Give Me One Reason To Love A Nigerian Man

From A Recovering Hater-a-tor

At the urging of a sister-friend here's my issue:
And before you jump to conclusions, let's just establish the fact that I know I need some help   

BACKGROUND
I am a Nigerian who grew up in Nigeria [all my formative years were in naija] but I can't figure out why I can't date a Nigerian man anymore. Although I claim that I like Nigerian guys I've come to learn that I am very critical of them and very dismissive of any woo-ing efforts from that direction. 

I find myself being impatient with you guys and will completely blow-off a Nigerian guy for the same reasons I'll find a man from another culture attractive. 

Surface Example:
Recently, a naija co-worker/toaster friend of mine called me, and then drove over to my house to show me his newly purchased BMer. My attitude was somewhat negative and I recall thinking  "how tacky, am I supposed to be impressed?" On the other hand, another toaster from a different culture did something similar and I felt it was a sweet gesture that he wanted me to be the first to see his new car. Not sure why I'd  react in different ways.

QUESTION
So help a sister out and tell me one reason/way to start loving a Nigerian man today!

Thanks Seun. I'll take a look.

I do consider myself to be open minded to other cultures and races so maybe afterall is said and done the reasons won't even matter.
But, I still need more reasons to consider though,

well all i have 2 say is that,a bad son gives his family a bad name,i guess men vary?

Trust me, this is what love does to people, you don't need any help, you're already in love with naija guys. All u need to do is search your heart and find out who the guy is and chikina! - its done

Looks aint all that matters
Naija guys are also very good at many other things

you mean like in bed?

Use your tongue to count your teeth

the same reason u love nigeria at first!! u are nigeria, everyone is not the same if u dnt like all nigerian men then u don't really like yourself in the first place u are the one that needs help

i don't understand why many nigerians don't like other nigerians, they don't like living where there are many nigerians for e.g, some sort of complex, 

:Dthats impossible

Why do you need a reason, your mind is obviously made up. i have better naija babes seeking good naija men so you are one less competitor. Be who you are and stop seeking validation for your choices

There is also the other side to this story. I am male/Nigerian/27 yo living in the UK and just as u are more attracted to men of other countries, I find myself more attracted to women of other countries rather than Nigerians. Even other African countries. Upon analysis, I think it is a case of familiarity bringing contempt.

Even though we are meeting for thE first time, we actually go into interactions with so much bias and assumptions in the air without giving the other party the chance to express who they are as individuals. Bcos we come from the same country, started in the same reality, have the same value systems and are now in a different environment , we let all our prejudices from the past to cloud our judgements.

MY OWN STEREOTYPES: I think Naija girls, here in the UK, "form" or act compared to most other girls.I think they are more materialistic. I think they are looking for the next eligible bachelor with a job to tie down in marraige FOREVER.I think they are not as adventurous as girls from other places. I think ???BUT You KNOW WHAT, I KNOW THIS IS NOT ALL TRUE!!!But that is the stereotype I get from my interactions.And I probably brought it with me from Naija!!!

It's like that girl/guy who we all went to school with, who speaks English through their nose even though the closest they have been to Jand is Ajao Estate on the way to the airport. You know how we dislike them and considered them fake? That's the way we Naija people feel about our own people here. We never admit it, but that's the way it is.

That's why I'd rather chase an English girl who, if she likes you, would kiss you 10 minutes after meeting you while a Naija girl would act like you don't exist even if she likes you. Yet I would be the first person to think the Naija girl is "loose" if she kisses me afetr 10 minutes. YES IT IS COMPLEX, but NA SO E BE!!!

It's about value systems. Because we have the same value systems, it's difficult for us to transfer it into this foreign culture when there are things about the other culture's value systems that we like and want to indulge in.

Remember the law in physics that says "Like charges attract, and unlike charges repel", That's the best summary for the situation.

SO WHAT DO WE DO ABOUT IT?
1. Treat each person as an individual and not based on their skin colour or our assumptons of their culture
2. Be aware how much of your judgement is clouded by stereotypes and gaurd against this
3. Spread the love - NAIJA WOMAN to NAIJA MAN and vice versa.

WHEN COLD CATCH FINISH, NA MY NAIJA WOMAN I WAN TAKE KILL AM!!!

i think u don't like nigerian guys because u expect more from them, and they always fall short below your expectations.    and as for the car doing, they all do that soo don't count that against them. (but trust me i feel your pain)

maybe u should stop looking an djust go with the flow, love and marry who ever u want

i don't entirely blame you for your prejudice, i guess its something the society somehow worked into your head. Even in the business world, the company where i work is so open and responsive to foreign partners but once its nigerian, we've been taught to have our ears up,

On the light side, go try other guys preferably togolese, kenyans of folks from malawi,  maybe u'll appreciate us beta then

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curiousNja

You have not tried me because I will bamboozle you with lots of love