My Mum Is Still Being Chased By Men

I think the poster gave insuffient information for all these advice above. Once somebody is married be it man or woman he/she got to have self control. Unless you father is dead or your parents are seperated then it is totally wrong for your  mother to think of having a man outside. All those giving advice that she is a woman and need to satisfy something somewhere, think if its your mother or your wify. She is even thinking of the kids now, beleive me once she start with the/those men outside her behavior  towards those kids will change completely and it will not be in favour of her kids.

Thats why i don't read such stuff sometimes what a nigga don't know don't hurt him

the same applies to me as well. My mum (a divorcee with 3 grown boys) is still in the market. You can imagine how disturbing it is when you see these stupid men with their eyes popping up just to get a taste of what your father had. its damn baaaaaaaaaad. It's driving me cracy now that i had to leave her house now just to stay on my own,  infact to visit her now, i hardly think about it. Please what do i do?

I think you should say something about your father. If he's there and your mum leaves such text on her phone then you got a bigger problem. Keeping those text means she is interested in this mystery man. Women love text messages they can read over and over again to make up for the absence of the person who sent the text especially when they are missing the person. On the other hand if your dad is not there and your mum is young and sweet of course men are not blind and besides your mum will still look for a worthy companion, it's natural you can't stop it. If you have a very smooth relationship with your mum you can take your time to study this text message effects on her then ask her nicely and indirectly. Be careful Cuz if you do it wrongly you might just embarrass her and aggravate issues. Like I said we know nothing about your dad.

are you guys sure the poster is reading all these messages? because if he is, he should have responded. i hope he is not taking us for a ride. if the story is really true, i think you should give us  more details. just take things easy.

point of correction, ifyalways, you don't have to marry to curb loneliness. as far as i am concerned, marriage is scary. looking at society these days, you'll wonder what the hell is going on. i mean, two people get married and before you know it, you're hearing they're having one problem or the other. maybe they married for all the wrong reasons. we have to be very careful when choosing life partners because as the name goes, its for LIFE.

I do not see anything wrong in a mature woman going on with her life in as much as she is still not married.It is however very important for her not to forget or forfeit her children in pursuit of this happines.

Milo, you've got a point there.

How are you? 

SPOILT,is not about the society been unkind,is all about the kind of family she came from.
is all about DECENCY,INTERGRITY,AND GOD FEARING.if the woman has this qualities,believing me she can't fall for any RANDY man.

you're damn right

y"all should just shut up!

the guy's got a problem a needs a solution.

@poster,
send me your Mama's number, please

think i could solve both y'alls problems

there's notin wrong about it

focus on your own life

nigerians are the most smart people in the world. tell 100 nigerians you have a problem and you get 101 solutions. i don't no how it feels to be in your position poster and i can't help you much. and same goes for most here. lets hear from those who've been there.
for those advising for him to talk to his mom. how awkward will that be cosidering they are obviously a young family

The poster post is inconclusive. where is his father? if he has passed on, may his gentle soul rest in perfect peace.  and if divorce, and he love both parents dearly, he should do every thing in his power to bring them together again even if he should threaten them.  divorce is not our culture.

Back to the post, their is no second man that would fill the vacuum in his mum's heart and the children more than their real father and husband. If she really love and adore her children and the children love her more than a second father, i will suggest she should forget any second husband and concentrate on her children happiness. what would lead a woman to seek a second husband could be she under going some kind of hardship and she cannot cope alone with the kids and all and would want a father figure for the children. anything outside that, it not necessary. to me!!

Poster, had a mind blowing talk with mummy about how you feel and how much you love her. a second father will only bring   rift between you and her. No man so sweet enough would love his step children more than their mother.    and it would be worst if he has children in his previous marriage.        Believe me, i have seeing it at work.

Spoilt! what sort of companionship that she will get more than the love and happiness of her children? You sound like your name.            "SPOILT"