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omogenaija (f)
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hey i got a question for ya'll. if your dad was cheating on your mom would you tell her  why or why not. |
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larger_20 (m)
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i will not tell my mom, but from that day, my dad will loose my respect for him. Same goes vise versa if my mom cheats, Oh by the what my parents are far from this at their current ages of over 50++++
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idiot-boop (f)
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Interesting one here. I did tell. When i was 6yrs old my dad used to take my sister and i to this woman's house after picking us from school and we were made to play in a different part of the house and kept entertained with sweeties and videos(it was the 80's). anyway i always felt there was something wrong about it, especially after my dad would disappear for weeks and months, saying he was on business trips. He was never there when my mum had my younger sisters,she had to go to the hospital herself and it was an extremely sad time for us and when people say kids ddon'thave a clue about things, they are wrong, i definitely knew what was going on.
I told my mum about this woman, she told her sisters and they asked if i was sure i said i could take them to her place. they were stunned and asked how a small girl would know the way to a stranger's house. I told my mum, ''dad takes us after school all the time''and she just wept. To cut a long story short, my aunts ,mum,uncle and i got in the car , drove to my school and i started giving directions from there and i could not believe how the roads all came to me so easily. although silently i was praying i got it right cause i had everyone worked up for a confrontation. Got there, led them to the house and my father was right there,both of them lounging on a hammock in the garden. Well it was not very pretty after that and i was promptly eescortedto the car by my aunt at that point.
We left my father, he came begging months after, i was praying my mum would not go back to him, even at 6yrs of age, i hated him for what he did to my mum. We found out that my father had been seeing this other woman since i was 3yrs old, mum got back with him but she was miserable, he carried on seeing the other woman cause after my mother died guess who became step mother? yes! She had been the other woman for as long as i can remember, tore our home apart, my sisters have trust issues because of this experience too and till this day my father can not look me in the eyes properly, cause he knows i know him for what he is. I Finally asked him after many years why he dididn'tust marry the other woman and have two, as most African men do? instead of lying and betraying us. He said your mother would not have been able to handle that and i said well you did worse, cause you should have let her go when she did.
To answer your question yes i will do it again and tell, just wish she was strong enough to stay away, she would have been happier and so would we.
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Zahymaka (m)
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Very touching  . I admire your courage -- always speak up. |
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2cantango (f)
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powerful and heart breaking story bettyboop  I'D certainly tell my Mum, she deserves to know. |
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mamaput (f)
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No i will not.
I will not tell my brother sister bestfriend or anybody.
my lips are sealed. But if they ask me if i every saw their husband wife with another woman then i cannot lie.
But run and tell no
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uhonmora (m)
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I'D first have a word with my father and tell him he has no reason to be unfaithful to his wife if he really loves her. If he continues, I'D tell my mum, because as someone said, she deserves to know.
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nawah (f)
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My Mum once asked me if I would tell her if I caught my dad cheating and I said no. She felt really bad. So when I did catch him Decided to tell her.
To cut a long story short - at the end of the day. My dad gave me a real trashing and warned me to keep my mouth shut. My dad told my mom I lied and she believed it. She even accused me of wanting to spoil the marriage.
No if I could turn back the hands of time - No never. It is their life and their problem.
Whether your dad or mum is cheating does not affect the love the have for the kids. It is only bad if the time for the kids falls short.
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larger_20 (m)
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My Mum once asked me if I would tell her if I caught my dad cheating and I said no. She felt really bad. So when I did catch him Decided to tell her.
To cut a long story short - at the end of the day. My dad gave me a real trashing and warned me to keep my mouth shut. My dad told my mom I lied and she believed it. She even accused me of wanting to spoil the marriage.
No if I could turn back the hands of time - No never. It is their life and their problem.
Whether your dad or mum is cheating does not affect the love the have for the kids. It is only bad if the time for the kids falls short.
Your dad is right, don't tell ur mom about it because it will do more harm than good. What u will do is loose your respect for ur dad. Face him bluntly and find out why he is doing it to ur mom, tell him to stop or else u will take neccesarily action. be constructive like a lawyer but don't just tell ur mom. Afterall if ur dad does not love ur mom, he probably wont be living with her. Its just that men are sexual objects and should be handled with care. Good luck |
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Free (f)
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if that ever happened, i will probably tell my mother  |
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nawah (f)
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Hmm that was over 20 years ago!
My mum is late now mydad remarried so it ´s all history.
Anyway I learnt my lesson real fast. Besides what was the point, he was constantly poking the women.
Married women, the househelps, he could not take his hands of them.
