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nwando
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #128 on: March 07, 2008, 09:03 PM »

Quote from: 4 Play on March 07, 2008, 08:54 PM
Na drive-by toasting or ride-by toasting.

Even walk by.
Nigerian men can be a little reserved sometimes but these African American,Carribbean and Haitian men can be as tenacious as a bulldog.
They don't know what NO is.

One that stalked me to a bank,waited patiently as I completed my transactions,followed me outside still persistent.
I even lied and told him I was happily married (was engaged then) he responded that my husband didn't have to know.
He added that he too was married,I couldn't believe it
D-reloaded (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #129 on: March 07, 2008, 09:05 PM »

Carribeans esp Jamaicans are the bloody worst. Disgusting.  Angry

I know we tend to say Nigerian men are such cheats but compared to Carribean men, no comparision. Those people are ridiculous.

nwando
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #130 on: March 07, 2008, 09:08 PM »

Quote from: D-reloaded on March 07, 2008, 09:05 PM
Carribeans esp Jamaicans are the bloody worst. Disgusting. Angry

Thanks for confirming this,I thought it was just me.
nwando
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #131 on: March 07, 2008, 09:11 PM »

Carribbean men have absolutely no concept of loyalty.
The married ones openely and blatantly flirt and date cleaners and secretaries in offices.
They have no shame whatsoever.
I know adultery is adultery but at least hide it small now
for where.
stillwater (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #132 on: March 07, 2008, 09:17 PM »

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Carribbean men have absolutely no concept of loyalty.
The married ones openely and blatantly flirt and date cleaners and secretaries in offices.
They have no shame whatsoever.
I know adultery is adultery but at least hide it small now
for where.

seconded!!!!!!!!
D-reloaded (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #133 on: March 07, 2008, 09:18 PM »

I know of 4 co-workers, 3 Jamaican, 1 Trini. All 4, deceased fathers, tell me why they suddenly found out that they had outside siblings during their father's funerals.
Radiant (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #134 on: March 07, 2008, 09:27 PM »

  Embarrassed
Man Jiro (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #135 on: March 07, 2008, 09:46 PM »

For the Babes on this forum

The most pathetic person is the one that believes he/she is the most outstanding person and fails to see his/her own flaws and work towards correcting them. If you play "too" hard to get two options are possible after you agree:

          1. The guy might see your true self and be contented with it
          2. The guy might see your true self and not be happy with it: you gave him an unsually high expectation about your values only for him to discover that you don't really have them.


Relationship is a two way thing: it takes two. Our Nigerian culture has sort of given some babes a wrong impression.

It should be about you trying to be the perfect wife and also the guy trying to be the perfect husband. If one person is lacking, a strain will exist. It is really possible for one person to bear the strain for a long time. If you, causing the strain is not "too lucky" a time will come when the other person will start drifting away. If he/she meets another person at that time: yawa go gas

The LCM is everything (from a matured perspective) you know will make you happy, do the same to your partner, also go out your way to please your partner: irrespective of if you are a guy or babe.   If you dey "front" for your guy/babe, how long you wan do am?
D-reloaded (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #136 on: March 07, 2008, 09:49 PM »

well i don't think people should be "fronting" once they accepted t9o being in a relationship with the other

It's the whole madness before that where such actions make sense. If while you are IN the relationship, accepted the guy or girl as yours balh blah and you're still playing games, then there's a problem somewhere
nwando
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #137 on: March 07, 2008, 09:51 PM »

Quote from: D-reloaded on March 07, 2008, 09:18 PM
I know of 4 co-workers, 3 Jamaican, 1 Trini. All 4, deceased fathers, tell me why they suddenly found out that they had outside siblings during their father's funerals.

and the women are no better.
Their wives can take a sexual break from their husbands and go and have a baby with another man and jejely return to continue the marriage from where she stopped. Shocked Shocked Shocked

I don't understand those people.
you can see a married woman with children of same last name as husband and a couple in the middle with other last names.
Sisikill
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #138 on: March 07, 2008, 09:51 PM »

Quote
Quote from: 4Him on Today at 07:15:02 PM
We always listen. If you think we don't its because you people are never plain.


Never plain? When did No become "never plain"?

Lol, Oh my! haven't you heard, NO is the new "playing hard to get" in Guyinese That's why they tell you, "Oh you don't mean that". The very idea that you might not be interested is inconceivable.

