Why Aren't Men Emotional?

I made a post in my blog concerning the lack of emotion most men show. The question is, why are we men so ashamed to show our emotions. Is it because we're scared of being called gay when we hug our fellow man, kiss his cheek etc or do we just . Just wondering.

@zahy are u afraid to show your emotions?

haha you can always become a girl 
i think that men show their emotions when they really have to, u know when it matters

thats just the nature of men, God made them that way

exactly

its good ya'll hide ya emotions sometimes
i don't want a man who show their emotions always, thats what makes a man,

I'll confess I'm completely inscrutable and a demented introvert so you always see me with the same expression. I'm used to studying human nature. I just started this topic [and will start others] to explore some "normal" behavior humans exhibit -- why is it normal, etc. Call me crazy but I'm also curious.

Speaking of emotions I hardly ever show my emotions to anyone -- boy or girl [not even when I'm trying to land one -- and sorry, I hate sports].

Bah. No self-promotion here, Seun!!

From TFA, I presume by emotional you mean physical contact with other men. Look, I'm as modern a man as you're likely to find. I'm heterosexual, and that kind of behaviour, like you said on your blog, just screams gay. Sure if I haven't seen a friend for a while I could hug him, but it's a BIG, STRONG, MANLY hug, y'know? Kissing another man? Totally gay.

Disclaimer: To all the gay people in the house, I'm cool with you guys o! Love you!! Peace!

Men have blood flowing in their veins and therefore are just as emotional as the women. The difference is that women tend to show their emotions more than men. A lot of men erroneously believe it is better to hold it in. Most men think it is a sign of weakness to show emotions like crying when something bad happens. A man will prefer to  be referred to as a warrior ( hard guy) rather than as soft and emotional. If you want to see how emotional men (Nigerian) can be go watch a soccer match with a group of guys and you will see what I mean.

I guess men don't show their emotions in that respect
They have their own thing, you know the dap, and society(well where I am,at least)it's frowned on even though I think men have way better relationships with their friends than the females though, there's always that silent competiton and envy going on with the ladies. I've always envied the way Men make friends so easily whereas with the ladies we must study character first before we even attempt a conversation.


Seun na wa ooh! who told you there was anything sexy about you?lol just joking

I wonder why you girls are so eager to condemn yourselves. I like girls [or I won't be normal  ].

I'm very sure if my post had featured something like "Why do girls never form true friendships and are such pretenders?" there'D be a salvo of woman-ammo directed at me as mamaput, hot-angel,  outkast and all the ladies in the house come to defend the woman-pride. Yet you insinuate exactly that. Women? 

Besides, I never said "true friendships" could not be formed.

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I don't know why men aren't emotionalbut about a year ago I read this academic paper/book excerpt and it was about how some psychologists think that men use women as their emotional "outlet". . .that's prolly not the right word for it but the thought was that when (some) men can't show emotions, they go to women who can. For example, if a man is disrespected at work and feels helpless the "natural" reaction might be to cry, but instead of doing that, he'll go home and treat his wife/girlfriend like shit and she'll feel helpless and eventually start crying and will say something like "Why are you acting this way? I just want to make you happytell me how. . ." By her being explicit w/ her helplessness and tears his feelins can evaporate or lessen. The book explained it better than I have.

But stoic men can hurt women or significant others w/ their stoicism. I mean when you're trying to be *real* w/ someone and they refuse to "crack" or let you in, what are you supposed to do? How are you supposed to feel? Most of the time, women turn their feelings of isolation/failure in on themselves, at least for a little while. . . but, when it comes to suffering, a little while feels like a lifetime. Feel me?

can someone please define the word "emotional"? i don't like sterotypes and i like being me. hugs are something i scarcely do because i think its a white man's thing which we are just adapting. as for crying - i have done so once this year and again it depends on the circumstances and environment. i think we africans originally because of our culture and astute moral values did not engage in such sentimental expressions.

give me a break

Of a truth i tell you men don't usually express themselves.
But the occassional hug here ahd there some can give moi
inclusive but a kiss? Naw! We aint French men! And it's not
traditional.
Maybe, as the years roll by, our next generation can do them
hugging and kissing without people necessarily feeling the guys
are gay.