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toshmann (m)
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Masturbation is not cheating. Men masturbate to relieve sexual tension. Women masturbate to relieve sexual tension and to "learn" how to pleasure themselves. Many young woman, who haven't lots of bedroom experience don't know exactly what they like. Once they know what they prefer, they can give instructions to attentive gentlemen. Or maybe she knew what she liked and you just weren't getting it right.
The girlfriend or ex or whatever she was, was prolly NOT satisfied with the sexual relationship. So rather than blame the boyfriend, she took the situation into her own hands - pun intended - and tried to figure out what feelings, pressure, caresses she might prefer. How silly to break up with her over this! The women was willing to put up w/ bad sex, your ego, and closemindedness. Good luck finding another like her.
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kasaliyaro (m)
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You saw her masturbating, next, you sacked her? Did you truly love her or you were just using her to satisfy your sexual whatever?  I think if truly you love her, the first thing you should have done is to sit her down and both of you talk about it. How often do you discuss the sexual part of your relationship? This kind of action is usually a reaction to a lack / deficiency in your sex lives. Rather than sitting down and asking questions about where you are lacking, you sacked the poor girl for your deficiency. O ma se o! She tells you "You are the best", what else do you expect her to say? What if with your deficiency, na you try pass for all the men wey she don date? Mr, that you are "so far" the best no mean say you dey satisfy her sexual drive. I think you owe her an apology. Be a man and do what is right, before she finds another "BEST". Now to your question: Is Masturbation Not Cheating? I don't know how it works, but I want to believe when you masturbate, you fantasize the real act. Which means in your mind, there exists a sex partner. If this person in your imagination is your real life partner, no yawa, but if na someone else -e.g. the g.u.y in the TV   , that one na cheating. . . some day you go wish say na TV you dey watch . |
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sasuos (m)
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TO ALL THOSE CATIGATING ME, I WANT U TO KNOW THAT SHE BECAME AN EX- AFTER THAT DAY. ALSO MY QUESTION IS IF A VIBRATOR OR ANY OTHER IMPLEMENT CAN BRING OUT THAT FEEEEELING AND ANOTHER PERSON DECIDES TO DO IT WITH SOMEONES WIFE OR HUSBAND, ARE THEY ALL NOT LOOKING FOE DE SAME FEEEEEELINGS? IT SEEMS ALL OF U ARE SAYING THERE IS NOTHING LIKE CHEATING. TO THE LADIES WHO ARE SUGGESTING THAT MAY BE AM NOT ALL THAT GOOD, WHY NOT GIVE IT A TRY WITH ME IN THE CONTAINER UNDER THE BRIDGE?  |
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sasuos (m)
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am seriously thinking about that, I LIKE THE TERM RE-GIRLFRIEND
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chinani (f)
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@ sasuos I wasn't trying to be harsh. But masturbation is not a sign of infidelity. Actually, I think it can be a good thing, especially in women. If women know what they like then they'll tell you. They won't be frigid and not want you to touch them etc. I like the re-girlfriend idea!  But, if she won't have you back then take the experience and grow from it. (For one, now you know the importance of the clitoris.) Be a better boyfriend!  |
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tasnsc (f)
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Masturbation is not cheating at all. Every one does it. Men and woman!!!!! It is only normal to excite yourself sometimes. That does not mean your man or woman can not do it right it just means that you are comfortable with your self and you are aloud to make yourself feel good sometimes!!! Is that a crime??? It is certaintly not cheating. How would you feel if your lover wantted to do it in front of you? Would that turn you on or off? Be serious!
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larger_20 (m)
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i will not masturbate if my girl is with me. I will go for the real thing,
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Reba (f)
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Re: Is Masturbation Not Cheating?
« #16 on: March 24, 2006, 05:46 PM »
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oh reba, WHY R U BEING SO HARD ON ME? WELL , I THINK U ARE IN LOVE WITH ME THATS FOR SURE
@ Sousas
In love ha , boy think again,from the sound of ur post u are not my type sorry,
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sasuos (m)
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REBA
CAN YOU PLEASE ELABORATE? TO THOSE WHO SAY EVERYBODY DOES IT, I BEG TO DIFFER because I HAVE NOT EVEN TRIED IT before.
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chinani (f)
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@ sasuos
You don't have to do it. But, why can't a woman masturbate if she wants to? That's my question.
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Bright2 (m)
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Well that's not full , but half cheating. It doesn't really matter it's another way of xpressing her feeling & at desametime resist further temptation from other men out there.
