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youlaw
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I'm presently 28yrs old and married I have a very lovely daughter she's 5 months. The problem is now I still have over 8 girlfriends. How? I'll call them carry overs of my bachelor days and like 6 of them know I'm married and I have a daughter. 3 of thems still says they don't care I must marry them. The remaining 3 does not see anything wrong with me still going out with them and sleeping with them. The remaining two does not know that I'm married and one of them is already talking to me about marriage and the last one once threatened to kill herself 'because she did not see me for one week. I want a way out of all of these mess. I don't want to hurt my wife (she actually knows I'm dating one of these girls). Please advise me. the problem is those girls will do anything if i tell them i want to quit. please you can also send your advise to adnero1@yahoo.com |
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whiteroses (f)
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good for you  but i'm sorry anyway why can't you stick to a girl during your bachelor days, you chose to play girls and that is what you get, it feels good to hear someone confess about having problems when they dog girls out. i'm not hating you. try and break up with those other girls if she'll die let her die she's only lying. gooluck in anything you chose to do. |
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Hotstepper (f)
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it ahs nuthing to do with him being handsome, maybe hez good in bed and treats women the way they deserve to be treated  |
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whitelexi (m)
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Nothing has spoiled yet, The issue is how to get them off u, apparently, u promised to marry them which is bad. You have been a naughty naughty boy, but right now, u need to start being straight! Inform your wife first, don't let her find out by surprise, settle that with her first because thats the first step in the right direction. Next, u need to stop see these girls, make it clear that u are no longer available, find reasons to break up with them, where there is a wind, therein lies an exit lol
If u need tips on ditching girls consult me personally, we can work out something
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kajad (m)
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Believe this crap; you will believe anything!!!
Even Bill Gates cannot afford so many steady girls; and he’s married with a daughter; a responsible father too. Perhaps your days have more than 24 hours in it.
Why not get more women since you got what they want; you can tell you wife to go to hell since they will all do what you ask. I don’t see any problem here!
on second thought are these women PAYG (pay as you go)?
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mamaput (f)
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Very call all of them on the same day at the same time.
They will hate you for ever.
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dominobaby (f)
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U do realy need help. Firstly, y not talk it over with ur wife rather than let these ladies do the unthinkable n ruin things for you both.
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2chukwu (m)
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This na TEMPTATIONwit a little CONFUSION INFATUATIONall my friendz the call me no 10 because i dey play like okocha and score like RONALDHINOMY MAN BIKO MAKE TRY FINISH WETIN U START, HAHHA  |
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whitelexi (m)
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This na TEMPTATION
wit a little CONFUSION
INFATUATION
@2Chukwu: I'm in love with that song oh
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Bright2 (m)
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Oh man,are u sure u are not greedy during ur bachelor dayz?well if u are an African man,then u can marry all of them as tradition demand so far u can take care of them all it's allowed,it's not abormination .If u can't & u don't want them all, then where ever u got that possibility of gathering them,also go back there,get another possibility
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Bright2 (m)
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Oh man,are u sure u are not greedy during ur bachelor dayz?well if u are an African man,then u can marry all of them as tradition demand so far u can take care of them all it's allowed,it's not abormination .If u can't & u don't want them all, then where ever u got that possibility of gathering them,also go back there,get another possibility & dispers them.GOOD LUCK.
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musicclown (m)
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I think this is a fairy tale. I am going to bed. I can't imagine myself so so confused. i pray it doesn't happen to me. If I where u I would have taken some decisions before gettin married.
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youlaw
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Thanks for all these, you said I should break up with them how? I've tried but nothing seems working. Kajad you don't have to believe put let's pray one day you find yourself in my shoes. I was able to keep them all because they are not in the same location: Lagos, P/H, Ibadan, Abeokuta, Abuja. Even if breaking up with all of them is easy there is one that is not because i don't know how i'll do it without leaving her more battered than i met her. Now she seems so happy she found love not knowing it's shadow and my wife once saw her text on my phone and it was almost hell. I can't also let my wife know not that i fear her put I respect and value her so much I can't bear to see her unhappy not to talk of see her cry. Playing this game means nothing to me I'll play it you won't want to go but now I'm sensing danger ahead. Last week someone called my wife from my office and told her she was my girlfriend. Till date I don't know who the person is I don't have a girlfriend in the office and she used the office line. How the person got her number I don't know because i have a direct line on my table and I don't call her through PABX. Now I'm determined to stop but how?
