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sansil (f)
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ur husband is travelling ,and u r packing his clothes and u discovered a sachet of condoms and when u asked him he was like is it not good to be protective incaes of anything. tell me the ladys it were u will u stll trust him, and how will u feel,and u guys can u do such to your wife u said u truely love even if she is ur girl ,please i need replys
and please how can i post this tread on general post please
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mamaput (f)
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throw him out or tank god that he is using condom.
what dose he mean that you are over protective are you his mother or wife or did you mean to say possessive.
most german women would have thrown him out.
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Seun (m)
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If he's going to cheat on you, then please let him use condoms. Condoms are the least of your problems in that case.
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sansil (f)
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sorry for typing errors, he said he needs it so as to protect himself incase of anything, but i thought we are married and we are supposed to remain faithful to eachother,so is this not like a slap on the face.
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$$Rhino
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You should be happy that he is thinking with his head and not with his 'head", because if he mess up without protection and he is stamped with them bad diseases, he will share with you too, so instead of slap in da face, help him to even pack them condoms, i am not condoning cheating oh, but at least, let him cheat safe
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mutter (f)
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Don´t even mention it. That is what I will do. PACK THEM SO THAT HE SEES THEM AND KNOWS YOU HAVE SEEN THEM BUT DON´T MENTION IT. When a man thinks of cheating a wife should think of what her husband is missing.Some women just think that when theyare married they don´t have to make much effort anymore, some men are not ready to accept it and go in search of what they are missing
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vigasimple (m)
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@ poster
I am sure your husband has no excuse in my opinion.
He is already cheating on you, and should at least respect you. What kind of excuse is that, imagine it is the reverse, the whole world will hear about it.
I think you should sit him down and find out whether there is anything that you can do to make that aspect of relationship much better and not in need of 'spoilt' (as the Bible refer to it)
It is infidelity as simple as that and no excuse, he should be talking to you or how to enjoy each other better not thinking what 'if' nonesense, that he needs to protect himself, from sex attacker or what?
You really need to talk and sort it out before you become a victim of broken home. That will never be your portion in Jesus Name.
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Leilah (f)
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That is just crazy! sure what if the condom split?? that can easily happen. Western ladies wouldn't put up with that SHI* as a matter of fact why should you put up with a man that has been up other women? YUCK!
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Leilah (f)
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Obviously he intends on having a great time with other women whilst having you at home. Why is he travelling alone anyway? apart from that you are in Germany yeah? you are not in Nigeria why should you have to put up with this dirty man. Bible this, bible that, he is a cheater. I just don't know why some on this sit are of the view that becuase he had condoms its ok. You are his wife for Gods sake. Let man travel alone is like giving a child candy.
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spoilt (f)
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next time you are travelling, pack yours!  |
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SwtNsoFLyy (f)
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what was your response to that?
One thing I can't STAND worse than lyers, is a man who plays also mind games. The way he responded to you was a psychological game he is using to divert his wrong into a 'right'. thus confusing the hell out of you,, IF! you allow it. First of all, i agree with the idea of protection, with a single man, but when a husband carries around condoms it is an indication of a married cheater who is still out there getting his,
I personally can't tolerate a cheating husband , yea, some guys may say, there is no proof he cheated asides finding the condoms, but that alone raises suspiscion. I agree with sitting down, and talking about it. From my experience, talking about it,, my x husband, seemes so genuine, when he said he wouldnt do it again, so I'm not against forgiving. What I am against, is repetition, over and over and over and OVER again. plus some.
love & light,
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almondjoy (f)
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Well good for him. That tells me he is probably getting "better sex" outside the house and it is time to move to a separate part of the house--with a lock on all doors. Head straight to my doctor's office to get a good physical. Then to the attorney's office to make sure my living will is updated to protect ma kids. No need for divorce since the next one would be no better--don't even want to know. At this stage I think the sex is pretty much out of the way and we can go the "agape" route. He becomes my brother henceforth. The only reason for my divorcing him personally---not speaking for others---is physical or emotional abuse. Infidelity---naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Not much fuss at all. I sure will take care of ma needs though--with or without him.  He will have to be around to raise those kids and sending him away will make it too easy. To listen to all that noise by maself?  --LIke I am crazy or something? Oh no--too easy I say. We can conveniently leave in the same house and see how matters progress. If he want's a divorce---he will have to file for one and pay all expenses. Not my business really.  I would rather sit and watch for a while and sort out ma feelings so I can make a concrete decision finally. No need to make any rash decisions unless he gets violent or abusive to me or the kids. Worst case scenario--he gets the kids and I pay him child support. Not going to play that fast one on me of being the "single parent". He is definitely going to be the single parent--guaranteed!  I will have visitation rights. |
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sansil (f)
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what was your response to that?
