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mikedeoye (m)
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Hi all, just want to hear your views on this!
"For how long (duration) do you think you will have to court your intended partner before marriage?" Or maybe I should rephrase the question as "what is your ideal time length for your courtship/relationship before marriage?"
Some people have suggested a minmum of 3 months while some say minimum of 2 years. What do you think personally?
As for me, I'm particularly uncomfortable with long relationships. Anything more than 1 year seem to be getting too long for me.
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sade (f)
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Too long courtship might be boring at times because even when you court for 100 years you can't be sure you know everything about your partner. There are some things about your partner you'll get to know even after the wedding so I don't really see any sense in long courtship. Being in courtship for long might be due to some circumstances, but I think two years is not that bad.
I leave the rest to Nairaland members.
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jogego (m)
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don't believe there should be a time frame for this
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hot-angel (f)
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As long as you want.
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hopy2005 (f)
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I will say that it depends on both party,
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CimonJorr (m)
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When you say courtship.. are u implying that the relationship is already on??
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Seun (m)
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Courtship should refer to when the relationship is already on. That is after she has said 'yes' to your marriage proposal. I don't believe in wasting time either; it is not compulsory for you to wait until you're ready to start 'breeding' before you get married! The moment you're ready to combine your life together, do it.
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buddy (m)
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You will never know all about your to be, if thats why you want a long courtship, so i say just get on with it when you have what you need to do it.
Long courtships don't guarantee a long and happy marriage, so whats the point?
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Chxta (m)
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Depends on a lot of things...
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DE-KING (m)
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I would advise b/w 6 mths to 1 yr. But it depends on a lot of things. For instance, the levels of one or the two of them i.e either working or not, one party schooling, etc.
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twinkledew (f)
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i do not know. never thought about it before.****dipest what do u think.lol
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dablessed (f)
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Since its courtship, i.e she has agreed to marry you - what next? Wedding preparations and other intimate marital talks.
Minimum 6 months, maximum two years.
Bear in mind, other partinent factors which could vary from individual to individual.
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yomidipset4eva (m)
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i do not know. never thought about it before.****dipest what do you think.lol
it should last till both parties are ready for the ultimate commitment , what's ur opinion twinkle  |
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twinkledew (f)
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25 years. just kidding. just felt like taking a mickey out of some people today
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CalabarMan (m)
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If courtship is the period between when the babe agrees to marry you (after the guy has proposed) and the time it takes to do the wedding, then I think that period should be very short 1 to 3 months depending on how fast you can put all the arrangements in place.
Now if relationship on the other hand is the period of time it takes to woo the babe, start dating to the time you ask her to marry you, then the period of time is variable as there are so many factors involved.
The problem most guys have is that from the first day they meet the babe they start proposing and telling her they want to marry, that to me is crap, never promise what you can't deliver, and you can't deliver if you don't know the babe that is why you need to date first. How long you date depends on the parties involved.
I strongly believe that by the time a man ask a babe to marry him he has already made up his mind and decided that this is his life time partner as such there is no need for further delay just get married as soon as possible.
A guy should never ever promise a babe marriage if his intention is just to sleep with her and move on, it is totally deceitful, unacceptable and unforgivable
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Latoya (f)
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As long as you think and feel you 've known the person very well
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gina34 (f)
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As a christian i would say 6 moths to a year
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smartsoft (m)
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well i would rather say if you are ready to marry your partner then u can court for long.. don't see notting wrong with that.
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gina34 (f)
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But ain't we forgetting something here, smartsoft, delay is dangerous.
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DE-KING (m)
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As a christian
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gina34 (f)
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@De-king  |
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DE-KING (m)
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@gina34, What this time?  |
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chrisd (m)
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3 months is crazy
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Lateefah
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For me, i will say too long courtship is rubbish. Once you have discorver your partner and u've agreed to marry each other, they why delaying yourself. Get married ontime and enjoy ur marital life.
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rubby (f)
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i think 2 years os good enough, but when u start having fights constantly over nothin, its time dear to hook-up finally  |
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Seun (m)
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When you have constant fights, it's a time to break up and not hook up!  |
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chrisd (m)
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That explains divorce in pentecostal churches. That must be it.
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Thagodfada (m)
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My analogy is this and please you college people out there correct me if I'm wrong.
It takes a student ONE SEMESTER or TWO to finish a course (e.g. chemistry)
OK, if it takes almost one year to study and pass a course, what makes you think you can study a person and find out if he/she is the right person for you in 1-3 months!
Divorce statistics will only keep going up.
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chrisd (m)
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I agree 700% percent with this one.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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when u ave taken time to kno each other and decide tie the big knot.u got to kno the kind of person u want to marry,so u don't have problems later in the marriage.
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