Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?

can't understand why calls and text messages are now the parameters for judging the status of relationships. question is hw did our parents survive it all without cell phones et al? where did this addictive habit come from-like calls and sms are now hard drugs or something.

You know that's not true; is from the ladies

d call situatn is eitherway, it:s either he got tired 1st, or she got tired 1st. wot haooened 2 me was that my income dropped and i could"nt afford d luxury of loading my phone as before, it sent wrong signal 2 ha, all my explanatn turned on deaf ear, i stopped trying 2 explain and concentrated on gettn my purse heavy again. now if she will contribute 2 this topic, she will say i lost interest in ha because i have [DEBEE] which is quite wrong.

Why are the guys afraid to say the truth?  Is not very simple?  That guy that gave the Yankari Game reserve example was spot on.  That is just the truth.

@Nwando, I've read every single post on this thread, and I think you are very objective even when it does not favor you.  That is not a compliment anyways, it's just the simple truth.

Seun,
        thanks for bringing every one of us together, although have been away for some time now but am back by the special grace of God.  Guys lose interest in relationships after chasing a girl  because, the first time you meet a lady you will have that special interest in her. by the you go to her again she will be tell you that she has already have her own guy, she will want you to come like 10times before she agree, but guys don't have that time to waste is either she says yea or she leave.

I believe we can sit here all day and try to speculate who to blame, but the fact remains that the guy just wasnt right for you.if u find the guy that loves you and you love him back, he doesnt loose interest don't matter how boring you are.(and this goes to all of us both guys and gals). THIS QUESTION used to baffle me too until i decided no matter how hard you try if "he aint right for you then he aint"

Some gals play hard to get,yes but how about the ones that don't.
some gals don't return calls and some do etc
the loss of interest thing happens to us all.
Except the really lucky ones.

Quit trying to figure,just be yourself and pray to God.
But most importantly,if you were to agree to date a guy,do it with fear of God.

NO ONE is to blame not the guys and definately not the girls.
Shit Happens!

 Sweetie. You say that men do the calling and thjey should continue. You are being selfish here. You never mentioned how many times u call back. Dont u know that u also have the power to ssustain the relationship if u want to? Every reasonable man would loose interest in such relationship 

Simple.

The thrill of the kill is in the chase.

Two.
Men are simply built as hunters.

Have you ever wondered why men don't use their guns on goats and cows but will waste nights in the forest chasing ordinary rabbits?

. . . Because the goat and the cow are already conquered by man.

Indeed, the thrill of the kill is in the grill of the chase!

Gbam

 :)hmmm, wot better person to respond to such a question than hatbreaker,

i think it all depends on ones expectations at the beginning of a relationship,
at the beginning of a chase a guy may have good intentions,but if the chase gets too long,he may well jus want to get back for the stress she put him through.and depending on his 'good' intentions which most times are bad, u in for it girl, but if he dosent call as much as he used to, theres hope, kindle the fire''  but if he stops calling, girl , move on!!! , he's just not that into you no more!!

try read cathy freston's book, THE ONE

ta ta

Girl!,  you would probably find out that girls become a fish bone once they have said yes.
They believe that just by saying yes means they have a right to the guy's emotions, thoughts, time, money and energy.
If a guy begin to loose interest, check yourself, what are you doing now that you were not doing then!!!

she was saying NO initially, now she has said YES!!!

 

 It is very unfortunate that most ladies do not really appreciate what guys went through to have them. Guys will always lose interest as long as the lady in question shows unpatrotic attitude. Imagine ,you have shown her that you are dead serious(to marry her) and there 's nothing on earth that you can't give her. Despite all these ,she is unconcerned.She calls and even send sms to others Guys in your presence.
Even if you are a Romeo,seeing all these you will lose interest irrespective of any amount you have spent on or for her.
Infact , I don't need to sleep with  a lady if i really care for her. Of a truth, I will hate you if I do except if i really love her.
So most of the problem in any relationship emanated from ladies. 
    
 

I am personally very guilty of this accusation of taking the back foot after the girl u have chased for so long a time finally agrees.
well at least am honest to admit it,
i still don't know the reason why its like that

 ;DWell if you ask me i will say that ladies are impossible.  It takes a lot of tolerance to cope with a lady especially after the first 6 months like you rightly said. It is at this time that they start feeling comfortable enough with you to show you what they are really made of .  Now before you start blaming it on the guys, check to see if your attitude towards the guy today was the same six months ago, and if at all when he used to call you six times a day, how many times you returned the call.
On the other hand, it does not make sense calling a person five, six times a day because you soon run out of gist and start boring yourselves out. so probably the guy is bored out. Give him time, he is probably trying out another new girl and if you feel you had done the best with him and no one can out do you, no problem he will be back. If Not i will advice you put a vacancy post out front because you are probably out of a relationship for good.

I am a victim of the initial post. The lady i proposed to and she accepted my proposal, is now telling me that she did that out of pity. Can you believe that. I call her most times. She finds it difficult to reture my calls. Her only contribution to the relationship is when she is in need of money. Friends, the annoying part of the whole episode is that everytime she sets her eyes on, she demands money. 'Honey I need money'. My problem is that I have fallen in love with her. I cannot do without her.

A friend of mine advised me to stop calling her. I did that yesterday and for the first time in the relationship, I saw her 6 missed calls. I think I am becoming stronger now. I have decided to move on now without her knowing fully well that the path of the just is like a shining light that shines more as the day approaches.

SALVAGE

Seun summed it all up.

The whole "playing hard to get" scheme has been elevated over and above a sincere, conscious and serious consideration of the person asking you out.

If a lady is not interested in a guy or starting a relationship, she should tell him in no uncertain terms and mean it.

Its really a put-off after all the rigmarole, for the guy to realise that all he was wasting his time on was not what he wanted.

If you, on the other hand, are interested, then by all means , appear to be. The whole playing hard to get thing isn't in vogue anymore.

People don't have enough time in a day to waste anymore.

Besides, like someone already pointed out, why would a guy call you so many times in a day and send various and diverse sms messages without a real acknowledgment from the recipient ?

The missed calls issue may just be coming too late. After the guy had decided to move on .


You have said it all, this is the real thing. Girls, keep your attitude up, You guys know that your population is much more than that of the opposit sex, okay ooo!!!