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ksmiles
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I am sure you do have your reasons for having keep yourself till date, so Why would you want to do it now after so many years,
From my own view, I feel if the guy really loves you, for real, he will wait up for you and if he keeps on telling you he wants to break up with you, I think you should find your self another loving man that cares about you, This one doesnt care at all,
"Relationships are like snapshots; some you remember and some you forget, but some you never develop and you never get to see how they would have turned out."
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akara (m)
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Don't believe that you are 27 and still asking this question on a forum.  |
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olujyde (m)
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Fellow Mairalanders.
Please, this lady needs our candid advise nothing short of it.
Baby girl. My advice is that, you should be the judge, you know this guy in question more than any of us her.
My personal experience is this:
I met a lady like you, who happens to be a virgin. I am 5years older than her and I told her that we must make love to confirm our sexual compatibility, I really love her to marry her.
she succumbed and we did. Now we are Happy married with a Girl and a Boy.
so dear. weigh this guy. Quest to know him more. Is he serious or just want to use and dump? answer all these frankly and you will arrive at an answer.
Wishing you the best in life. Dont treat your man as a boyfriend and afterwards loose him.
God bless all our women!
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diyobdw (f)
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I guess it is more of do you want to ? If yes - well, why? is this right with why you havent ever since? If no- say good bye to him and guy probably more serious would come sooner than you think. But note: if you ask large number of ladies who are not virgin if they truely wish they didn't give it to their first sex partner their answer would be Yes. You would be better off with someone who would appreciate the honours  and without threats  remember its a one way road no turning back once you go forward  |
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Bblak (f)
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If the man in question is worth the stress then ,i will advise that you sit him down and talk things over with him by asking for his patience and understanding.If otherwise,Please don't give up your pride for an inconsequential idiot that is more interested in having sex with you as a way of displaying his love to you than loving you for who you are  .Kip your head up girl, take your time and i tell you that the man that will take you for who you are and not for what you av to give will come your way.Gdluck
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oko-omoge (m)
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Poster u said u love this B/f of urs to da bone! if u really love him why are u guys still on B/F and G/F at your age?
You got to wake up and get direction, You should know what u want from a relationship before walking into it.
Sit and think on what level are u operating with this guy of yours, hInts:
1, Is your relationship just for flings,party just someone to help u unwind.
2, Is your relationship defined to be a courtship type that would lead to saying I do!
3, I syour realtioship for material gain, what da guy want to offer in term of money or other stuffs.
Ask yourself why am i dating this fella! where is da relationship heading to.
Baby until u define things and set out to achieve your desire about relationship u going to be in the same relationship.
I won't blame da guy, may da guy feels tha relationship is just some of those escapades to count how many girls have i laid. u too have different reasons for being in the relationship .
Think my Girl.
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phanty (f)
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@ poster re u sure u don't no what 2 do or u just want people 2 buttress your pt because i think u re old enof 2 no d rite nd wrong tins. let me assume u do not no what u shld do i can't possibly quote all d people that ve said d arite stuffs here even if they mite not b that reasonable so what re u stil waitin 4? ?? |
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ademiife (m)
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To be a virgin is very commendable. Your kind is rare. Having said that, one must realize that it is easier to be critical than to be correct. And, each one of us, from time to time have the demon ride over us -but we have to give battle in the end.
Are there not times when we are just feeling distraught, times when we tend to lose sight our moral compass and are inclined to wander, sometimes, it's not as if we don't know the right thing to do; it's the enormity or otherwise of our action or inaction that benumbs us. In the case of Akete, she may know quite all right that premarital sex is not scriptural [or, she may not be prepared for it], yet, she's not finding easy to lose someone she's always loved [who ever finds that easy?], Let's put ourselves in her shoes:
For me, I'll help the boyfriend to understand how much it means for me to have come this far as a virgin. Make it clear to him how much I love him and that I don't want to lose him. [It is also instructive to know and understanding where the guy is coming from, has he been practising premarital sex before we started a relationship? has been trying to have self-control until the recent outburst? The guy needs help. Just telling him to go to blazes with all the love we've shared doesn't come that easy!
Can I get to know other reasons why he wants to have sex with me? Can I carefully explain why I don't want to have sex now without being sanctimonious? I'll have to discuss with him in earnest before I decide the next step of action, in summary: if he insists on sex before marriage, I'll know it's time to say adieu!
To leave the one I TRULY love is not easy, I'm sure it's not going to be easy for you too, when push comes to shove. Whatever happens, remember, don't forget, emotion may warm reason, it must never overrule it. Best wishes from me dear!
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real_demi (f)
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@Poster the guy is not worth a pinch of your salt. forget him! Purge yourself of the 'love' to the bone. Or u will ever regret it.don't think u're getting too old. that good guy will surely come, who will appreciate u for who u are and not what he can get. just wait for God. @ victorian that u love a guy does not mean u should sleep with him. sexual compatibility means what?? People sleep with harlots and do not bother to first know about compatibility. that's just some lies being pedalled about for free sex. Love is patient and seeks the good of the other party and respects the other's opinion. Poster isn't ready to give up her treasure, why should he threaten to have it? He's just some disaster waiting to happen. |
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fesse (f)
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@ poster, in my opinion, if you r truly inlove and attratced to your guy i don't see anything wrong in making love to him; why say 'sex? its sounds COLD. its as if eithr of you are not truly inlove bt just there for company. Its understandable when what a girl needs at certain time of her life is just a good friend, she can count on without sexual intimacies. If he truly loves you and is understanding, he will try to make you feel relaxed about making love to him not pressuring or threathening you about it.