@ Poster
It's Life, I guess.
Sisikill
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #139 on: March 07, 2008, 10:02 PM »

Quote
4Him

  Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #99 on: Today at 08:21:48 PM » 

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Quote from: stillwater on Today at 08:18:42 PM
Never plain? When did No become "never plain"?


How many women really say No and mean it? 
 


Tee hee
Sisikill
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #140 on: March 07, 2008, 10:20 PM »

Quote from: 4Him on Today at 08:26:37 PM
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Sometimes No means try harder or "you're on standby till the present jerk leaves" or "i'm not sure". It makes no sense to leave at the first sign of No.

Tee hee hee, oy!

stillwater (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #141 on: March 07, 2008, 10:23 PM »

Who is tickling you there? Undecided Huh
ivanX7
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #142 on: March 07, 2008, 10:36 PM »

after the chase what else is there?Huh

nothin else except that

if d guy truly likes the girl then they become friends/companions
and a relationship will most likely develop

if not then its "gone baby gone"

for me relationships start after getting to aso rock if i can stand u after sex then thers a fair chance we can
date


Sisikill
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #143 on: March 07, 2008, 10:47 PM »

LOL, aren't the comments enough to tickle a girl's funny bone? I tell ya, you can't help but love our Naija men, they take so much pride in their wrongness. It's a thing of beauty. Seriously!
jimicj
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #144 on: March 07, 2008, 11:03 PM »

first of all, what is it with ladies believing that the guy should do all the work in a relationship, he was chasing and anybody would know that he was only trying to impress the girl. so the call 5 times a day (how ridiculous) can't continue. whats there to talk about 5 times everyday.

two, too many ladies are dull, no spark and no vibe. Their idea of fun, go out eat eat eat and drink on the guy's tab. Not bad for a toaster but ultimately unnerving for a young man maintaining a girlfriend.

three, many ladies do not know that for guys its the little things that count like learning the names of his fav team players, knowing how to relate with his friends, not flirting just being good fun.

four, next thing is this, when the guy who still likes her but also likes fun starts to go out what does she do? she begins to nag, knowing that she's poor fun for a fun-loving guy, but what does she care anyway? she wants him with her while she bores him to death with aimless talk.

in all, they find that they can't hold the guys interest and what do they do? start accusing him of cheating, which he will do eventually , after all why not just do it and still get accused of cheating


my verdict, ITS THE WOMAN'S FAULT IN THE END
Cue (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #145 on: March 07, 2008, 11:10 PM »

u guys set standards in guys minds about yourself during the chase that u never measure up to afterwards.that is d fact.but some level headed girls try to be your friend while gettin 2 know u,instead of instigatin a lot of make-believe and pretence even on both sides.The worst part is that in d process,they don't allow guys to be themselves.And woe betide u,the chase ends in marriage,then the guy reverts back to his normal self(as noone can keep up with that insensitive behaviour forever)since he has u,then u will start complaininthat he has changed, he never really changed.this is his real self.u end up reapin what u set up 4 yourself
Bay1970 (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #146 on: March 07, 2008, 11:23 PM »

they don get what they want, why more wahala, man go move on.
Sisikill
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #147 on: March 07, 2008, 11:24 PM »

ITS THE WOMAN'S FAULT IN THE END

Yeah! Those darn women, when are they going to get it? A relationship with TWO people needs the effort of only ONE person to last. I swear, I'm thinking of making t-shirts with that slogan.
Mangod (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #148 on: March 07, 2008, 11:42 PM »

What do you expect after chopping her yam!, ladies don't be too much in a hurry to open your legs wide, get to know your man more
nwando
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #149 on: March 07, 2008, 11:50 PM »

Quote from: jimicj on March 07, 2008, 11:03 PM
first of all, what is it with ladies believing that the guy should do all the work in a relationship, he was chasing and anybody would know that he was only trying to impress the girl. so the call 5 times a day (how ridiculous) can't continue. whats there to talk about 5 times everyday.

two, too many ladies are dull, no spark and no vibe. Their idea of fun, go out eat eat eat and drink on the guy's tab. Not bad for a toaster but ultimately unnerving for a young man maintaining a girlfriend.

three, many ladies do not know that for guys its the little things that count like learning the names of his fav team players, knowing how to relate with his friends, not flirting just being good fun.

