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chi-nne (f)
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My aunty is presently married with a kid now, but back in the days when she was still single she used to date this guy who even all of us get to know loves her so much.
But then the guy was aspiring to travel to Switzerland for greener pastures, when he finally left, it was'nt up to 12 months and my aunt got married to another guy.
Now to our greatest surprised, last month, his then boyfriend came back from Switzerland and before you know it he got auntys mobile no and started calling her,
told her he was back but aunty refused to go and see him instead invited him over for a dinner with her Family including the husband ,
after the dinner, he never stops disturbing her till date, he said he has come back to take what rightfully belongs to him.
He has even gone to her parents to tell them his intention , he is really desperate to have her back,
My aunt when asked if he proposed to marry her before he traveled , said no but they were only saying, if its God wish they will get married, she also said that the guy have always said it when they were dating, that even if she was married when he comes back(from Switzerland) that he will come for her,
Now he has finally done as he said, the lady is turn apart, she has gone on holiday to stay with her parents for some time to get over this,
Can any one here tell me what you feel about this whole thing, its crazy in deed.
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daisyjo (f)
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very crazy indeed.If i were in her shoes,i would get it all in the open and tell my husband.keeping secrets like this can be disastrous.THE ex will blackmail her if she knows she's scared of letting her husband know.if her husband is mature and really loves her,he should invite the guy to a nuetral place and tell him that he knows of his past relationship with his wife,appreciates the fact that he also loves her,explain again that his wife has moved on with her life by getting married to him and advise mr ex to also move on.The man should be made to know that should he try anything funny,the issue will be reported to the police. I do before but i no do again no be wahala.It takes a real man to take a "no" for an answer  |
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opokonwa (m)
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This is really crazy.
I do not know what to make of it.
The guy is really a tempter a son of the devil tempting a married woman.
I think your aunt's present husband should be made aware of the danger that poses his marriage. I don't think your aunt should shield him from this.
As that would tantamount to her trying to work it out alone. Besides it would put her to more pressure and I don't see her winning.
Both couple should stick together now as glue AND FIGHT OFF THIS INVASION.
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G-money (m)
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There's nothing crazy about this. Your aunt is married. She needs to tell the obudo-oyibo guy to buzz off. She's another man's property. She should not be entertaining his calls if he's calling to have her back.
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chika98
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What's crazy about this? She needs to stop entertaining him SIMPLE!
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eezzy (f)
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I fully agree with Chika, the lady needs to tell that man
in no uncertain terms that what was is gone and cannot be
revisted. Becoming a refugee at her mothers will not help her
because eventually she'll be back and the guy will start again.
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mutter (f)
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, greener pastures? Don´t be surprised if her family is in support because of hard currency  |
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Pappyjesby (m)
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The woman shouldn't hide anything from her husband in the first place, she should have opened up to him and let him know what had transpired between them before the guy left for switzerland.
It's like the woman is still interested in the old relationship, if not she shouldn't have invited him for dinner, the issue of invitation to dinner should not have come up at this time, the moment the guy had made his mission known to you the next thing to do is to sound it loud and clear to him your position concerning the matter, you cannot eat your cake and have it. My advise for the woman is to sit down and think very well, is she still interested in the Swiss man or her present husband, then she should choose and make her stand known to every one. It is then her real husband can
come to her aid and protect her from the intruder.
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almondjoy (f)
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Your aunt must be dissatisfied with her husband for her to be feeling like a "teenager" again. She has 2 options.
If she is not happy with her husband, she needs to tell her husband and leave the marriage. It feels like she still has feelings for the Swiss bobo. No problem there, but she must leave her marriage first before she commits adultery and ruins her home.
Or,
Your aunt should be strong and face her marriage. Just explain to "Mr. Swiss Cheese" that she is flattered but no thanks. The grass is not greener on the outside
This Swiss bobo must have a lot of guts to come into a man's house who hosted him and abuse his hospitality. I do not know why he just can't let her be and respect the fact that she is married.
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omena555 (f)
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ur aunty has to let everything known to her husband and also let her ex know that she is married now and hence not interested. but there is need for caution in all this. everything should be done carefully. there have been cases where aggrieved parties have ended up hurting their victims, some even resulting in acid baths. reason being because the guy feels cheating (to him oh) and decides to get revenge before disappearing finally. so please u all have to be very careful about the whole thing. also commit it to God in prayers and ask Him to allow His peace reign in ur aunty's home.
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uchetobi (f)
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She should cut him off from her life, what is a married woman doing entertaining an ex lover, she should tell him its over, as in OVER and asks that he leaves her in peace
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