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omogenaija (f)
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@ poster tell your uncle to break down the door and if she is still being stubborn tell him to find a lady that will open her bedroom for him , nonsense i could see if they were boyfriend and girlfriend , but hubby and wifey , his wife needs to calm down
BTW what was their minor agurement ?
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habumaks (m)
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@poster You mean "banned" from "entering" the bedroom or going in to receive his "regular meals" wheneva he is "hungry" (u knw what i mean) Please throw more light on the "BANNED" Cos some people are finding it difficult (including me) to understand.
He could be "banned" to go in and search her purse, look into her standing mirror, watch her secret movies bla bla bla. But let me add this: if this ban is on his sexual gratification then i think she is inviting trouble in her matrimonial home.
Wetin de guy do sef, u didnt tel we (us)
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rikkyjen (m)
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Sorry Y'all am going a bit offtopic, but i just cldnt let this slide!  Re: Banned From His Wife's Bedroom « #17 on: Today at 04:09:22 PM »
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- No 1 advice marriage counsellors and wise people give to married women: No matter the quarrel, never, ever use deprivation of sexual gratification as a weapon against your husband. Many women have tried this, and they've found out that after a few days of begging, the guy mysteriously stops coming to the bedroom. Even when the wife flings her door - and her legs - open, there's no going back. The embittered guy usually takes his desires outside, and the first major crack starts to form @ Texapette Although, am a guy but i find this statement funny and ludicuros,  . If couples are fighting, what else can a woman do to prove her point if not by witholding sex?. So during a quarrel in the marriage, is that when the man should have the ballz to straff his wife? What should the woman do? open her legs and allow her husband hump her while she forwns, then when he's done, he turns his back and resume the quarrel, right?!. That singular act of opening your Vajayjay is enough to escalate and elongate the quarrel because the man is getting what he wants and he's not even feeling any pain, so bobo would think he's actually right, while you the woman you are getting double suffering. First, you are been ramshackled and bamboozled on the bed, secondly, your husband is still quarrelling with ya and he doesn't seem to be the easy one to bulge, Hahaaaa, haba! where in the world is this done apart from Naija, it doesnt even happen like this in war torn Darfur or Mogadishu  . Deny a man of sex and see the baby in him. He Gonna be sulking around like a 1year toddler not only that, thats when hes Gonna be looking for one unlost pen & paper in ya bedroom,don't mind his antics, he's finding it hard to tell you he needs some @ss tonight!  After some time then he starts to compromise and renegiotiate his stand and before you know it the quarrel is over. For the ladies : If you go open ya leg during quarrels, don't eva expect your wahala to end then! CAVEAT: PLS READ WELL; This advise is very very conditional o!. It would only work if you know your husband very well. If your Husband is like me, i would crawl back to renegotiate with ya because i detest Infidelity like Sh@@@t. Its filthy, Gosh away game sucks  . However if you know your husband would chase anything in wrapper and skirts, (including a chicken wearing G-string or a Fulani cow wearing a lingerie) then this advise aint 4 ya!
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Busta (f)
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depends on the gravity of his offence
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mellow (m)
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Terribly terrible, see how the spirit of banning has spread into marriages, eya,
I am very sure the lady inquestion must be a nairalander and have been infested
with the banning spirit. My humble advice is for the banned husband to register with
a new ID so maybe he can now use CHEATING HUSBAND,
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ikhideman (m)
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The only reason, i believe he was banned is probably for cheating on her;else there's no way my wife(when I marry) can ban me!!
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choco4life (m)
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She should be acreful because the man may not just be interested again after the unban.
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Oluchia (f)
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Although, am a guy but i find this statement funny and ludicuros, . If couples are fighting, what else can a woman do to prove her point if not by witholding sex?. So during a quarrel in the marriage, is that when the man should have the ballz to straff his wife? What should the woman do? open her legs and allow her husband hump her while she forwns, then when he's done, he turns his back and resume the quarrel, right?!.
That singular act of opening your Vajayjay is enough to escalate and elongate the quarrel because the man is getting what he wants and he's not even feeling any pain, so bobo would think he's actually right, while you the woman you are getting double suffering. First, you are been ramshackled and bamboozled on the bed, secondly, your husband is still quarrelling with ya and he doesn't seem to be the easy one to bulge, Hahaaaa, haba! where in the world is this done apart from Naija, it doesnt even happen like this in war torn Darfur or Mogadishu .
Deny a man of sex and see the baby in him. He Gonna be sulking around like a 1year toddler not only that, thats when hes Gonna be looking for one unlost pen & paper in ya bedroom,don't mind his antics, he's finding it hard to tell you he needs some @ss tonight! After some time then he starts to compromise and renegiotiate his stand and before you know it the quarrel is over. For the ladies : If you go open ya leg during quarrels, don't eva expect your wahala to end then!