four, next thing is this, when the guy who still likes her but also likes fun starts to go out what does she do? she begins to nag, knowing that she's poor fun for a fun-loving guy, but what does she care anyway? she wants him with her while she bores him to death with aimless talk.

in all, they find that they can't hold the guys interest and what do they do? start accusing him of cheating, which he will do eventually , after all why not just do it and still get accused of cheating


my verdict, ITS THE WOMAN'S FAULT IN THE END

Typical !!!
Everything is the womans fault.

when he beats her,she caused him to do it
If his business is not doing well,she brought him bad luck
If they don't have kids,she must have done plenty abortions
They have only daughters,she can't bear sons.
His mother is sick,she must be a witch
Then when he dies,she killed him

woman get power so? Shocked
KDB (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #150 on: March 08, 2008, 12:01 AM »

havent y'all got anythin better to argue about??

man meets woman, woman forms so man has to peel some egusi, man gets woman, hence has to peel less egusi,

its jus been like than man, deal with it!!!! Cool Cool
KDB (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #151 on: March 08, 2008, 12:03 AM »

havent y'all got anythin better to argue about??

man meets woman, woman forms so man has to peel some egusi, man gets woman, hence has to peel less egusi,

its jus been like than man, deal with it!!!! Cool Cool
vkt3344 (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #152 on: March 08, 2008, 12:15 AM »

Talkatives
Are u people not tired of talking?
All of the girls just dey talk say make there fella try harder before giving in for the guy but do u realise that u are not supposed to have sex outside marriage?
Una go just dey talk talk, una don come turn una way of life like london girls
nwando
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #153 on: March 08, 2008, 12:16 AM »

 Huh Huh
stillwater (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #154 on: March 08, 2008, 12:18 AM »

Quote from: nwando on March 07, 2008, 11:50 PM
Typical !!!
Everything is the womans fault.

when he beats her,she caused him to do it
If his business is not doing well,she brought him bad luck
If they don't have kids,she must have done plenty abortions
They have only daughters,she can't bear sons.
His mother is sick,she must be a witch
Then when he dies,she killed him

woman get power so? Shocked

Don't mind him ,jare!!

Leave her alone now if you don't like her shortcomings, For where? They still make the same mistake of falling for the same type of girl over and over again, then they come on nairaland crying meanwhile the problem lie in them.
You guys should change yourselves before you ask for change in us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tongue
Radiant (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #155 on: March 08, 2008, 12:31 AM »

Quote from: Sisikill on March 07, 2008, 10:47 PM
you can't help but love our Naija men, they take so much pride in their wrongness. It's a thing of beauty. Seriously!

So, that's the beauty? Try playing with your balls,you should feel better.

Jimicj, were u raised in the woods?

Quote from: KDB on March 08, 2008, 12:03 AM
havent y'all got anythin better to argue about??

I wonder why you're here.

BO, got that right. So pathetic
Radiant (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #156 on: March 08, 2008, 12:35 AM »

Quote from: vkt3344 on March 08, 2008, 12:15 AM
Una go just dey talk talk, una don come turn una way of life like london girls

How many days ago did you arrive in London? Smiley
chrysler (m)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #157 on: March 08, 2008, 12:38 AM »

guys loose interest after chasing because they hav gt wt they wanted YOU of course. Then they start to relax and think she is always dere no need 2 call her.If you're like me den u take it and dnt say nothin because you're 2 nice but den u gt fed up of waiting and u lash out and start pickin a fight at every oppurtunity, but ladies this is nt d best way to do it.The best way is in the beginning both of u call each other and u keep it 2 sided because most my naija sisters 4gt ,so when he does nt call u call him n ask him wts up and if he continues den u lay down d ground rules must men want hear this bt u should no your man's weakest spot by nw!!!!!!
Sisikill
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #158 on: March 08, 2008, 02:20 AM »

Quote from: Radiant on March 08, 2008, 12:31 AM
So, that's the beauty? Try playing with your balls,you should feel better.

Aaayin? Huh
morenike09 (f)
Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
« #159 on: March 08, 2008, 02:37 AM »

@post
i guess its because they see it as a game well played they were not really interested . . and since they won the game (heard what they needed to hear) and they know that they can have you, then they can have any girltherefore, they'll want to explore others and play the same game, but with a new player  Tongue
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