Our Maid Is Pregnant For Our Neighbour And It's Becoming A Nuisance.

almondjoy  i do tell my kids many things that go on in Nigeria, but they will not understand half,.
My kids also do domestic work to brush up their pocket money.
And they can make alot considering they have no expenses.
And i find it sad that my daughter can make in germany more money on a holiday job here than a 20 year old student in Nigeria,.
My daughter was able to pay her driving permit 2000€ on a holiday job she did. well a holiday and a half.
she now has a part time job  once a week the whole day the pay is enough for all her needs,  (as she lives with me she has no bills to pay).


The way you put things sound harsh . question , do you think they have no feelings.
do you think they are not wise enough  to wish  they were rich.?
or is it white man mentality (all blacks are dull)

Poverty is a terrible thing.
No body should ever wish poverty on another.
It is a cancer.

In elemetary school,I had this classmate and academic rival named Monica.
Very intelligent.
After primary school I went off to an FGGC far away from home and she went to a secondary school in the town we lived at where a few friends of mine attended.
I would run into Monica ocassionally in her mothers shed in the market during the holidays.Her mother sold washed Onugbu (bitterleaf) in the market.
After we left sec school I ran into her again,I knew she could have been anything she wanted because she was a smart girl.
We hugged and naturally wanted to know what the other was doing,I proudly announced I was a premed student,Monica told me she was at some college of Education in  western Nigeria.

I almost cried on my way home because I knew this girl well and I knew she would have smoked the JAMB exams and been anywhere and anything she wanted
The girl had all A's from a state school.
That is what poverty can do.

It limits potentials
It sets boundaries.
Her parents were illiterates and saw College of Education as the ultimate for their daughter.
Many are not even that lucky.
Many end up marrying some older rich "OMATA" (Onitsha trader) right after high school and by the time we were in college some were already raising families at 16 and 17.

Sorry it comes across that way.  It is really not my intention to do so.  It is the situation that disgusts me not the "domestic workers".  They represent a "hopeless situation".  Please try and separate the 2!  Thank you.  Have you ever considered that what I see in them makes me angry towards the "powers that be"!  It is just that the domestic workers are being discussed.  For the last time--I am not blaming them--I am blaming the selfish people who made "us" that way. It is not a matter of us Vs them.   Your children and my children may be raised in the same environment.  All will suffer the same fate---Period.  We all are  going to suffer this lack of attention, and that is what I mean when I address the problems of this "mental slavery".


Mamaput,
I am sorry it comes out harsh.  Once again, I would not discuss my personal feelings to the situation because it looks like the focus on my anger is on the domestic workers.  I will state it again.  They represent the evils in our society and I do not have any hatred or superiority towards them.  Let me let you guys continue to debate it the way that it is comfortable to you. We just have different views of looking at the problem and too bad most of you decide to describe my analysis of the sad situation as  my hatred is towards the domestic workers.  Having explained that, I will leave it at that.  I have nothing else to add.

Happy Holidays guys!


I was angry she had never seen a commode more than the fact that she messed up my commode.  If we spent money in Nigeria the way we should --every 8 year old would exposed to public conveniences at least in schools.  You missed the point again and I am done explaining myself!

Once again, Happy holidays!   See y'all in January 2008!  Off for my well deserved one month vacation!  Stay blessed and no fighting!

It took you almost 5 pages to write something intelligent and understandable? you have a serious problem madam!! better start working on it.

Enjoy your vacations

romeo the way you shout into the forest is the way it comes back to you.
That i do not see  eyr e to eye with almondjoy dose not mean i have to insult her.
and i think she has had loads of that here for no just reason

Life is very funny. I will not be surprise if this almond of a girl lives in some subsidized housing unit in the states. people like her are so quick to make mouth like i'm raising my kids outside nigeria as if the states is 100% better than Nigeria. United States of America is the worst place to raise your kids as a nigerian young lady. so do not rant as if you have it better than anyboby.

If only the leaders had just an ounce of consciense, nigerians would not be leaving our GOD's own country to this white man' land.

@ romeo
I'm guilty of some of the things you said. My parents were outstanding to our helps, we had a lot of them because of that. When we eat they eat, when we did not eat they did not eat either. However i remember we use to sleep on the same bed. I use to be mean to one of our helps. I can see the picture clearly in mind and it makes me sick. I use to make her sleep on the foot of the bed. I would not let her sleep next to me. I would do something and then say she did it. I was a bad little spoiled kid. I don't remember her reporting it to my parents. i think i was about 7 to 10yrs old, Not quite sure though.

Anyway, when i was 13 my parents left for the states. my siblings and i were handed over to my REVEREND uncle and the wife. WE became the maids. Woke up at 5am no matter what, we were always hungry, treated like second class citizens. I would cry each time i left my younger sister with them. I was always the first to land in my dorms and the last to leave. I never went home on holidays,  i dreaded school breaks.

Why i'm writting this? these people writting nonsense forget there is karma. I suffered for 6years before reuniting with my parents

I second that

@Uyai
i went through your posts and discovered that you are from Uyo and a very honest human being and an example to follow!! but i was disappointed that you can not help me so much in preparing "nkwobi and isi-ewu" , Girl you are sweet and may the almighty bless you abundantly for saying a simple truth

^{almost gets flattened by bblack at the door as she zooms off}

It should be no different with any girl domestic worker or not are they
not all women.  Why the wahala over this particular one.  marry am off
to culprit if he'll have her.

@Romeo

 :oWhat's so foolish about it?  The fact that you don't understand it
or the fact that you don't agree with it and does that make it foolish
or just diagreeable to you?!

I reiterate that it is if he'll have her  because there are no guarantees in life
about anything, though it would be good if she marries him.

I see your view point.  Unfortunately, we'll never
really know the real circumstance except what the poster
said, we can only wish her well.