Why Do Guys Loose Interest In A Relationship After The Chase?!

because he is after sex and once he gets it moves on to another one.

Good or bad, guys have reasons for losing interest and it has little or nothing to do with sex.

When a guy is chasing you, his primary motivation is lust and not love. In psychology, this is a normal process on the part to true love and commitment. What we calls "love at first sight" is nothing but a "lust" in it purest form. I guess our sense of modesty would not allow us admit this. Lust, is the first stage of Love and how you handle it determines what the outcome of the whole affair may be.

With this in mind, we can easily understand why men lose interest in ladies after expending more energy and time in it. It is inevitable. Everyman has this trait. We just have to nurture love.

1. After all the wahala, the guy later found out that "she is after all ordinary". That is when lust began to vanish. At this stage only a mind with concrete plan stays. I, strangely deviated from common practice. For instance, I avoid making too much contact with ladies I'D just met. I won't call you. But I will do things that let you know I value you. It was a result of long term observation. Sure, it hurt some girls. Definitely, they will get over it. Almost all the long term relationship I had till date started that way. Where I deviated and did all the nuisance mentioned above, the relation won't last! I quite understand why it is so and cannot be otherwise.

2. During the chasing, some guys mind are focus on physical attraction. The lady on her part look her best to heighten the lust process. Once succeeded, man begin to unravel hidden traits in the lady that either make him thank his star or curse his luck. It is apparent reaction to these, that may necesitate gradual or sudden lost of interest. Then, he began fresh "hunting"!

3. If the lady is guarantteed and the affair cemented, guys tend to be assured and divested their energy into other things like making money etc. The lady would have to do the "guarding". Responsible guys don't spend half their life chasing babe,

@Ika,

Gosh! You mean men actually have "hunting" flair in their blood? I'll try to discover mine. I just need a doctor or DNA expert to identify that gene.

By the way, what make women think every man must subscribe to lust all the time? I guess they are beginning to see the reality. Love may be blind to women, for men, it could just as well shut his eyes while being mistaken as blind. They get the message when the guy start hunting afresh.

Its not true!

I don't like hunting, I prefer to be hunted  

"  " you gat me rolling on the floor! you? please! please! _{stop smoking that weed!} you? hunted? "  "

^{numero uno hunter hia in this forum} 

Debosky,
maybe I should start hunting you or set a babe after you? How many do you want? I just can't imagine you are not a hunter!

Ika,
help me now. I want to know if I have that Gene so I can hunt while my homone is a concentrated level. I just hope Rachiwise isn't reading this.

Seriously, when I heard a lady saying men "thinks" with their "kini" I just laughed because I know that real men are smart and can't be tie down just like that.

Yeah, it depend on why you are hunting. I wish we can read minds, most guys would never have got a lady attention because their infatuation would be exposed.

Hei, are women really free of the same phenomenon? Weren't they also be found losing interest in guys after all the trip to Opebi to shop for expensive make-ups and creams? Are they not the real reason "hunters" don't settle for "old meat"?

@ olanajim

I won't mind at all, just make sure they are sane and not drama queens or psychotic gold diggers. plus they must have the very important apple booty with brains to match. Just one will do for me, I'm not really into multi-tasking 

@ Ika

I was the dude she was singing about in that song, if I wasn't so young at the time she would've put me in the video sef 

Why does the topic have to be centered around men only.  Women get tired too and stop calling after they get what they want too----money from their "mugus". Might be in the minority, but same goes both ways.  There is novelty in a "new" toy.  Just like children, men will go to Chuckeecheese today and to Discovery zone tomorrow.  Always looking for something "new".  No condition is permanent but change.


By the age of 21 every observant female would have figured the whole thing out after 2 or 3 dates!  No surprises after that.  It becomes "standard".  Unless you never learn from mistakes.  Which would be a terrible pity then. Ladies have learned to come up with their own agenda too to get around this.  Either you go in with your eyes open and come out healthier or you go in with your eyes closed and let history keep repeating itself to the detriment of your psychological and physiological wellbeing.  I think good and concerned mothers spoke of this to their daughters and sons at age 10!!!!!! Trying to figure this out after 21 years of age is precarious!

Ladies, are the ones being hunted, so that initially the feelings may not be there, but gradually it grows. And usually when the feeling from the lady gets stronger, it gets to some point where  consciously or unconsciously the guy gets to perceive this & he relaxes. The lady takes over at this point.

Now, at that point it may seem the guy is not interested, but its a two way thing, i may say, it may actually be that the guy has lost interest & intends going a fishing again or he has has it in his mind that he already own's u, & believes its all clear to u. His changes then would be that he's trying to make ends meet. At this point if u are very sensitive as a lady u'll be able to tell, if this changes means he's actually tired or he wants more.

Women actually feel neglected at this point when it seems the guys has changed (if its for a good motive) because we crave for attention & re-assurance every now & then._{not all ladies though} It's your duty at this point to do his initial duties (although not all).


Some ladies also, do get tired as well when the spark is no more there, for those kind of ladies its either they just realized they can't move on, or they were there for the fun of it, pardon me to say that some ladies too hunt for pleasure

Thanks Bro.

@poster

May be when chasing, guys spend a lot of energy, and after the chase he does not have enough strength to all that he used to have when chasing.

so, give in on time so that he can still have enough energy to love you

Who told you that is a secret? Even a primary school boy know it.

show us the onion/apple booty and the question shall be answered! as D'banj talk, No long Tin! 

na you get those apple bottoms?

I want to see the original Ika booty, no more no less  ^{hmm, well maybe more!}

na Ika6 get those apples? 

see them "   "  @olanajim see my theory is right!  most guys are visualy inclined  see now! my visual aid is working just fine he! he!



i don answer una!  the thing no big reach? "  "