One thing I can't STAND worse than lyers, is a man who plays also mind games. The way he responded to you was a psychological game he is using to divert his wrong into a 'right'. thus confusing the hell out of you,, IF! you allow it. First of all, i agree with the idea of protection, with a single man, but when a husband carries around condoms it is an indication of a married cheater who is still out there getting his,
I personally can't tolerate a cheating husband , yea, some guys may say, there is no proof he cheated asides finding the condoms, but that alone raises suspiscion. I agree with sitting down, and talking about it. From my experience, talking about it,, my x husband, seemes so genuine, when he said he wouldnt do it again, so I'm not against forgiving. What I am against, is repetition, over and over and over and OVER again. plus some.
love & light,
well my dear, i was just dumbfounded ,i don't know if i should talk or not,i was just confused, so what do i do when he is back? |
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SwtNsoFLyy (f)
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well, my ex husband thought it was fun and games with his 'boys' until I had his a$$ escorted out of my house, and filed for a divorce. I tried 'talking', and forgiving tho that didn't stop him from running around with women. I didn't make a move until I got CONFIRMATION from God. I was depressed all the tyme, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the child, AND WORKING longer hours than he did. I prayed and asked God to show me what I need to do, and to give me strenth to leave,
Years later, we talked as 'friends'. He said, its not that the women were "better", but he was immature, and 'variety was the spice of his life" at that time. He said he would never marrry again, because he can never find a woman to meet up to my standards. so after I put it in God's hands, he is the one who suffered, not I.
Life is too precious to waste it on a cheater with so many diseases out there. There are some God fearing men in this world, that will love and respect you, but you must really consult God with a pure heart, your fears & tears, and expect a blessing from it. I can't tell u to leave, because God might whip him spiritually, then again, don't be fooled by a hipocrite. Use that inner voice that some people call " intuition", but better known as the Holy Spirit as ur guide,
best wishes, and know that while he thinks hes out there 'getting' his, by the tyme God finishes with him, he's really going to GET HIS.
In the meantyme, u better believe that he's playing mind games, and out there like a single man with no sexual boundaries with temptation. A weak man with no conviction couldn't roll with me,
love & light,
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sansil (f)
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well, my ex husband thought it was fun and games with his 'boys' until I had his a$$ escorted out of my house, and filed for a divorce. I tried 'talking', and forgiving tho that didn't stop him from running around with women. I didn't make a move until I got CONFIRMATION from God. I was depressed all the tyme, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the child, AND WORKING longer hours than he did. I prayed and asked God to show me what I need to do, and to give me strenth to leave,
Years later, we talked as 'friends'. He said, its not that the women were "better", but he was immature, and 'variety was the spice of his life" at that time. He said he would never marrry again, because he can never find a woman to meet up to my standards. so after I put it in God's hands, he is the one who suffered, not I.
Life is too precious to waste it on a cheater with so many diseases out there. There are some God fearing men in this world, that will love and respect you, but you must really consult God with a pure heart, your fears & tears, and expect a blessing from it. I can't tell u to leave, because God might whip him spiritually, then again, don't be fooled by a hipocrite. Use that inner voice that some people call " intuition", but better known as the Holy Spirit as your guide,
best wishes, and know that while he thinks hes out there 'getting' his, by the tyme God finishes with him, he's really going to GET HIS.
In the meantyme, u better believe that he's playing mind games, and out there like a single man with no sexual boundaries with temptation. A weak man with no conviction couldn't roll with me,
love & light,
thanks dear, i have been praying for him and believing my God will arrest him, all is in the hands of the Almighty, i hope he changes, all i can#t say now is how to face him when hes back,should i pretend that all is well,or should i confront him on it,?i just don#t know |
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SwtNsoFLyy (f)
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so,, why would u pretend that all is well, when it is not? don't lie to yourself with pretense mamma.
He left with the condoms, and know that you saw them before he left. Surely he is expecting you to question him, don't u think so? Leave it alone. don't act as if nothing is wrong, but you can ignore the hell out of him as if he is not there. If he chooses to act himself as if nothing happened, just keep ignoring him, sooner or later he will ask u, whats wrong. then look at him and say, "surely you can't be serious to not know what is wrong with me?" a little silent treatment will re trigger his sudden amnesia. When he brings it up, just let him do all the talking, you don't have to say a word.
Cook his meals even better than before. Press and iron his work shirts even sharper than before. (if you do that), just be more loving than before, and his conscious should somewhat WHIP his tail. You may never get an admission out of him, but all u need to let him know is, you put it in God's hands, and he will be dealt with if he is cheating. You have to be confident in your choice to let God handle it, and girl. thats the BEST weapon you can have against the enemy trying to tear down ur marriage. I tried to work myne out, but i came to realize that ALL marriages are not ordained by God. I did find out before my untimely death, and I'm greatful to be able to help u.
I have a few friends going through things, and its tough,, but just know that YOU GOT THIS,
love & light,
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adeboo (f)
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I am just keeping it real here - i would be happy that at least if he was going to play away, he will be safe.
So i would be glade.
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uchetobi (f)
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D condom wont vex me, its d rude answer that is vexing, il just let him go, by the time he comes back id have cooled down and decided what to do, I don’t know but a part of me tells me I may condone infidelity but disrespect NO WAY
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opokonwa (m)
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@POSTER
You are lucky you have one who plays it safe.
Many 'husbands' can be careless worse still, you will never know.
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spoilt (f)
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@POSTER
You are lucky you have one who plays it safe.
Many 'husbands' can be careless worse still, you will never know.
you call this luck?  |
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MP007 (m)
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what if your wife travels with birth control pills, would u freak out
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omoge25 (f)
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what if your wife travels with birth control pills, would u freak out
That is 2 different things; you have to take birth control pills everyday for them to keep there effectiveness, its not something that when you get ready to have sex you say "oh let me take my birth control pills now so i don't get pregnant as we are having sex." You just can't compare pills to him packing condoms. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Um why didnt you ask him what the condoms are for?
and who are the idiots saying "you're lucky he's playing safe"? How about he only "plays" with his wife like God intended?
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