L Need Advice About Long Distance Relationships-he Is In UK And I Am In Nigeria

I am presently dating a young guy that is currently studying in the UK. he was asking me out before he left nigeria but i refused to date him.he however came to my school to inform me that he will be travelling to the UK,  i wished him luck and i felt that he was going to forget all about me.To my suprise however, he kept calling and i finally agreed to date him (this is after a year and six months of knowing him). since july last year since we started dating, he calls me almost everyday and spends hours on the phone, he sends gifts, cards, money, clothes,  i have also suprised him (so he says) because i call him frequently as well(i spend a fortune on phone calls just as he does), i send quality gifts, cards,etc as well to him from nigeria.the problem now is i am in my 5th and final year in the university, he is just in his second year(a three years programme), but i am scared that he might just change or stop loving me because i hear so many stories about the girls in UK. i am worried because i will be graduating before me and there are alot of serious guys here in nigeria asking me for a committed realtionship but i refuse to give in.is the guy for real or should i just two time and have a stand-by boyfriend here in nigeria.please advice

You are very wrong! the only reason why i refused to date him before he travelled down to the UK was because i had just broken up with my boyfriend of two years and the last thing i needed at that time was another relationship.

Hehehe David, I must say you got her there.

@funky babe,
 
I understand the condition of life in naija, so l know what's on ur mind that sooner or later, you go de UK. Am sure all ur babes were in support of u dumping ur naija guy for the yankee bros, don't be fooled by cards and money and all those stuff. Ask yourself this one question, do you love this U. K guy , Why did you break up wiht ur boyfriend of two years , what was the reason for it.

Also, the guy might really love you but (don't be fooled , he just land U. K, give him some time, he fassie you because girls for U. K fine no be small ), sha, u have to shine ya eyes.

IF l were in ur shoes, l would keep loving my naija guy of 2 years, and have fun than to be prepared for heart breaks anytime because anything can happen to you any moment from now. he can just fassie you or dump ya or never call.

So l think don't be fooled by money or all that bling bling stuffs, its just cheap stuffs in u. k , maybe he buying it sef from the dollar shop and u carried away.

Just enjoy ur life for naija and fassie the bobo.

well its will be too bad if u have another relationship apart frm the one u have, a guy that could spend fortunes calling u from england , i guess he loves u, girl i want you to know  there are lots of girls in uk and for this guy to be crazy about u , girl u are lucky, just pray and commit all to GOD and he will surely perfect all for u.

This is so unfair u guys are picking on her like she is some gold-digger which is very bad. u can't judge her simply because d guy is in UK
i don't now wht her reasons are 4 being in d relationship but then u can't say it's entirely for selfish reasons.
babygirl d ball is in ur court if u love this guy or think u do give it a try but if u're doing this for personal gain then u might want to think again.
distant relationships work and i know because i'm in one i've met this guy just once but we've been dating for almost 3 years now and we're makin progress. it all depends on the two people involved remember that circumstances differ in every case.
so finally if u're in because u think there's something strong going then go on but if u r doing this because u wnt to come to d UK u hv some thinking to do.

Its kind of funny because some peeps here are seeing me as some kind of gold digger. thanks for thinking differently @ gem 87 and hot-angel.I forgot to add that i was in the UK last year (i never went because of him, i went to see my mum) and we spent some quality time.Besides, he has no intention to settle down at UK. he has a family business to take over from his dad, so that rules out any possiblity of 'migrating to the UK @ davidylan. Honestly, throughout the time i spent with him in the UK, he didnt give me any reason to think that he is seeing someone else.i didnt end the 2years relationship i was in beacause of the UK guy. that ended months before the UK started coming around. anyway, he's coming to naija next month on birthday to see me (so he says). @ dupsy baby and folaboy 250, i guess i will just stick to your advice.thanks.

why is it that when somone travels and someone in Nigeria is dating da person, they say itz because he/she is abroad, let me tell u'all in most cases itz love, when itz just 4 da benefit, da one that is been cheated on should know

Please and please,u all should stop making funkybaby feel bad,all she needs is advice on what to do and here some people r calling her names,sometimes we should learn how to help and critize constructively instead of pulling the person down,am also in a long distance relationship but it is the other way round,my girl is in the uk and men it is kind of hard to cope,there are people everywhere like girls and boys so it is not that we do not see other people we can chill with,abeg no body holy pass,funkybaby evrything lies in your hands.

 ???snifin, wait, snif again, God bless my  wicked soul!

I smell alot of GOLD DIGGERS

in this room

so am out!

Peace!

I heard wot u utter while takin my leave,code or no code Gold diggers?
 
NEMESIS ! NEMESIS !! NEMESIS!!!

don't SAY 2CHUKWU NO WARN U OOO
 
the give her advice,u hear,

Dude, how do you know the lady hand is not clean huh ? the guy might be in love with her,  remember funky made us understand that before this guy travel to UK, he has been coming around to ask her out why she turned down his request was that she broke-up just recently

So i don't think the guy is trying to play games,  Well anything your heart leads you to do it sha,  but remember that some guys are outthere that  keep gurls here at the end of the day, they come down here and marry them, the next thing is, they both go back to UK

This is absolutely nonsense she don't deserve what she's tryin to have,
to protect her ugly image self she even stated in the tread that her mom is in uk.
God bless my wicked soul if u really love this dude, as u claim you are now
or u are bout to ,hmm y u no give am space when him dey naija?

@funky babe,u deserve to be told the truth if u don't like telling yourself one,
u are jus tryin to reap were u did not sow,i pray that guy should mess u up into pieces.

Onye'ori ri.

ask yourself this question.would you
claim to love him if he was in iraq, sorry,i mean nigeria.would you love him if, (fill in the space).wish you well

The reason people are saying it's UK trips is simply becuase in her first post she said the guy has been toasting her for ages and she no gree but when he come go London that she then decided to agree.

It is that statement that has made people suspicious and then adding after people yabbed her the fact that she goes to London and saw him sounds a bit fishy.

But for me the bottom line is this: She does not love the guy, simple.

If she did she would not even be debating all this and talking about serious guys in Naija.

She just wan marry and she is looking for the best option that will improve her life.

I really don't understand what gives people the view that the UK is a goldmine. What exactly is the problem? So what if she's hooking up with a chap in the UK? Big deal, Its not as if the guy is paying her bills or nada, Fine she started going out with him 18 mths after, So? Probably it just dawned on her that he was still serious despite been out of the country. I know NL boys find it difficult to comprehend but it happens and those in such situations are not gold diggers.

@davidylan

Please give the chic a break about not loving the chap, I wonder what your opinion would have been if the shoe was on the other foot.

@funky
Long distance relationship takes alot of commitment and trust and i always commend those that are bold enough to go into one. No one has the right to judge you except you.