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zigbo (f)
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u know i ve never rily hrd an africa/black complain about her immediate colour,xcept it has to do wit racism, so wats the fuss on d topic.
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Free (f)
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it aint bout that kraaa
is jus bout the fact that being light skinned is suppose 2 automatically
make u beuatiful
whiles being dark is not
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zigbo (f)
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@free yeah thats the point,the case is a 50 50 thing because most people say they are attracted to the dark skinned and the others to the light skinned.i don't know anyone who feels unattractive based on his or her colour."light skin is suppose 2 automatically mak u beautifull" thats ur own theory. beuatifull(spell check please) and kraaa that is rude.
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Linda M. (f)
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love the dark skin, i love a beautiful, black, pock-free, velvety black complexion. there's nothing in the world like it.
linda m
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acidrop (f)
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so which 1 are u?
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Free (f)
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and kraaa that is rude @Zigo kraa is not rude in ma language so??   |
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Linda M. (f)
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Okay, I'm usually described as "brown skinned". Doesn't matter to me. I've always from day one preferred dark-skinned people. As friends, lovers, business associates, etc. I don't trust light-skinned people because in my experience they have way too many emotional issues. And please, God, don't let them be mixed. They always want to divulge their "multi-ethnicity", like somehow if they say they're "part German, or part Italian, they're not quite Black". Again, it could just be my experience, but I have never had a light-skinned Black person be anything but disingenuous with me. And they have always, after they think they're comfortable with me, alluded to their "good looks, mixed race, or something" that they think (erroneously) I'll give a damn about. They are simply a group of people I can do without. Sorry,
Linda M.
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Seun (m)
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I don't trust light-skinned people because in my experience they have way too many emotional issues. Judging people's emotions from the color of their skin? That's definitely a mistake you shouldn't make. |
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Linda M. (f)
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Please note that I specifically said "in my experience". I can only judge things by what I've experienced, Seun. I will stand by my experiences. With regard to light-skinned Black people, they've been anything but pleasant. I have dated light-skinned Black men, only to find that their vanity far outshines that of women. (the "pretty boy" syndrome, ). And the women leave a lot to be desired. Every single light-skinned woman I have had as a friend, or acquaintance has mentioned her "looks". They were fishing - plain and simple. Waiting for someone to either acknowledge or validate their feelings of self-worth. Which I won't do.
truth.
linda m.
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WELL i FOR ONE PERFER TO BE LiGHTER, AND YES iTS BECAUSE i DO THiNK iT iS MORE ATTRACTiVE, MY MOTHER AND MY SiSTER AND MY FATHER ALL LiGHT SKiNNED AND FOR SOMME STRANGE REASON i WAS THE ONE THAT CAME OUT DARK, MY PARENTS TOLD ME iT WAS BECAUSE OF THE GENES THAT RUN iN MY FAMiLY, BUT iF THAT iS SO THEN WHY DiDN'T MY SiSTER COME OUT A LiLTTLE DAKER THEN SHE DiD. EVERYONE ALWAYS COMPARES ME TO MY SiSTER AND i GET REALLY ANNOYED WiTH THAT BECAUSE, THEY ALWAYS REFER TO HER AS "THE PRETTY ONE WiTH THE PRETTY BROWN EYES", i REALLY WiSH i COULD LOVE MYSELF LiKE MOST PEOPLE BUT i REALLY DON'T  |
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Linda M. (f)
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To Haiz - well, sweetie - if it's any consolation to you - I am light brown, and many shades lighter than my sister and SHE was always referred to as "the pretty one". It doesn't always have to do with complexion. Sometimes, people simply prefer one person's looks over another and that may be where the comparison comes from. Sorry - it's just a matter of personal preference. And it stings more when the preference comes from your family or relatives. I know - it was hell growing up to always hear that I was "strong and forthright", but my sister was "so pretty." When we were in our twenties, it was even worse - that's when you go out clubbing and meeting guys and all. My sister worked her dark skin to the hilt - to the point that if I was out on the dance floor, she would actually cut into my guy and take over our dance! No kidding! She had heard for so long how beautiful she was that she didn't have any sense of decorum! Haiz - start loving who you are today. And throw away anyone who doesn't honor you for the beautiful person (inside and out) that you are.
lm
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Free (f)
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thats all that really matters is U accptin who U are (love da skin ur in) it dnt matter dark or light it begins wit U |
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Linda M. (f)
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You are so right, Free!
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i'M TRYiNG, THANKS FOR SHOWiN SUPPORT
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neelsel (f)
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Ignorance is a curse.
What does the colour of one's skin has to do with who they are?
As Free stated, it's not about the colour of your skin that should matter.
I strongly believe that your outer being, skin colour including, should not be the focus of our attention. What resides in our hearts is what should be paramount.
