift. Its something that has to be returned if for any reason the wedding does not hold. Unless the two parties marry then get divorced, that is the only time it doesn't have 2 b returned. Such is life,  Grin
mamaput (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #20 on: March 28, 2006, 06:36 PM »

I keep things too.
Only when i break up i pack them away.Till am over the relationship.
I once gave a man back everything he gave me. The good stuff expensive jewelery.
Today i see it as a mistake,.
gem87 (f)
Re: Separated From Her Ex, But Holds On To His Stuff
« #21 on: April 06, 2006, 12:40 AM »

baby girl is still hung up, she shld gather the liver n go bck.
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