Light Skin vs. Dark Skin

I think I can actually feel this conversation. My mum is light-skinned. My sister's are all light-skinned and I'm the dark one. My mother's siblings used to refer to my dad as that darkie. We are nigerians ooh! It really made me hate the way my skin looked even at a very young age. They'd say "that one no fine at all" whereas I look like my mum,excluding the black skin.
It doesn't bother me now. I'm beautiful.there's no changing that. The blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice.

go girl, well said!

your skin neither makes u black or african. your mind makes u black or white. Does a child have any concept of the skin he is born into? answer is no. your skin may be dark or light, it makes no difference to me. my question is, WHAT COLOUR IS YOUR MIND? This will determine how u see yourself. peace

comon Scorpio. your mind is neither green nor black but a product of how u see yourself and your environment.

lol, you guys are funny. i guess some humour was needed. 

That was the opening of the dance on our marriage 

I really don't remember what the guy (who sang it) looks like anymore. He also sang the theme song to France 98. i loved it soo much  . .  he's  french/african i think.

I searched the internet and i finally found the link to the france '98 song. i'm listening to it right now. i listened to it last in 1998 (i was only about 8 years old). now i have memories of the  football (soccer) spirit in Nigeria and Africa generally!!

http://www.jl2sy.cn/xssq/zqly/w_cup_anthem_98.mp3
i'll have to search for seven seconds too!. 

thanks for providing the info!

Laide O! I guesssed  no one has told you the hidden meaning of what that bloke meant. He probably thought your friend was ugly to be seen around with. He didnt want to be outrightly rude(hence the black thing). No black man hates a black skin. You can quote me.
I personally prefer white women to black women not because of the difference in their skin color but  for a different reason(which i will disclose later if you ask politely).

yea mingixx whats the reason....n my friend is definately not ugly..and m not just saying it because shes my friend.but watever.....whats your reason!!!!

awww. gbaby, you look pretty   
was it your yearbook pic? it's really nice 

i am going to just leave this topic alone for now. we can argue all we want but all i know is that as black/African people we are going to hate on each other. if it's not for complexion it will be for ethnicity, religion or some other petty thing. well i guess there will never be a solution. 

Well, well. I came across this light and dark skin argument. laide o is not stupid she knows what she experienced. It is common- place. I was born in the Uk of Jamaican parents, as far as Jamaica and the Caribbean is concerned I would be classed as dark skinned. As a man I do not really experience too much overt internal colour discrimination, by that I mean from other Africans, which is how I class myself.  But I know that our women still do. This is quite universal in the UK, Africa and the Caribbean. There are guys I know who have never been out with a black woman, but now that in general people in the UK are becoming more (excuse the pun) “enlightened”, some of these guys have managed to bring themselves to check a mixed race girl. But that’s as far as they’ll ever get.

I work in the arts and have seen girls refused from appearing in pop video’s because they were deemed “too black” and this is by black producers. White men have a different attitude they are usually on an “exotic” trip and like the blacker girls this too is not to be trusted as its usually about fantasies if wild savage sex. I have toured around Africa and the Caribbean and seen shop shelves full of bleaching creams. Once in Malawi I saw one called “Skin success”. The very name of the product sums up what we have been programmed to believe. Need I spell it out?   

Some of the issues I raise may be out of context for people who have not experienced the UK and I do come from a school of people that study carefully matters that effect African peoples world- wide so don’t think me a typical reflection of attitudes in the UK which are as varied as the ones here. By the way the model that won the face of Nokia contract isn’t she married to a white guy. And aren’t the people who chose here white. If they were black then there would probably be a light face there just like in all the African American mags.

Lauryn you are so right.   The brother called mingiix said that no black man hates a black skin but the evidence does not bare him out. mingiix, my first honest reaction to your comments about dating white girls but for other reasons is a negative one. But I really think that if we are studying the subject then we should be open minded about what everyone says. I do believe though that some contributors should study the history of black and white interaction and the effects of colonialism on our peoples that have brought us to where we are today, so they can refrain from just throwing up comments from their gut reactions, how they think the world should be, or what their loins tell them.

dark or average, but definitely not light, my skin is just well toned

yes, it's kind of like that here, because i hav some light skinned friends and they think they r all that, and the only thing i could tell them is to imagine themselves dark, the mirror would even reject their faces.
4 me. i'm proud of my colour, i don't need no damn bleachn cream