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kajad (m)
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I no need God’s help to beat person wey I fit beat, so your prayer to put me in your shoe no go work!  Now, if the girls are scattered in different towns, its makes more sense. I know just how to end such things, but that is only if you have made up your mind on this. No half measures; no one last take or you will blow everything. Are you ready for it? Haba!! Bobo drop something now, consultancy na free?Tell all the girls you are BORN AGAIN! In a way you are. Even the one you think will freak out will pray for you. Whenever, you speak with them preach the love of God to them, never see any of them in private; never start another harlem. And never fail to send me something when this is over! Perhaps the phone number of the girls for a start. Good Luck! |
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gem87 (f)
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This is the most ridiculous thing i've heard how did you do it?
I'm not trying to judge you but you are in a mess u r cheating on your wife as well as deceiving all the ladies u're deceiving, anyway br it off with all of them and stic to your wife because if something happens to you they'll all leave you and your wife will always be there. Family is very important.
Seriously, leave those women and stic to what rightfully belongs to you besides this is the 21st century polygamy is not advisable i think.
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2chukwu (m)
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That version of P-square is strictkly meant for only youlaw[i][/i] He only and only him will understand it far beta than anyone and even like it more than you whitelexiThe Holy Book of 2chukwu Chapter 5 Ver:2-1 says Thou that play shall pay! before i forget whitelexi which of that songs version do u like u said     |
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reniks (f)
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These carry overs of yours will seriously affect your marital G.P.A o.Haba you sure had fun as a bachelor,9 girls that just won't let go.What's the secret?In various states?Thumbs up!!Anyway sha you need to get your priorities right.I suppose your wife and your lovely daughter are important to USo you have to be straight with the girls and dump them as fast as you can.Rather than being concerned about not hurting them,you should think of not hurting your wife and ruining things for your baby.You said you don't know to break up with them,well am no expert in that area.I suppose you could tell them first,stop calling or visiting them,show all the signs that you are through with them and stuff.They should be smart enough to take a cue or are they that desperate.
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curiousNja (f)
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Now that is just sick. You sure you have not caught some STDs yet? That is just sick.
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whiteroses (f)
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I'm with you curiousnja. i was going to say that, but he's so sharp anyway
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Rhea (m)
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Youlaw,
Your narration actually fits that of a playa playa. There's absolutely no qualms with that. Problem is: you're now married. At 28, it seems you got married because you probably had a good job and then decided to settle down. Some guys do face/are about to face the same dilemma you find yourself in today.
Here's how it orks. You have a cute little girl. Anyday you step out of the line, think of your little daughter as the injured party and the victim of your excesses.
I presume your rendezvous with your girlfriends do not take place in your home. Hence, you actually have to go to them. That's the part you have to deal with. Stop going to them. Resist all attempts to visit them. Shunning all at the same time may be a bit too optimistic; so trim the number to 2, before you finally bid them all goodbye.
I presme you still maintain a rosy relationship with your wife. Improve on it, and keep your family intact. That's the only true treasure you have on earth. They'll always be there for you through all weather.
Jus' my two cents!
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whitelexi (m)
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before i forget whitelexi which of that songs version do u like u said P-Square's version's the only one i've heard sha and its the one i was refering to. |
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tonysmart
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You have more than a problem, you have over 8 problems with an easy solution. Tell all of them you have HIV and hopefully they will leave you alone. Love is not blind. Good luck player.  |
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dominobaby (f)
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Tonysmart! Tell them all he's got HIV? omg! Lol
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Hotstepper (f)
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@Rhodalyn, datz ma life ooooooooo, and i don't tell guys they r cute especially if am dating u |
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dracosh (m)
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that it really nice. you must love women. or sex. or fun. anyway, if you make them all happy, carry on. you played them so far, you can still play them. keep going. i wonder how u never get tired, |
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