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Seun (m)
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You should give your dad a trashing someday. African men and their unintelligent wives.  |
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chinani (f)
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I would tell my mother. I've done it before, so it's old news now. As for the comments:
@ larger_20
Infidelity = lies. When you discover that your father is a liar then you loose respect because you thought he was a better person than that. I've had the experience so I'D know.
@ nawah
The time for the children always falls short. At least in the dozens upon dozens of cases I've heard/seen and my own.
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Badman888 (m)
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you should talk to ur dad instead not to tell ur mom they re to settle it their own way
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chinani (f)
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you should talk to your dad instead not to tell your mom they re to settle it their own way
Why? I don't owe my mother anything more than I owe my father. A child can't be wrong revealing that they know to the mother before the father. Anyhow, that's my attitude. I wash my hands of hypocrites and liars without blinking twice. |
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idiot-boop (f)
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The way i see it, lies lies lies cause one thing,Distrust across the board. So you know of an affair, mother or father is unhappy in the marriage due to the neglect on the part of the unfaithful person. There are countless arguments, fights going on, in my case i witnessed my father lie every time mum asked where he had been and then i am the child she holds when she cries , as a child i felt such a heavy burden, and felt she had to know. Sometimes its best especially when everyone is miserable and you know that only a split would give you a chance of some normalcy.
Someone said talk to your dad instead of telling your mum, well we know the answer to an upfront child in those days was a quick whooping, thats why people are so messed up these days, they can't tell the truth about anything. When a child makes a mistake the first remedy is a whooping , now tell me does that encourage a child to take responsibility for making a mistake? thesame mistakes adults make all the time too. Instead to save yourself from a beating you take the easy way out and lie through your teeth. I am glad my mother instilled truth in us and encouraged us to show our feelings, because sometimes kids could do with seeing their parents as human beings and seeing her in all her weaknesses made me realize that its ok to cry and bloody well scream loud when situations get too hard to bear.
Some men are good, my experience has not totally warped my mind, i have to believe in the goodness of human nature, this did not come naturally at all, i had to work at it and i am happier for it. I have a motto which goes; ''you are as happy as you allow yourself to be''
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nawah (f)
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How sadly right you are Bettyboop.
And it is really true you sometimes have to learn how to be happy.
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ope_emi (m)
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I don't know if either my mum or dad are cheating on each other,all I want to say is if one of them commit such an act,they will here from me. .But to tell u the truth no one can be trusted.  |
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omogenaija (f)
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thanks everyone for ur different opinions , love ya  |
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Seun (m)
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Omoge, is your dad cheating on your mom?
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Ryley (m)
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Right now, i'm not sure, but i think my dad is cheating on my mum. I'm still investigating. But so far, i have uncovered a MASSIVE amount of romantic text messages between him and some lady who is also married, but lives apart from her husband. What i'm not sure about, is if they are sleeping together. He's over 60,diabetic,hypertensive and has prostrate problems. I don't think i would tell my mum, i think it would really diverstate her, and there really is no telling what she would do to him or herself.
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soulpatrol (f)
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wow, idiot_betty. you're so deep and what i find amazing is that you didn't come out of that experience messed up like most people. you made the choice to work on it. i think people should learn some lessons from you. i wish you all the best!  |
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mamaput (f)
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wow, idiot_betty. you're so deep and what i find amazing is that you didn't come out of that experience messed up like most people. you made the choice to work on it. i think people should learn some lessons from you. i wish you all the best! [/quote hahahahahhhaha ome one catch me before i throw myself away. soulpatrol dose betty not have a history on nairaland.?? |
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soulpatrol (f)
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mamaput, please expantiate.
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mamaput (f)
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Her name is betty boo or boop or somthing like that not Idiot.
And she was involved in a big scandle.
I was a new commer then but it was all about the user(whats her name that faked her death)
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mamaput (f)
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Her name is betty boo or boop or ssomethinglike that not Idiot.
And she was involved in a big sscandal
I was a new commer then but it was all about the user(whats her name that faked her death)
yesher name was papermoon.
She not only ffakedher death but her whole life, from the job she had to the kids she had.
i mean did not have
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Busta (f)
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@topic
Yes I would tell her.
u knowing and living in the same house with her
u're indirectly making her look stupid.
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yankidelta
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wont tell, don't know y |
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Radiant (f)
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I WILL TELL!!! They're my parents and won't condone such a reckless attitude from either of them. NO NO NO!
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davidylan (m)
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I don't have the chance to say whether i will tell or not! My parents don't even know that the word "cheating" exists! Best model of a faithful couple. Most likely i wont tell but that parent should just forget the word "respect" where i'm concerned.
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Seun (m)
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Priority one: making him stop. Priority two: convincing him to always use a condom. Priority three: reporting.
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