Are Nigerian Men Lazy Or Just Completely Insensitive?

Poor Chiogo let me not add to you pain but I'll advise you to proof read your topics next time before posting them and don't forget to use words like SOME, FEW, and so on instead of , you know lol. And did I hear you ask if cooking isn't enough work? I hope not! and lastly if you don't like or can't deal with Nigerian men, you might want to consider others when you're old enoughhhhhh!

This matter strong oh Naija men are not lazy they are practically playing the nigerian culture but that not a room to go with ur wife to the grocerioes store and watch her carry all the heavy stuffs

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Hold on! Where do you reside? I guess the US based on your posting! Did I mention language? No I said “accent”!
So what was your question---- “Are Nigerian Men Lazy or Just Completely Insensitive?” My answer ----only Naija women who come to the US try to turn the naija men into complete nonsense, just because they cannot maintain a balance between their culture and the new environment they meet themselves. Did I answer you question or you still think I am digressing. Sorry to say your thoughts of how a typical Nigerian man must behave has been affected by the US environment, thus your question.

Sometimes a conversation might get a bit technical so you have to be able to think ahead. And based on the fact that you are not close to the age of marriage, that explains you are a bit immature to understand the depth of a response.
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femo- u wan kill d poor girl, she just suggested in her words ow yung she is- don't bash her in an adult manner.

chiogo- this is N-LAND, u don't ask questions anyow, i understand ur point, only, u didnt put it accross nicely. askin a question like that suggests so many things[u didnt knw, now u knw-lessons on N-LAND].



@ u
what re u yappin about,60% of working women in Lagos use dia hard earned mony to buy clothes for owambe parties, so the wife works what effect does her mony have in that home. u gals ehn!! u say the craziest tins.

Is it too much to ask for guys to share our time of labor too? A lot of guys stick by their pregnant wives instead of running away or going out to get drunk. That's why people get married - to help each other through thick and thin. Afterall, didn't the guy put work into creating the pregnancy?

hey guys,

the truth be told; Nigerian men are insensitive. i am a man and i know the way we think.men believe they marry those women to do the chores. i once heard a guy tell the wife during a quarrel that i married you to wash and cook for me. imagine that kind of a phrase, quite discouraging.

i am of the opinion that men and women should share equal responsibilities at home. as in no one is bigger than the other. they are supposed to be companions. when men help the wives, it is romantic and fosters love. the ladies don't really need the help, they need the feeling that their men are sensitive to their needs.

niger men, please love your wives and treat them right.

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Chiogo----
People who understand what I am saying do and i guess you are not one of them. When a Naija woman leaves Naija and come to the US (example) they change into something else. Asking if a naija man is lazy or insensitive is based on a lot of factors, one being comparism. There must be a basis for your comparism and that could be related to behavior of other races and even other Nigerians in general.
But I must tell you, when a woman calls her husband lazy, that is insulting to him and vice-versa. It goes on to say a man can no longer perform his duty. But when you say insensitive, it is another ball game on its own.
How many women based in Nigeria will bother if their husband carries a bag for them or not. If it is too heavy for a woman to carry a few bags, then all she need to do is ask for a hand and if the husband does not help then you can qualify that as insensitive not lazy.
But when our Naija women get to the US they make new laws, come up with new ideas that is novel and want to perpetuate it. The irony of it all is that it starts from a simple question like yours, then a notch further. Give an inch they take a mile. Are you still at awe
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dude, u sabi talk person mind.CHAI!!!!! U be winch?

one of the repression women have faced and still face till today, the ability not to tackle real issues that affect them. SENSITIVITY my smelly socks. ow many of ur happy- very happy mothers back hia at home complained to you that ur fathers diddnt carry grocery bags? how many? omo mehn!! i tire 4 una o!!

  una don come turn to the proverbial oyinbo people -wey don chop bellyfull, wey dey look for "bekun bekun". u re runnin my mony on clothes and shoes that u don't really nid and yet u want me to still help u carry them stuffs?

IS IT UNTIL WE SAY -'YES MAAM, ' to everytin that we qualify to be called "SENSITIVE" and una go si don finish dey ask for equality of rights and all. yet when it is convenient u assume the weaker vessell posture and when it is not convenient u assume the 'equality war' posture. confusion confusion confusion

see when a generalized statement is made, ie 'NIGERIAN MEN', offense is bound to be taken by some. that nigerian Manchester United speak of is only one, not all. that's as if someone asked, 'why are black people robbers and thugs?',  i'd be like, hey wait a min,  because i know i am not one. my boyfriend is from ogun state and is in no way lazy - he works very hard and goes to school. nor is he insensitive - he constantly thinks of his mum & family back home and sends them money all the time. as 4 bag carrying bags, when we have groceries he lets me carry nothing! i feel sheepish as he carries even the bread. i have to wrestle w/ him to carry even such a small package lol. my shopping stuff is different i guess he knows i'm too ecstatic to have them so he doesn't interfere and i don't mind.   all in all, its not a guy's nationality that plays a role, but his personality and how he was reared. this thing has turned into something else resembling an attack on naija guys, which i am sure is not what was intended. it's a matter of how things are worded. sorry to have begun a chapter lol, i'll stop now. oh and to the one who said who cares about the us (or something like that), well,  thanx!      

Adetina - you're lucky in that case. There are not many of their kind. The fact that I think they are insensitive doesn't mean I shouldn't date them. It just means I shouldn't give too much thought into taking that relationship further. It's better that way. There's nothing worse than getting your heart broken by a guy who doesn't really care.

Put it this way! some African/American girls go through hell from their men, some Asians the same, some white folks the same, other African women the same! people from all colour and races go through one thing or the other intheir relationships but when it come to Nigeria, our women/girls will put it on the front page! Just because someone's LAZY uncle is Insensitive and won't help his wife doesn't mean someone that generalizes should come out here and say nonsense about all men from a whole country! NO! Hell NO!!

  j-girl i think ur issues are more dan what chiogo stated hia. u! have got more stronger issues, its sooooooooooo evident. omo mehn!! bois bad o!!!

Chiogo what's in your first post that speaks morethan the Topic itself! Thats the first thing people read in most things they read! You messed it all up when you generalize Period.

One good thing you guys will try to find out is the result of this being sensitive.

90% of nigerian women will take you as feminine. I was just telling a friend about an experience I had. You do everything to make a girl feel welcome as a friend and may be something more(being sensitive in you girls term) but it will now make the girl think you are not man enough.

It is perculiar with Nigerian women. So guys if want to be sensitive be careful because an average Nigerian girl does not grow up with soft dad or soft men. They believe being helpful is not manly.

It is not their fault.

nigerian men lazy what, Girls always keeps insulting us Nigeria girls they should kukuma just go find oyibo man and marry, no be by force

@toyinrayo my name sake, well true but u forgot to add that its evident with evry oda nationality not just nigerian men. and now that u re askin d question in a more incisive and matured manner, i bet u'll get betta replies
  Achiogo lern from ur elder sisters ow to 'geress' the naija man's ego and u'll go places.