Why Do We Have To Marry?

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@ Leejay55

I agree with you. It gets to an age that irrespective of the facade in the open, an unmarried person weeps for him/herself in private. It is the ordainment of God and who is it that knows our constituent/cravings better than its creator.

Which God?

Are you so naive as to beleive that a married woman only has eyes for her husband?

To those who write that marriage was sanctioned by a deity, how do you address those whose beliefs are not in that same deity?  Also, what about those who believe in no deity?

we don't have to get married.its not by force,its wudeva you want.aiiiigghht?

i guess its all a matter of choice.i have a friend who never wants to get married.i stil gat another who aint married but gat a son,yrt another who can't wait to get married.

marriage no be by force!!!!!!

Na Jamb Question

O ga ooo.

One thing that annoys me most is when we bring GOD name in a matter that should be based purely on intelligent discussion. I consider it as an attempt to peep at a supposedly correct answer in an examination. However, the answer may be wrong.

Meanwhile, I consider marriage as just 'an agreement between 2 people to leave together because they share stuffs in common, and to add more to the already annoying problem of over-population(?)' simple. Ordained by God(?) i don't know. is it not in the 'holy Books' that
i. u must not kill (unconditional). Why do u buy guns for soldiers and policemen? to kill ants and games ?
ii. u should not judge(unconditional). Why do u send your sibblings to school to become lawers and judges.
iii. etc.

Leave God alone and discuss a matter of intelligence with intelligence.

Good luck.

I don't believe we get married just because of babies, we marry because we all need companion and someone to share our feelings and emotion with, kids are even secondary

Ok, i get you now. Obviously, the one who doesn't believe in God, cannot (or may not) see marriage as being from God: his faith-system makes no allowances for that. However, his own peculiar case doesn't preclude those that deem marriage that way from maintaining such a viewpoint. The posters were writing things from their own perspective - it's a totally different debate altogether as touching which view is right.
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Marriage is necessary for companionship. Man(humans) is not designed(by God) to live alone, whether you believe God or not, that is the fact.

i joined nairaland a couple of months ago, but this will be my very first post.

By way of introduction, i am married, and i married at an age people consider to be young for a man, 28.

Why did i get married? same answer as why did i go to school, lol, you just know its something u want to do, ok, i was joking with this one.

But seriously, to all those who have expressed one opinion or the other, for or against, i don't think i can fault what u all said.

Marriage like most other things in life is a question of choice, and personal conviction. You want to do it, or u don't want to. People say to fulfil God's will but I think we know that Paul also said that you don't have to get married, if u are convinced u are better off being single,  so God's will really is what you and Him knows will work for you.

Next, people say you get married and its not what u think, too much heartache and all that, i think its the same as people who say, what if we serve God and we find out there is no hell fire, lol, we would have lost out of all the fun. Again, that is subjective. What gives u joy, what makes u complete, being married, staying single?

I think people should get married, to the right mates for them. How do i find who is right, u have your yardsticks, find a mate who scores 70% and go for it. The others, you either work it out, or get ready to tolerate it. Funny how people tolerate each other when they are friends, workmates and all, but once they get married they don't want to,  you have to! simple.

We work hard at relationships, but we expect the work to stop once we get married. No, it just starts, and with the realization that you are in there for the rest of your life, you just need to do it well, and get the magic formula very early to save yourself heartaches.

Marraige really is more about completing yourself, and finding companionship when you are growing in life, i don't know how you get your own kicks, but going into an empty house at night doesnt do it for me, and think about when you can't chase girls or be chased by guys again, and are too old to enjoy marathon sex, what do u do? kids will grow up and leave you too, if you are lucky your mate doesnt die early, then you have a good life ahead.

Now, when u get married, you don't suddenly stop finding the other woman/guy attractive, or u don't suddenly just find that you can look at a pretty set of boobs and not feel a twang (by the way, the lady who raised the issue of big boobs/butties have a pretty good one, i think u shld be proud of it). You just tell yourself that hey, i am committed to this woman/man, and i should be responsible to that commitment, its still about choice, And when you fall into temptation, i pray we don't, get up and move on, marriage is a journey, not a destination.

I watched a movie once, a guy in a relationship finds he can't stay faithful to his fiancee, they have breakups and all of that. He confides in an older guy who is married, the guy replies (almost verbatim) " I drive a 2002 ford taurus, every year, ford changes the taurus model, every day i see someone with a more beautiful car, do i go around and want to drive every single one, no, i don't because i can't" Marriage is like that (or almost), u have to make a choice to stay in there.

So to the question, why do we have to marry, i'D say, its the best place to be if u work at having the right one. Do we all have to be married. Answer is No.

It takes hardwork to stay married. Having said that, if you choose not to get married, asta la vista,

Longest post I myself have read, but as i am new, it will take a few lessons in summary before i can get this down to manageable levels, so forgive me if i bore you.

@Seun

Thanks,

Am sory to come late,
       marriage is not compulsory at all and having children out of wedluck does not give the child the name bastard for those who don't know what bastard means, it's a child without a clear knowledge of the father.