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sasuos (m)
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@ CHINANI
I MEAN THAT IS CHEATING, IT MEANS U CAN HAVE SEX WITH ANYBODY INCLUDING, A MAN , WOMAN , FINGERS, BANANA, BOTTLES, PILLOWS etc, so WHAT IS CHEATING THEN?
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Seun (m)
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Masturbation is best imagined as having sex with yourself. Afterall, a man and a woman might decide to use one of the aforementioned objects to enhance their sex life. Does it mean such a couple is engaged in a threesome? Is man with a condom equal to two men? |
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allonym
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@ CHINANI
I MEAN THAT IS CHEATING, IT MEANS U CAN HAVE SEX WITH ANYBODY INCLUDING, A MAN , WOMAN , FINGERS, BANANA, BOTTLES, PILLOWS etc, so WHAT IS CHEATING THEN?
Wow. . . I'm learning so much here. First, I learned the other day that premarital sex means having sex with EVERYONE, now I learn that masturbation means having sex with ANYONE or ANYTHING. |
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sasuos (m)
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YES , HAVING SEX WITH ANYTHING, CAN U IMAGINE?
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Reba (f)
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@ Sousas, Wow wow chill bro, having sex with any thing!, So which one are helping yourself with a pillow or a bottle or just any thing open. |
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venice (f)
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@Reba
I totally agree with u girl, keep up the spirit.
and for sasous reba inlove with u hell no, why should she fall inlove with a man that can't handle women!
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dakmanzero (m)
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bros.
y don't u don't like ure girl masturbating? does it make u feel inadequate? if so, then tough. Leaving her may be appropriate for u.
but u will have a hard time finding a girl that doesnt masturbate.
and even if u think u have, she is probably just lying. 99% of them will not admit it.
personally I find that the no. 1 reason for faithfulness, which is the possibility of contracting an STD or concieving a child outside of the relationship, doesnt apply to masturbation. So it should be okay,
unless your religion is against it. (Muslims take note)
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venice (f)
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oh God having sex with anything, that would damage my lawuwas! people please!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Reba (f)
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Thanx Venice girl,this Sousas boy thinks that hes hot but the truth is if he ca'nt handle his woman, who the hell he think he is for me to be in love with him if he can'nt handle his own woman, he must go suck the lemon  |
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toshmann (m)
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oh God having sex with anything, that would damage my lawuwas! people please!!!!!!!!!!!! abeg wetin be LAWUWAS |
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sasuos (m)
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@ reba
you R IN LOVE WITH ME AND U don't WANT TO ADMIT IT EH? ANSWER THIS QUESTION, WHAT S CHEATING?
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sasuos (m)
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@ VENICE,
CAN U EXPLAIN WHY U R SUPPORTING REBA? ANYWAY FROM THE LOOK OF THINGS REBA S GOING TO BE MY NEXT GIRLFRIEND, AM GOING TO MAIL HER ON SATURDAY , PLEASE TELL HER OK?
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Reba (f)
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@ lover boy Sousas
I'm not in love with u and y Venice is supporting me is because shes ma girl she feels me u know , its a girl thing so do'nt bother to mail me ok, but any how u r a gentle man but if u happen 2 have a galfrend(not me ofcourse)in order to avoid this masturbation thing give it all to her u know,
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toshmann (m)
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na wa o, so nairaland is a new zone for acquiring girl friends. lol na wa ooooo |
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sasuos (m)
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@reba @venice.
YOU SEE, REBA FEELS VENICE AND VENICE FEELS REBA, DE 2 OF U KNOW WHAT U VE BEEN DOING TO YOUR BODIES, WHY R U ALL DODGING THE QUESTION? I ASK AGAIN PLEASE WHAT IS CHEATING?
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Reba (f)
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@ sasuos
1. To trick or deceive somebody especially when they trust u.
2. Having a secret sexual relationship/affair with somebody other than ur partner for more information consult ur dictionary,
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sasuos (m)
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@REBA
OH, U SEE NOW? having SECRET RELATIONSHIP OR AFFAIR, do U MUSTERBATE SECRETLY OR OPENLY. THAT SECRET RELATION WITH bottles, bananas, pen, vibrator , kitchen stool, firewood etc, are these not cheating ?
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chinani (f)
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@ sasous No, that is NOT cheating. The relationship is with somebody, not something. Consult your dictionary as she has adviced you sha! @ Reba Er, don't think it must be secret. We all know people who cheat in the street per say. Holla.  |
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Reba (f)
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@ Sousas You really can'nt get it! can you?and you are crazy  from the list u mentioned which one of those u have/had a relationship with, boy u scaring me.I thought telling u to consult ur dictionary would help.And by the way masturbation is not cheating at all, just get a life u really need it and get over it SUCKER |
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