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Goergey
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I found love letters written by a man to my wife.
i didnt ask her about it but took my time to dig further and to my amazement,
she has been in romantic communication with this guy.
when i blew the lid with evidences, she agreed being very close to the guy but
swore that she never slept with him. i am confused and devastated.
why would a married women do that?
As for our sex life, she never yeilds and when she does, its like fulfilling all
righteousness. I am very disturbed. Should i seek for divource?
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stellose (f)
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dear it has not gotten to that stage , yes you have all the right to question your wife on this issue. so long as she is married, you ought to be her every now and then mirror.
you love yourselves, so sit down as one and put an end to the in coming letters.
for the love you have bestored on one another ,divorce is not the answer ok please.
the wedding ring is a continues process ,it has no cut edge, let love and trust be your watch word. peace my brother
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angel101 (f)
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This one hard o! you love yourselves, so sit down as one and put an end to the in coming letters.
for the love you have bestored on one another ,divorce is not the answer ok please.
the wedding ring is a continues process ,it has no cut edge, let love and trust be your watch word. peace my brother
my dear judging from the guys post it is not obvious wether or not his wife loves him. It also does not seem like she has bestowed much love on him now. Also the trust seems to have been betrayed. I do not think that marriage should be a life sentence. whats the point remaining in a bad marriage. That is not to say that i am advising u to leave ur wife. But that option cannot be ruled out. Only u can reach that decision though. my advise is stay in the marriage only if u are happy. don't remain to save face or fulfill all righteousness. |
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cybersleek (m)
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Obviously, there are hidden problems in your marriage which you have missed either by commission or ommission, speak to your with sincerely, find out what the problem is and sort them out. I guess your wife is getting something from the guy which you are not giving her, find out what it is and make amends, most affairs start because of a gap in communication and affection which others capitalise on.
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Goergey
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Your advice has been quite encouraging for those who have sent very honest replies.
Right now we do live as total strangers. She does not give sex anymore and i feel like going out to get one.
i don't feel like that would be chating on her. She is one mistake of my life.
I should have known.
Guys its not funny for me.
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angel101 (f)
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Is she saying anything so far?
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OyinboNo1 (m)
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are there any children involved?
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opokonwa (m)
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Get a professional marriage counsellor
Go for professional marriage counselling
SAVE YOUR HOME BEFORE IT BREAKS UP!
PAY HEAVILY FOR IT IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT.
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Bob James (m)
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No children involved and she hasnt said anything new.
I had to call in a man of God for councelling. i realy feel betrayed
and feel like just quit this stuff called marriage.
For me its no fun anymore.
The oly thing keepin me is my children. Four of them.
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ettehgate (m)
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guy,
your life is in danger
staying in the same house with a woman that is supposed to be your
one and only and she having a crunch for another is the most dangerous
situation a guy can find himself in.
DIVORCE HER SO YOU WILL NOT DIE PREMATURE
if not if you die today she will be the happiest person on earth.
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2dye4 (m)
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@poster; ur marriage is not beyond redemption, but both parties must see there are real issues to tackle and that its not going to be easy. all the best.  |
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ettehgate (m)
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guys why are you not telling this guy the truth?
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somze (m)
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@poster i'm so sorry to hear this, like 2dye4, I think you should seek to redeem your marriage . . . this is indeed a difficult and painstaking process from what I've heard - I'm single myself, but it may just be worth the effort. Try to fall in love with each other all over again. Try Christian counseling, romantic holidays, communication - about what you both feel, what you want and where you want the marriage to be. I hope it all goes well. Now on the lighter mode . . . guys sorry o . . . I'D like to invite a lmondjoy, nwando and co to see this. Perhaps as they argue it is wrong for this man to read his wife's letters. And he was snooping around  |
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Vernor (m)
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Hi @ etehgate, i support u, my brother please move fast you are the man you must always be in charge whether you have or not be in charge. don't consider anything drop her ok If she is sincere to you why did she keep those letters forget whether the guy slept with her or not. Although someone made a good suggestion, you can ask her what is the problem and if you observe you are @ fault make ammendment but most of all Run 4 ur der life or seek 4 divorce life is too short for u to make it a painful state, enjoy while u have d breath.
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snugle
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wow!now this is deep.seek some councelling,if you have gotten to the point where you feel your wife is ur greatest mistake,talk to her about it.fix the marriage or quit the marriage. .but,wow.this is deep.
How old is your wife?how long have you been married?when did she start the issue with the other guy?what led to it?r u doin sumtin wrong?so so so many questions.
i would advice you look past the issue and find out y she is acting the way she is. if it aint worth it, then quit it.its better to b sad alone than to b compelled to b sad by someone else
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needeeg (m)
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) guys why are you not telling this guy the truth?
Is aint bad if u tel him, afteroll that's why is here! All have said it man, so take ur time and go with some tips here, best of luck!! 8 |
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ettehgate (m)
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ok look at it this way,
if you want to store your babes number in your phone,
you try to hide it by using word that only you will understand
YOUR WIFEY HAVE THE AUDACITY TO KEEP HER LOVERS LETTER IN YOUR HOUSE
my brother to this woman, you are already dead.
you want her to admit that the other guy de shag her befor you know what to do?