And if you truly love him, d real love O! lovemaking will simply come very natural between both of u. and also i can sense a fear that he might walk out on you, if you sleep with him. My dear, walking out on someone goes both ways, being married as avirgin, or marrying the first guy that disvirgined you, does not guarantee happiness, fulfilment in marital life. sometimes the lady might end up not liking the way the guy makes love to her when she finally ties the knot wiht him. Inner doubts within her mind starts cropping up, she may ignore it but deep down she knows , she's not satisfied sexually and she will either resign herself to her fate or handle it in a different way.
This guy is also unsure too, he wants to know if both of you are sexually compatible apart from being very close friends and doing things togther.
please don't be scared of knowing yourself better sexually, when you are ready for it;because it will help you to choose a compatible partner as a husband when the time comes.
Best of luck with your decisions , but think about it.
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mekoyo (m)
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Dont give in to him. That is not love he'll just get what he wants from you and finally dump you for bad.
Love is not all about sex. If loving entails sex then everyone on earth would have been disvirgined, so don't give in to him at all.
Who says the first guy that asks you out loves you anyway? I beg leave that guy, he's not for you.
Infact forget about that relationship and any other one for now.
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Busta (f)
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He doesn't love or respect u if he threatens u like that.
besides, @ 27 u shld know better that he prolly wants to get with u just because of SEX.
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McDreamy
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Every man wants to sleep with "his" woman whether they admit it or not. The difference between us is when do we want to do it - immediately after meeting the girl, 2 weeks after, 6 months after, after marriage etc. At least your man was bold enough to say it!
Its all up to you - do u want to or not? With him or another man? When do u want to? Now or in 6 months or after marriage (that is if u do). . . Most importantly, what kind of relationship do u have with this guy?
EVERYONE, pleasestop talking about "@ 27 u should know better", we all know how love makes us all irrational! ABEG!!
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ibrahiem (m)
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it all depends on u,that is if u have told him of your status as virgin or not. if yes,dump his ass. if no,tell him and observe him BUT ONE THING IS CERTAIN u definate most give it away one day INVOLUNTARILY so,y not give him because da next guy will ask 4 dasame thing darling,da world is really a cruel place if u don't give what u treasure da most,u end up wit nothing ALL THOSE PRETTY CHICZ ADVICING NOT 2 GIVE HIM, HAVE GIVEN THEIR'S SO DAT THEY CAN KEEP THEIR GUYZ @ HOME. ON A SERIOUS NOTE,IF HE IS WORTH IT GIVE HIM AND IF NOT,SHOW HIM DA WAY OUT |
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jadeola (f)
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Oh please let him go, he probably just wants to use you for sex. If your relationship is serious why dosen't he just ask you for marriage if he really loves you.
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SSK8BOARDG (m)
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so have sex with him 3 times a day. thats the best advice i can give you
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Boitatelo (f)
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l suggest you leave him cause he is compromising your principles,say you sleep with him,what guarantee do you have that he wont leave you?lts just not worth it!
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uche1 (m)
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Give it to him if you have it
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A-40 (m)
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Have you been spending his cheese? if you have then you better give him some sugar
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fntekim (m)
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Give it to the bobo jare.
Sooner or later u may
loose it in ways u never
planned for.
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choco4life (m)
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Girl get layed,
Just kidding,
SEX is not equal to love,move on and get a better guy.
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mongopark
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akeye or whatever your name is,why are u very stingy.
why not donate generously to the poor guy.
you are starving the poor guy.
remember that God loves a cheerful giver
please allow the poor guy to have his way.
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phanty (f)
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@ mcdreamy
thank u oh like she doesnt know what to do or the people advicin dnt no beta. my daer i didnt say GIVE OH m jut sayin sumtins re not opt 4 discussion nd no guy shld come in here nd start formin MR I CAN UNDASTAND when all of una follow abeg in the first place u Y DID You VE TO WAIT DIS LONG? nd Y RE You TINKIN OF GIVIN IT UP NOW?
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parislomo (f)
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This is the second time I'm secondING Yimiton, because she captured it the way I see it! Girl at 27 you seem to loosing grip but hey, you need to stay strong because your waiting years are almost over. I'v got your back though because I know perfectly well what you are going through. AND AGAIN I SAY STAY STRONG, THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH
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denony (m)
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Baby girl it depends, maybe thats the way he want to express his love. But how long have you been together, the decision is left for you, How strong is the relationship, how far have you gone in the relationship.
Just sleep over it, and sit him down for explanations, i think he will respect your decision.
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Seun (m)
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Baby girl it depends, maybe thats the way he want to express his love. Buhahaha. How old are you? |
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Shinatu
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@ChyChy
You don't have sex just because you want to do it, imagine what this world would be like if we all had sex simply because we want it!
We are not animals and we have the ability to manage our emotions.
@Poster
This guy is not the one you should 'want' to sleep with, if you already 'want' to, please 'dewant' to
quickly, you can do it( i.e dewant), it will not kill you.
Your husband is out there waiting to cherish and adore you, if this guy is the one, he should come back to his senses quick.
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ayomifull (f)
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I'll advise you from experience my sister's fiance left her because she refused him sex she was about 29 years then althoug unlike you she was not a virgin. She cared less and went on with life imagine in London where husband dey scarce but believe me that guy came back, they are now married with 2 boys and 1 girl. Borrow leg and run from that guy who gave you such condition its not a sign of great love, ok?
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NV ME
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dnt be greedy, people like u end up getting married @ old age
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lanrelagos
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ma sista,abeg no mind the yeye guy jare.he's only after wot u gotunderneatth
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