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jujukemist (m)
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you can't just dump your boyfriend b/because of that, you need to identified the problem.
Which problem, you funny or na mumu you be. The bobo they threaten. Girl tear race that guy go marry you they still cut mess for outside |
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queencyb (f)
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hHey girl,i have been inn such situation and i said no,thereafter the relationship was broken and i knew i was going to get over him despite that i love him.Cuold you imagine that later i found someone who is twenty times better than him,ready to support my drreams and we share the most things in common.He is every thing you could want in a man,God fearing.Take your time and be very careful,sincerely speaking HE DOESNT LOVE YOU.Get that into your head,he loves you because he wants you and when he is through he'll say''YESSSSSSSSS I GOT HER.don't be fooled girl,open your eyes.
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Ada_4u (f)
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Sweet sister, am 27yr old and still keeping myself waiting for that faithful day. It will come after my weeding. Many have preserved themselves that way and today, they are very proud of it.
Please don't try it. He does not have true n sincere love for you. Man that has true love for u can never dump u bc of sex.
BE VERY CAREFUL, IF You LOOSE IT, ITS GONE FOREVER. IT CANNOT B RESTORED. God wants us to keep ourbody till we get married. Since u ve not started, please don't start it.
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meme21
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If he is threatening to break up with you for not having sex with him he probably isn't worth keeping.
That is not a man acting out of love that is just a lustful desire , You don't want to loose your virginity to a guy like that, trust me you will regret it in the future!
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angola_g (m)
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@Poster,
I will not say its a nice idea if he gives up just because you are not going to have sex with him.But what is the need of having a Boyfriend with out sex?If you are not ready for such demands never go into such relationships.I believe you are up to 18 years or above that any persons of such age should know by now that sex at a point in time will chip into the relationship if not the male it could be from females.The feelings will always be there,No pretense here.I strongly suggest you stay single if you are not ready for such.If you truly love him tell him you love him but you can't have sex at this time period.His attitude will determine where the relationship is heading to. Remember like Tu-face said no start wetin u no go fit finish oohh
, PEACE,
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Gwazah (m)
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Ada_4u! how many times did u go to church a day?
Angola i dey feel u dear she should stop wasting serious people time she should stay without relationship and see who will come and pick her for married.
there is this saying 'use what u hav and get what u want' nobody know either is because u are good in bed and that will give u husband, forget my dear e no dey easy to get husband, now na try your luck till u will get it one day open your eye girl
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davedesire (m)
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Hey Girl, for real, you shouldn't give in to his demands. I am a guy, I know that but this issue of a guy threatening to pull off the relationship because of sex, grrhhhhh, just don't give in to that. I do say that to a few girls I have met, but really when they refused, I just let them be.
And to you guys, most of you have sisters, we should all be careful of what we do to other peoples sisters, because its not nice to see our sisters in such a situation. If it is the girl demanding for it, that would be a different thing or if she is in the mode. that would have been a different thing.
We should learn to appreciate our ladies and not see them as tools for sex alone.
My friend, if he wants to call it a quit, be the first to dash out of the game. There are more than a million cute, honest, handsome, sexy looking and trust worthy guys out there, ready and willing to wait for you to be ready for it.
My Regards,
P.S. guys, this is not a war lol, just a contribution from a normal guy.
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whitelexi (m)
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I still stand by my opinion that she shouldn't find it difficult to dump him except she gains something therein. If she accepts all the nice things he throws at her then she has to dance to the music.
I really don't see why this thread exists in the first place if it is very easy to dump his ass. Love alone cannot make you come and post this issue here because its not hard to say goodbye to him.
We all know what is right and what is wrong, but we also know what leads to these situations.
Flee from the evil, but if you choose to dance to the tunes then prepare to play along.
Many people come here and say "dump his ass" or "its wrong", everyone knows whats right and wrong, but when giving advice - look at the situation from all possible positions. Dont come here to act the saint, many would do worse if they find themselves in her shoes, and when i say many i mean both the girls and the guys, and even some of those who have commented so far!
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omuanp (m)
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do what is right to prove your love for him. if the basis of your relationship with him is just sex then don't do it.
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bigsholy60
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well,to me i blie u should give it to him because to an extend sex is part of a relationship.
anyway,the choice is urs
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olrotimi (m)
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avoid that guy like severe combined immune disease (SCID) ITS WORSE THAN AIDS
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MasterUwem (m)
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Babe for get that guy, he jst want to use u and domp u, keep your virginity if really u are a virgin,  |
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kateflow (f)
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omo abeg bone the guy jo
is not worth it
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MP007 (m)
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why did u get yourself into a relationship when u know u aint truly ready yet, You don't need a man to validate u. Dnt have boyfriend to please friends and the society, If u aint ready then u aint ready ,
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twinstaiye (m)
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The truth is you know him better than any of us, so you can be the judge like a lot of people say in here. What I however wish to add is that, whether you like it or not, you will lose it one day. Another thing is, who and when you want to lose it is another thing you are to be the judge here. However, if you think he is worth the person you want to lose it with, why not go ahead, nobody can take that decision for you. Another angle you should look at it is that, a lot of girls do not put up advice before losing their own, so by doing this, you risk a lot of confusion. Losing virginity is a thing of heart, a personal thing because you live with it for the rest of your life. My candid advice to you is that, if you are so sure you are not keeping the virginity till when you get marry, lose it with a man you know very well you wont regret losing it to. If your present guy fall within that category, go ahead my dear and have sex with him, but if you are so sure you are keeping it till when you get marry, sit him down and let him see reasons, by so doing, you will know if he loves you for marriage or for sex, if he still threaten to dump you after this serious heart to heart discussion, dump him first before he dumps you.