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lamidebaby (f)
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I found love letters written by a man to my wife.
i didnt ask her about it but took my time to dig further and to my amazement,
she has been in romantic communication with this guy.
when i blew the lid with evidences, she agreed being very close to the guy but
swore that she never slept with him. i am confused and devastated.
why would a married women do that?
As for our sex life, she never yeilds and when she does, its like fulfilling all
righteousness. I am very disturbed. Should i seek for divource?
No children involved and she hasnt said anything new.
I had to call in a man of God for councelling. i realy feel betrayed
and feel like just quit this stuff called marriage.
For me its no fun anymore.
The oly thing keepin me is my children. Four of them.
What exactly is going on here? case of multiple ID? Is Georgey = Bob James?  Analysing Bob James' post: No children involved and she hasnt said anything new.
I had to call in a man of God for councelling. i realy feel betrayed
and feel like just quit this stuff called marriage.
For me its no fun anymore.
The oly thing keepin me is my children. Four of them.
This is crazy to say the least. |
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somze (m)
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What exactly is going on here? case of multiple ID? Is Georgey = Bob James? Analysing Bob James' post: This is crazy to say the least. Good observation Whats going on here  |
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NaJa HaJe (f)
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I wanted to comment then i realized that goergey boy and bob james are probably the same person.
thats just too wierd. It may reflect your personal life as well. don't you think so,,,,,,,, BOB GEORGEY?
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Siena (m)
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I wanted to comment then i realized that goergey boy and bob james are probably the same person.
thats just too wierd. It may reflect your personal life as well. don't you think so,,,,,,,, BOY GEORGE?
PMSLMFAO!!!  |
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lilrukevwe (m)
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na waoh wetin person nor go see 4 life wife they deny husband mess eh well bros take am easy na small small them take they go london u be man because if u are nt u for done throw her thanks for the patience it would pay off ok
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lilrukevwe (m)
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na waoh wetin person nor go see 4 life wife they deny husband mess eh well bros take am easy na small small them take they go london u be man because if u are nt u for done throw her thanks for the patience it would pay off ok
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almondjoy (f)
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na waoh wetin person nor go see 4 life wife they deny husband mess eh well bros take am easy na small small them take they go london u be man because if u are nt u for done throw her thanks for the patience it would pay off ok
Abi you be Boy Georgery and Bobby James too? Can't you see there is a problem with this thread? |
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Bosdem (f)
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If she says she has not slept with him, i guess you pardon her, if she agrees to cut all forms of communication with him and you are still sure she loves you, if not, don't waste ur time bro. all the best
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okike84 (m)
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'if ur woman don break ur hart
ur slippers don cut make u no try amend
am because e no go eva be like before'
guy seek a divorce she has got a divided
attention dere is no point tinkin of what
to do infidelity is infidelity in what ever form
it comes
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rosquare (m)
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@Boy Georgery abi na @Bobby James there are three way to handle such issues. 1 stay with the situation,accept it as your fate, and ask for grace to carry your cross. 2 take necesary actions (murder excluded) to change your situation. you will need strenght and wisdom. 3 walk away from the problem with your dignity intact it means you'll have to start all over again. just hold on a minute . before u decide,consider the following how long av you been married? do you have children? are you sure your hands are clean? during your courtship,did you see any of these signs? take a walk to a quiet natural environment and do a soul searching exercise as you ask yourself the questions above. remember you are the one wearing the shoes,and it is only you taht has the full story. Finally, PRAY TO YOUR GOD. |
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NaJa HaJe (f)
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@ Sienna
what does PMSLMAO mean or rather the PMS?
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predi (m)
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ok look at it this way,
if you want to store your babes number in your phone,
you try to hide it by using word that only you will understand
YOUR WIFEY HAVE THE AUDACITY TO KEEP HER LOVERS LETTER IN YOUR HOUSE
my brother to this woman, you are already dead.
you want her to admit that the other guy de shag her befor you know what to do?
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abi o! the thin tyre me o!
for me ehn! its not even the shaggin aspect that hurts, its evident that psychologically, se woman aint feelin yu and shes not wit u at all- u say u hav sex like just fulfillin all righteousness, wetin u don dey do since for dia?
bobs, straight pack ur things or or her things -whatever and get a divorce o!
just as failure is a spring board to success, so is divorce a spring board to a beta and fulfilin marriage[/sub]come to think of it, yu get 2 test new waters-what u've been dreamin of yur whole married life[sub] chai!! u dey enjoy o!
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sussy1 (f)
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You are indeed a man i read ur post in Roman about ur subordinate of a thing and i was force to check ur profile and found out that u r new member,i guess all what u want is advise on how to save and protect ur marriage(that is what makes me to call u a man).
You see it very scares to see a man that will discover all these that his wife does and still want to make it up with her,but u know what? no matter what u ve to make it work.The bible has made u to be the head,so if anything happen to the marriage the Lord will 1st ask u before asking her.So i will advise u to make it work at all cause at this point of ur marriage there is no going back not even for anything.Even if it will cost u reading some literature for support,visiting Christian counsellor(that is if u are a Christian) for advise i think it really worth it,not because of today but because of the judgement day.
So my brother try and restore back the first love between the two of u please.May the good God give u the wisdom require to make ur marriage work Amen.
Note:please run away for that ur subordinate oo,it is a SIN and the Lord will not existate in punishing u for that.
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