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kennyg5055 (f)
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I'am a christian and my fiance is a muslim and we love each other, but my family does not want me to marry a muslim guy. And is not ready to change to christian likewise am not ready to change to his religion. And he said i can continue with my religion. Please advice.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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well this is pretty difficult. if you both are not ready to compromise, then am sorry to say you both might be wasting your time.
Also, trust me if you get married to him, there are high chances your going to convert into a muslim. i have seen a lot of women who got married to muslim men, and that was it they all became muslims.
i guess thats what your family is scared of.
Am sorry can't give much advice on this, because i kind of support your family. such relationships/marriages have a lot of problems because of the religious differences. but a few still succeed, but trust me only 5 out of hundred do. requires a lot stress to make it work.
You might wonder, why religion has to come between two people who love each other so much, but am sorry this is reality and the world is an unfair place.
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almondjoy (f)
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Always go with your "own kind" and avoid unpleasant conflicts as much as possible. Religion is too deep a subject to use as a "source of adventure in relationships". Life is tough enough, do not add to it by starting off in relationship with different religions. If you do not "speak" the same religion, how do you plan to raise your kids?  Goodluck.
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uchetobi (f)
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I wish I could say its not an issue but it it, it may look all easy now when the love is covering your eyes, after a while issues will arise because you guys will see things from two different perspectives, den also when the kids come and its time for them to pick a religion, it becomes an issue. I have a n aunt whose boy friend converted to Christian because of her, to avoid their parents wahala and to please her, after marriage the guy switched back to Islam, prevented her from going to church, it was really crazy. Today they are separated. Its really complicated, I suggest you chillax, weigh your options, look at d possible effect of your decisions as in the worst case scenarios, so even if you decide to still go ahead you know you have your eyes opened and are ready for whatever. cheers
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efuah (f)
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kind of difficult here. . . it's not that easy converting a "muslim man" into christianity, naaaah but it's rather easy for him to convert you to his religion, yeah!! after ur "marriage" a woman is required to be submissive. . which might be part of denying ur religion for his . . .it barely happens. . the earlier the better dear, do something fast before u do the "untold story" 
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efuah (f)
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I wish I could say its not an issue but it it, it may look all easy now when the love is covering your eyes, after a while issues will arise because you guys will see things from two different perspectives, den also when the kids come and its time for them to pick a religion, it becomes an issue. I have a n aunt whose boy friend converted to Christian because of her, to avoid their parents wahala and to please her, after marriage the guy switched back to Islam, prevented her from going to church, it was really crazy. Today they are separated. Its really complicated, I suggest you chillax, weigh your options, look at d possible effect of your decisions as in the worst case scenarios, so even if you decide to still go ahead you know you have your eyes opened and are ready for whatever. cheers
word!! exactly wht i meant.
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Nautillus (m)
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Galfriend, My sinsere advice is that you guys just have a sit down and run down your options, Believe me, its a shitty situation, i was in something like that that ran 4 about 9yrs,  I am a christian/she was not, the scares of that breakup will die with me, things got so bad that we almost agreed to have a love child so we could be ethernaly bound 4 life, Hear the words of experience, "Its a TIME BOMB waiting to explode" and believe me, it always explodes its very hard, but 4 your own say, u need to work at it and END IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! cheers 
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