One other angle I am looking at this scenarios is that, what happen to his own sex life too? Is he also a virgin? does he get his groove somewhere else? this also should let you take decisions. If during your courtship, he get his action somewhere else, which you don't complain about, then he wanted to do it just for the sake that no other man beat him to it, but if he is also a virgin, and you are sure he is not cheating on you, then he should see reasons for your keeping your own too.
Now finally, the angle of friends is also there, his friends might be the one poisoning his mind that he should do it with you. Men had been known to always put pressure on their friends to have sex with their GF, How do you know his friends, can they do something like that? etc.
See why I said the decision is yours, all I do here is guess work, because we don't know much between you too. But with much a lot of people had said so far, i want to believe you should be able to take a decision. goodluck!!!
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fawwyb (m)
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Give him then he will dump you.,
Don't give him then he will dump you too.
Hes got no love for you, ok?
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aiphiee (f)
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Nicely put: if he loves you,he'll wait Reality: Dump his Ass!  |
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yewa-man (m)
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My sister, the guy will have sex with you (thats if you given to his
presure), and break up with you the next day,
date someone who will love you for you.
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Glorya (f)
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my dear, no one should force/cajole you into doing what you don't want to do. Its a free world so if you feel that you are not comfortable with this his threat, take a walk. Love does not give conditions, thats one thing i am sure of, try talking to him and let him see things from your own side of view. If you have been keeping yourself this long for whatever reasons, either religious, moral or just personal conviction then my dear i will say you have gone too far to look back. Just keep being who you are.  |
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Shinatu
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Sex does not perfect love-------that only happens in movies!
Love that is not perfect before sex will not be perfect with sex.
It may seem perfect initially after sex but just wait a little while.
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bennygee (m)
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a beg make the guy do the thing.
you sef never tire to keep that your virginity.
cobwebs go soon grow there o!
even if he breaks up with you later,its not new because you're not going to be the first victim of "hit and run"
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ojoagefu (f)
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file, he is not for you
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2009DOREEN (f)
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MY FELLOW MEMEBER, A FRIEND OF MY ALSO HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM RIGHT NOW THE BOY FRIEND JUST CALLD HER THAT THEY SHOULD CALL IT A STOP. THEN I ASK ANYTHING IS THE MATTER SHE SAID , THAT SOME FEWS MONTH NOW SHE HAS FAIRS TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM DUE TO SOME COMMITMENT AT HAND.OF WHICH SHE EXPLAIN TO THE GUY HE PRETENED THAT EVERTHING WAS OK BY HIM
UNKNOWN TO THIS LADY THAT AFTER THE GUY SAW HIM OFF, THE NEXT DAY THE LADY FLASH THERE WAS NO RESPONSE IF IT WERE TO BE B4 THE GUY WILL DEFINETLY CALL BCK. THE LADY STILL KEEP ON CALLING THE GUY SAID AS FAR AS HE IS CONCERN THAT THE RELATIONSHIP HAS END. SP PLEASE YOU GUY SHOULD HELP OUT FOR THIS MATTER IS MORE THAN MY CAPACITY.
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ikhideman (m)
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Simple! When a guy is genuinely in love with a lady, sex doesn't come to his mind.
The way guys and ladies think & feel are totally different. If u give in, u would think he loves u more than before; he actually loves the sex & when another beauty shows up, off he goes!!
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nafsquare
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that is just what he want frm u. please stick 2 your NO.
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ultimos
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:)I understand you because no oneis above mistakes 'but this is no laughing matter,so give your totally to Godwho, will never live nor forsake you rather than a mare man,who will definitly kill,steal &destroy you.Think about he is not worth it go on with your life be strong&the lord will bring the right man your way.
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kbone (m)
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I have dated a good number of ladies in my short lifetime, on 3 occasions i have dated women who don't want sex on another hand 2 occasions i have done the opposite. The first (no sex) lasted 2 years, the 2nd 4 weeks, the third is still on-going (over a year) and i intend to keep it that way. My point is the one that lasted 4 weeks. I did not give her an ultimatum, nope i just broke the whole thing up because i understand no guy is "worth" giving it up for (it don't mean things wont fall apart). Truth is that i broke up with her not because of the sex but because i discovered that we were headed nowhere (the sex was just the cover up excuse and it made sense). So i agree; a guy who gives an ultimatum for sex is no good, if you want the sex get out of the relationship and don't give deadlines because u aint worth it!
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spoilt (f)
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Kick his sour arse out of your life. next time he mentions sex, stuff his mouth full of tissue paper! |
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Nameless1 (m)
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y don't u want to have sex,
is it for religous belief or jus waiting for the right man
the world is simple, only 2 basic rules, what do i want and what don't i want
after you find your answer you will know what to do my dear, but its a mans job to make the moves , u feel me
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spoilt (f)
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but its a mans job to make the moves , u feel me
who taught you that? That is so wrong! |
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