Lady M, I feel your pain as well, My maternal grandmother was Irish and my grandpa a native black Carib ( a mixture of yellow carib and African slaves) thus the variation is skin colour among my sibblings. Duing the entire period of adolesence and beyond, my darker skinned sister, was the one who got all the attention, even though I am much lighter so to speak than she is.
I think it high time we move away from this mentally and instead focus our attention on more important issues. Aren't there enough useless wars, avoidable famines, attrocities et al in our troubled world. Why not dedicate our time and resources, if applicable, in helping to make this our world a better place, and erase this colour-hate from our beings.
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Linda M. (f)
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i agree. we have way too many serious problems in this world to focus on something so petty. i guess when people don't have anything going for themselves, they just have to find something to make themselves feel more important. granted, i have my own issues - i still avoid most light-skinned women because of my experiences with them, and this is probably my own internalized form of racism. i recently left a job where the only other black woman was lighter than me. i commented on her hairstyle once, and she remarked that her grade of hair was "God's gift" - as if that grade of hair was somehow superior and was the only type of hair to be bestowed by God. the racism we perpetuate on our own race is disgusting, and at times, downright nauseating.
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londoner
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If I put it down to the skin tone of the person, I would have issue with dark skinned people, avoid them (thinking it was out of wisdom), and deprive myself of the many other individuals of that same colouring, who have enriched my life immensly, thats what happens, our hangups trap us, by preventing us from being exposed to anything different.
The most racist, colorist, sexist among us are often those who avoid experiencing people who will challenge the isms they find comfort in.
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Linda M. (f)
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, and then you get to be my age and realize you're simply fed up with all the nonsense and would rather spend most of your time with your golden retrievers, who don't have any "isms" and simply love and respect you for who you are,
lm
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agnesoseka
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i prefer dark guys,i'v never dated a light skinned guy and am not sure i will.
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Linda M. (f)
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to londoner - you've said probably the most intelligent thing i've ever heard, with respect to this topic and thank you for your wisdom. to quote:
"the most racist, colorist, sexist among us are often those who avoid experiencing people who will challenge the isms they find comfort in"
i am evaluating my own internal racisms and prejudices, and i have to agree - i am meeting people of all colors who i really do like and treasure. i have had a friend, who has loved me despite all of my bad times, betrayals, etc. and she is a White woman. She is actually more of a sister than a friend. But I will be honest in that I haven't recently had a light-skinned Black person be of any significance in my life lately. I will try not to avoid them, but it will be hard. I am afraid that I may have found a friend, and then when we have a conversation, she (or he) will inevitably mention how "beautiful they are, or how long their hair is, or how favored they are". I don't want this kind of person in my life anymore. I think I am looking for friends/acquaintances who can reflect on their lives, outside of their physical selves - or moreso - outside of what OTHER people have defined them as - just real people.
linda m.
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londoner
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Glad to hear it Linda M. Wait and see, life has a funny way of teaching us about people and ourselves. All we can do is be open, sometimes our fears will be confirmed, sometimes not, but thats a chance we all take when we open up to people and the same chance they take on us.
Good luck!
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zigbo (f)
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what is this, a story book? ok alright we get the point.
this was a lot educative ,i learnt a lot
and that shows u are brilliant. nice
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Linda M. (f)
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hey, nubianem - i thought yours was a great post. thank you for your observations and teachings. you have, no doubt, studied lots of material to have learned so much. we may not all agree, but i guarantee you that anyone who read your post will walk away learning SOMETHING that will make us all think tonight. Thanks, again,
linda m
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Gamine (f)
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can't blive this topic is still on
Whut does skin color hav to do with anything,
the ugliest guys i kno r light sef
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true face (f)
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 girl, if we listen to people's opinions about us this days, you'll find out you want to kill yourself because almost everyone is going to seem to be dissaproving of you. Meanwhile, it's only conflicting opinions. Your friend's boyfriend might simply be one of those who'd rather have the "fair" girls. Am proudly dark and the kind anyone would want to represent with anyday. Cheers!!!
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true face (f)
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girlie, if you listen to every thing people say about you these days, you'll find out you simply want to kill yourself 'because it'll seem as if everyone dissaproves of you. meanwhile, it's only about conflicting opinions. your friend's boyfriend might just happen to be one of those who'll rather have the "fair" girls. Though, some blacks are DIRTY u must agree with me. Am proudly DARK and one anyone would want to represent with anyday. Cheers!!!
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liberia (f)
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well I'm a light skinned biracial girl. my family is from liberia, but my mom is half lebanese and my father half white. i prefer light skinned boys and thats how it is. its my preference. everyone has their owb taste and should not have to justify themselves.
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Free (f)
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the ugliest guys i kno r light sef hmm agree or disagree agreed!!   |
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acidrop (f)
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then u guys havent cn any hot guy, |
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Free (f)
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gurl purrlzz i hv dey all dark skin except for van vicker |
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liberia (f)
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shemar moore, van vicker,boris kodjoe,marcus patrick, michael ealy, lill fizz and many more are examples of fine light skinned boys i love.
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