Light Skin vs. Dark Skin

diz topic is still alive?lol

people, we need to appreciate whatever we are, this is a crazy world we are living,  the lightest people want to get darker by getting a tan,  the darkest people want to get lighter by bleaching,  be happy  with who God created you to be,  I remeber back in the days in nigeria  its was about the bigger girls, now its all about "lepa" the slim girls,  approve yourself first then maybe someone might approve you too.

so cool you are right.

wow, Dakmanzero and Drusilla - excellent points!  looks like we personalize undesireable traits by calling them "ugly", giving them an even worse sting, as it were.  do we do this to somehow "shame" those who do not fit into our particular groups?  and does this have a more practical reason?  say we are of a certain tribe, with certain traits, and an outsider comes along who attempts to breed into our tribe.  if this outsider doesn't possess the same physical traits, are we genetically fearful of what interbreeding might do?  do we deem "ugly" anyone who does not fit the tribe's physical standards?  just a question.  I welcome any and all answers.
Thank God I was raised in a family which encompassed the rainbow, as far as skin tones go.  But in some ways, it wasn't fair to the light-skinned ones.  My brother said he was plagued for years by his light skin.  As kids, we used to call him "Clar", which meant "clear", just to further emphasize how much lighter he was than the rest of us!  how cruel! And to make it worse, he suffered from vitiligo, which left even lighter blotches of skin on his arms.  He wears long-sleeved shirts to this day, even in the summer.  He told me recently he would never show his arms because he was tired of the comments about the difference in his skin tones. My sister, who is only slightly darker than my brother, uses bronzers (whatever THEY are!).  I asked her why, because I thought she had a lovely color, but she got embarrassed and wouldn't comment!  
But now I will reveal something - it can be very rough to be the "brown-skinned" one.  Why?  Because you're never noticed!  It's true - if I am in a room of 13 people, exactly six will be lighter than me and exactly six will be darker than me.  Do I go out of my way to find this out?  Maybe, maybe not,   It's just always been a part of my life.  I have noticed that most guys gravitate towards the lighter or darker girls in a room.  And don't put White guys in the mix. They almost always go for the darker women, whereas, Black men go for the light ones. I started noticing this phenomenon in college.  No matter what I did to fix myself up, if I was with a White girl or light-skinned Black girl, a Black guy would pick her first.  And when I was with a dark-skinned Black girl, the White or Hispanic guys would choose her before me , gee - maybe I was just "ugly", (lol!)

Gee whiz - when are we EVER going to love the skin we're in!!!

To Hotstepper:  why do you wish you were darker-skinned?  I am curious.  If, as so many people on this thread purport, having light skin is a premium, why would a person want his or her skin to be otherwise?  Again, I am only curious.  I apologize in advance if this question is rude - I am just fascinated by the mind of human-kind and by what factors motivate us to think as we do.
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We will never be equal even if we were all of the same sort i.e same colour. There will always be something that us as Human Beings will discriminate against.

Linda M, not like i don't like being light skinned but if I wa 2 choose, I will take dark skinned because when u have a wound or anything like that, it barely showz unlike people like me ezp. since lagos mostiquo has done terrible things 2 me and nuthing 2 do because am really light and visible, anyhow sha, i still love ma skin colour

for all those saying light skin is better than dark skin, go stick your head in a cows ass
black is beautiful baby
the darker the berry the sweeter the juice

@Aykay
It's an expression. It's not so literal. And who told you that the measure of women could be found in a bedroom?

@ chinani

i didnt assume it was literal,thats y i asked wot she meant by it 1st. when i sed i've been with both black and white girls, i meant relationships. and when i sed no difference, i meant a relationship is a relationship, the same rules apply.u still have to love and treat ur partners with respect. accept them for whom they are and compromise accordingly(if u really love them) and above all, honesty and communication. it doesnt matter if they are dark skinned or light skinned or if its a gay or straight relationship.

skin is skin,story end

me love me some dark skin, chocolate brother. oh make that a meal order with vanilla smoothie and fries!!! holla!!!

They sure areI find it disgusting.

10x 4 telling me atleast i know am not alone

Dark Black Skin feels softer and silkier to me.

I rest quieter in my soul, when I am  in a dark skin man's arms.

i prefer light skinned