CAVEAT: PLS READ WELL; This advise is very very conditional o!. It would only work if you know your husband very well. If your Husband is like me, i would crawl back to renegotiate with ya because i detest Infidelity like Sh@@@t. Its filthy, Gosh away game sucks . However if you know your husband would chase anything in wrapper and skirts, (including a chicken wearing G-string or a Fulani cow wearing a lingerie) then this advise aint 4 ya! ROLFMAO!  Rikkyjen, u're a clown. I don laugh tire here o!  You're right in a way you know, It doesn't really make any sense for the woman to open up to her husband when she's angry. The man will be enjoying himself while the woman is dying in silence (I wonder how that kin thing go fit work  ). But anyway, I think the principle that Texapette is trying to lay down here is that couples should'nt let any disagreement b/w them get to that extent. They should Try as much as possible to resolve it before dawn, that way the issue of 'banning' anyone will not arise.
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MP007 (m)
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First mistake- there shouldnt be any "her bedroom' instead "our" (meaning both of you should share the same bed room). Second mistake-, Tellin family folks will only make situation worse, na u marry am, your uncle sounds soft, Third mistake. Its obvious the disagreement aint minor, ban or or ban .this nonsence is funnny 
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Seun (m)
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The woman is taking it too far, but all your uncle can do is negotiate a lifting of the ban. 
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Bblak (f)
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I'm so perplexed  . He must av done something terrible that he could not disclose like that. . He should go and apologise to her i'm sure she can still lift the ban 
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ifyalways (f)
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@ poster hope your uncle has been unbanned yet 
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chrisuch (m)
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the earlier he starts thinking of a second wife the better.if i hear say my wife not my girl friend ban me.then we will draw line that day.
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Babybee (f)
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She's probably got a skeleton in her cupboard.
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NSIKAN
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With a lot of clutter women have coupled with the fact that some men can be very clumsy with things around the room, different bedrooms for both of them reduces quarrels in the house. But the lady will always have to sleep in the husbands room. if she bans him from her room he must have done something bad,was he banned from the room or from the INNER room?  
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theboy0808 (m)
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@at topic  TOO BAD She's probably got a skeleton in her cupboard.
May be 
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Seun (m)
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Married people quarrel all the time, and things like this happen. The solution is simple: settle it. Grr!
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Genial (m)
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Head for the courts. It should be possible to prove that you are being denied your conjugal rights as a husband and obtain a court order allowing you (conditional) unrestrained access to her room and person. You can take along the police to ensure that your wife complies with the court order.
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pmdaboh (f)
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@Poster
One really cannot answer the question fully without knowing why the uncle was banned from the bedroom. Did the uncle cheat on his wife, and she does not want him in her bedroom?
I find it amazing that any married couple living in 2007 would have separate bedrooms. That sort of thing is only seen on our "classic movie channels". I thought it went out years ago. Very intersting. Some issues that I read about on nairaland are really not even dealt with in 2007 in America, for they are either not a big deal, not a major issue anymore, or are an acceptable way of life here. Sometimes it is like Africa is in another "time zone" altogether. I am not tying to funny nor insulting, but some of these problems are "AMAZING" to me, for they just do not exist here.
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ebony4life (f)
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OKAY I KNOW WHY SHE BANNED HER HUSBAND, HE WAS SMUGGLING IN CONTRABANDS  Jokes apart She is not supposed to 'ban' him, and thats not a good way to punish your husband, there are other interesting, heart wrenching ways. She had better un'ban' him, because our men are trying to be faithful. 
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Builder
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Poster,
Peeps always say "when you go black you never go back" but in this case i will say when u try houseboy rod, you forget the husband
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PurestBoy (m)
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I guess the wife is the bread winner of the family who pays the bills and other things. Any objection to this?
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Seun (m)
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The breadwinner argument is so outdated. I bet they both have jobs and win bread.
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janami (f)
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banned wetin? whatever happened to satisfying your husband? d woman is only succeeding in pushing her husband out to seek attention elsewhere
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Shaunscot (m)
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At first I thought it was UEFA banning some club. BAN!! Well,one more thing to add to my pre-nup.
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djcrucifix (m)
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this has got to be the most hilarious husband-wife beef ever!, how can a woman command her husband that way? na jazz the woman use?, the man should understand that he is the head of the house and should therefore allow no woman to tell him some things especially BANNING him from their BEDROOM! (JEEEEZ!, WHAT IS THE WORLD TURNING INTO!) 
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adconline (m)
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I always need my space. I am allergic to suffocation by intimacy.
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Glorya (f)
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ban ke? the husband should go and apologise to his wife instead of going to bring in third parties. The woman no be stone, she will forgive him, she just wants a little begging.
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