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chucket (m)
Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« on: November 06, 2007, 04:01 PM »

I had known my girlfriend for almost a life time,
we loved eachother so much.I didn't fall in love with her rather I grew into love with her.
We knew were going to get married someday and we've been working towards that.

But we went for a genotype test the other day and we both happen to be AS!
I am confused on what to do! Do I forget science and marry her or should science decide my love?

Help me out I beg u good naira land users!

It feels like standing at the gate of hell!
opokonwa (m)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #1 on: November 06, 2007, 04:31 PM »

@poster

I'ld like you to reconsider your actions before you do it in the name of love.

I wouldn't want you to bring to the world a suffering child. Embarrassed
chychy (f)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #2 on: November 06, 2007, 05:06 PM »

U have to really think hard before u take a decision. AS means u're going to have sicklers and u may not,  is it worth takin the risk?
in some cases,  u might have just an AA kid and the rest'll be AS,

Personally, i'd choose love ova science but my dear i've never been in ur shoes so it might be easier for me to say love.

It's scary having to think of the financial, emotional and psychological trauma u could go through in the future and later on in life u ight ask yourself was it really worth it.

Sit down, picture yourself married to her and already with kids, picture the good and the bad and sincerely answer d question.

Goodluck                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
drrionelli (m)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #3 on: November 06, 2007, 08:27 PM »

@chucket:
Why not incorporate science and love?  Consider that you can still get married and adopt your children.  You'd be helping more than you'll ever realize in that capacity.
ThoniaSlim (f)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #4 on: November 07, 2007, 12:45 AM »

geeez, this must be a tough one for you both Sad
am kind of lost in this area  Undecided, because as much as i would want you both to get married
you also have to consider the sufferings this poor child would go through.
but i think its still possible. i have a cousin who's a SS, he's 26years now, and has outgrown it.
but i must say it was not easy, but i know what really helped him was mistletoe leaf tea. the natural mistletoe. the ones that grow on guava and orange tree and other drugs, i know it can be managed.

if you know you really want to go through this, then i suggest you have to be really prepared for both the emotional, psychological war you both might go through and the physical war your child might have to go through,   Sad
spoilt (f)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #5 on: November 07, 2007, 12:52 AM »

sickle cell has been succesfully managed in developed countries with drugs and good medical care. Its in nigeria/africa that its still big deal. (no pun intended ejo)
davidylan (m)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #6 on: November 07, 2007, 01:01 AM »

Bros, if i were in ur shoes i'd marry her.
Unfortunate that you are in Nigeria. Here you can easily determine the genotype of ur baby and then you can decide to terminate the pregnancy if it turns out to be SS.
chucket (m)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #7 on: November 07, 2007, 05:20 PM »

Thanks all of you who have tried to come to my rescue.
All ur suggestions are in line with what I'd been thinking of eversince.

It is not easy task and it takes a mature mind to take a step here,
I definitely will be taking a step!

I am not going back on any decision you people help me to take.

Dear, davidlyn I am not in nigeria but in the UK.What baffles me is that
the GPs here seem not to know enough about the management.

Thanks to you wonderful friends!
spoilt (f)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #8 on: November 07, 2007, 05:48 PM »

Quote from: chucket on November 07, 2007, 05:20 PM
I am not in nigeria but in the UK.What baffles me is that
the GPs here seem not to know enough about the management.


Sickle cell is a black man's disease. for some reason it doesnt plague white people thats why they may not know a lot about it. But i wish you the best and you may not even have a sickle cell child. My husband's brother defied his family and married his sweetheart. They are both AS. They have 2 sons. none sicklers! much to the relief of his whole family.  Grin
chucket (m)
Re: Please Do Help Me Now! Science Or Love?
« #9 on: November 07, 2007, 09:06 PM »

spoilt,
tenx for ur encouragement.I also would wish to have my kids without any of them being sicklers!
If it would take prayers,please do pray for me ok?

I can't imagine looking for someone else to love.
I have loved and I have loved!
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