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nike4luv (f)
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Hey Y'all, I just thought I could share this topic with you guys. See, I live in the UK and this topic doesn't really matter here because white people just fall in love. But since I am a Nigerian, I just want to hear your opinions. If you fall in love with a guy that's a lot older than you, will the relationship last or is it just a waste of time? Personally, I don't think it matters, but I just want your opinions Plus what do I know; I'm just 14  . |
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Seun (m)
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In ' 20 years age difference - does it really matter?' daBlessed asked a very similar question, "would you go out with someone about 20 years older?" Your question, though similar, is a bit different: can such a relationship be expected to last, or will it eventually have to be terminated? My opinion is that such a relationship might even last much longer than one in which they are about the same age, because an older man is more likely to be more experienced, level-headed and financially stable. Like a good father! |
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nike4luv (f)
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Hang on a min..if de guy finds a girl that is de same age as him, certainly, he would dump the younger one because guys mostly want to go for girls that are almost de same age as them..
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diakim (m)
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I think it is the norm for the guy to be older or much older than the lady. And in Nigeria here, such relationships work better than when they are of the same age, just as Seun has rightly said. This is because in this instance, the guy is more mature, and he is more or less ready to settle down.
Provided the guy is not an old man, the relationship is guaranteed to work as long as the lady is interested.
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Chxta (m)
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Large age gaps were for the ancient days. Nowadays, I would say take someone that is not more than 3 years older or younger. So that you'll both grow old together...
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hopy2005 (f)
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Nawaooo, this interestin
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diakim (m)
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@Chxta, what happens when both of them are 50? If they are almost the same age, then the wife will look much older than the husband. Think about this.
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nike4luv (f)
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But don't u think de guy will WANNA GO FOR A GURL HIS OWN AGE..
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hot-angel (f)
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I don't really thin age matters anymore. But don't you think de guy will WANNA GO FOR A GURL HIS OWN AGE..
I don't think the guy would go for a girl is own age if he loves the girl older/younger than him. |
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drbigdaddyg (m)
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nike,
Is very interesting. I would say that depends on the age difference. if he is about 10 years older, compared to your age (14), he is deemed to make the mistake of shunning your relationship maybe in the next 4 years when the heat of adolescency has gotten riden over him. It takes the grace of God for the success of such relationship.
I am saying this on the basis of your age (14). I know the guy might be 24 or anything close to that as the age difference might mean. Girls who have that age advantage
are people who already have got close to 23 when such "love" struck on them....>>>
Ok, check out this match and understand: G23-35. How do u see it? Cool. The guy at that age has swimmed through the wave of adolescency and is planning to settle with someone.
I am not discouraging you but only suggesting that, in such relationship, don't commit yourself so that when such thing starts happening, u don't feel like committing suicide.okay?
Hope to hear more from u
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nike4luv (f)
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"nike,
Is very interesting. I would say that depends on the age difference. if he is about 10 years older, compared to your age (14), he is deemed to make the mistake of shunning your relationship maybe in the next 4 years when the heat of adolescency has gotten riden over him. It takes the grace of God for the success of such relationship.
I am saying this on the basis of your age (14). I know the guy might be 24 or anything close to that as the age difference might mean. Girls who have that age advantage
are people who already have got close to 23 when such "love" struck on them....>>>
Ok, check out this match and understand: G23-35. How do you see it? Cool. The guy at that age has swimmed through the wave of adolescency and is planning to settle with someone.
I am not discouraging you but only suggesting that, in such relationship, don't commit yourself so that when such thing starts happening, you don't feel like committing suicide.okay?
Hope to hear more from you"
Ah..Thanks..but i'm still confused though
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kennyhunnyinn (m)
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A yo
Pretty Demi
Dis is da Split Personality
Well i want to say i support what all da dude n chics are sayin because they said da rite thing well a relationship like this is da best n can be very favourable if u make things work out n u are fun yourself u knw but just knw 1 big thing girl u always remain da best thing that ever eva happen to me Ken
Love u Demi
You are good n stop feelin Inferior kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
love u
from
Kenny Hunny Inn
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hot-angel (f)
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haha lol. both of y'all making me laugh. |
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nike4luv (f)
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girl..wots so funny
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hot-angel (f)
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How he said all those sweet things and you just replied by saying "aights oo". .  It's funny to me. |
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nike4luv (f)
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sweet things huh...hahahahahahaahahahahahah..ok wot u want me to say?
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hot-angel (f)
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Kinda like... "awww...that was so sweet.", [You]not[/You] "aights ooo".
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nike4luv (f)
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u really don't get it..ok ok..aww..that is soo sweet
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hot-angel (f)
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It's all good.  |
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hot-angel (f)
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Breathing helps, it does.
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nike4luv (f)
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yea..i can still stop breathing though
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hot-angel (f)
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Don't stop.. it's good to breath
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nike4luv (f)
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i wish i did...den i wont face problems
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loma (m)
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look at it as oportunities ,not problems
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nike4luv (f)
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its easy for you to say
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loma (m)
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i know,but don't let life's problems get at u,i have seen a few myself.
if u want to talk, get me on pm
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loma (m)
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u should be sleeping! guess u take after cold devil(sorry, slip of the keyboard-meant hot angel)
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nike4luv (f)
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i aint sleepin..pullin an alnighter
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