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deedami (m)
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As long as she is not married or engaged, you can do whatever you like.
If the boyfriend wants her off the market, he should marry her.
so what u tryn to say is that the moment u set ur eyes on a girl, and u want her marry her immediately?? but anywayss poster. . . reality, if u just want to tap sum ass, or get sum coochie, i'll say its an open field, go get it ! ! ! "get the pum pum and the breast, let her boifriend get the stress" lol but u said u love her, and u want a real realtionship, KARMA IS A B!TCH ! ! ! if u get at her, knowing she left a man for you, what in the world gonn assure you that she wouldnt leave ur a$s for another guy too? besides sumthn deeep down gonn make u not trust her fully because of the circumstances under which u got her take it as a loss, thats part of what it takes to be a man, respect the fact that she's wit sumone, IF ! ! ! for sum reason her boifriend is actin up or shyt like that, thats ur chance. ah that me say ! |
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jkpretty (f)
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@C-blow U said u'lld rather go for a girl that is free, if u were still searching? duh! But for me, if i were a guy, i'ld rather prefer a lady that is in a relationship, if i like her that much, i'll make my intension known, do everything to make her see reasons why i should be the one. But one thing that should never be done is running the other guy down. We've seen guys do this stuffs, she's not married & if her guy is not treating her right. i see no reason why she can't have the one she truly deserves. I know guys & i have brothers, they always prefer ladies that are hooked up, after all how many girls u find so attractive/cultured is single? If u meet a single girl good, but if i were a guy stil, if her reason for being single is not reasonable enough. I'll question. guys wake up, before u start singing Joe's "good girls". why are ll the good girls taken   @Poster Go for her if u like her that much, u feel she truly deserves u & u can give her the very best.  |
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rati ken (m)
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This is my problem with nairaland
I wonder why naija peeps still can’t be real on such a faceless medium
I want to know those peeps on this forum that have had dates that were not into relationships.
What if the friend has never told him of the girl’s relationship, he would have tried his own lot. It all depends on the lady, if she is in –good, its left for her to opt out if she aint interested.
But please @poster, I’ll suggest that u don’t go bending, just tell her the way you feel about her and leave the rest to her and fate.
It takes some maturity to reason and act along this path.
My 2 cents
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akeye (f)
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Baby, how are you
yesterday, I saw you in my dream . . . today, you have seen me
Anyway, I have not broken any babes heart . . . .rather, I mend their heart  If you doubt me, ask easybaby hey,am doing good. hw're u doing? @easybabe is it true Zignor hasnt broken a girl's hrt? |
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moondust (m)
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shey woman don finish for this world?. . . my friend, leave another man's lady alone |
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spora (m)
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@all crying blue murder!
There is nothing like relationship breaker. Don't you know that if there is no obituary in the family of cows, there wont be meat in your pot?
@poster
Start with her as a friend and from there you can make your intention known. For her friend to have told you that, mean say chance dey. Remember us for Rice and Stew Very Plenty, when the time comes o.!
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hafees (m)
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I want to see this issue from another perspective instead of the no bending the relationship angle. The truth is many women stay in relationship even if its bad so that they can have security especially as late twenties and thirties come calling, they are afraid of being spinsters for ever. so they don't go until some other guys come around, i dated 3 girls before marriage and non them were free at the time. go for it man, if the girl feels the same way as you, nobody knows if the other guy is a brute. That the relationship is not tight is evident in the fact that her friend suggest the relationship is bendable!
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Easybaby (f)
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@akeye,
so, you are doubting my Zignor?
well,I don't support bending a relationship
why not the guy go and look for another babe else where? 
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zignor (m)
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@akeye . . can you see it
@easybaby . .how are you my love 
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akeye (f)
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i know u sent her.
anyway i believe u
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Easybaby (f)
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@zignor
Am cool darling and you?
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Easybaby (f)
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@akeye
how do you mean?
@zignor
ok, dear
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alexis (m)
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Amazingly, I know someone in the same situation as you. Here is my advice
1. Be yourself
2. Be a friend to her - be there when she needs someone to talk to or laugh with.
3. Don't be shy to reveal your feelings but don't air it as if you were on TV
4. Let her decide if she wants to be with her present guy or not
5. Don't force her into a relationship with you i.e. the decision to break up with her guy or stay with him shouldn't come from you
6. Don't play with her feelings, if you are real and your intentions are honorable, she will come close to you naturally.
7. Most importantly - if you are religious person, pray about it first. In this world were we all think we can live our lives the way we want - there is a supernatural being that has a bigger plan for us and for our relationships.
I hope this helps.
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tinkerbery (f)
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have you seen the movie, ,HAD TO BE YOU'?To cut the story short, i believe that if see whatever you believe  would make you happy, you go for it, because sometimes we make the mistake of letting somethings go because we never tried to make the move. let her know your mind. the book of Proverbs says 'open rebuke is better that hidden love'. all the best man  Alexis point 5 makes alot of sense, my summary to that is incase it does not work out. |
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semidaraeb (m)
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let her make her choice ater she is married she only has to be very,very careful and really know what xcatly she wants in life and relationship for her to make up her mind, there are lots of relationships that start as very promising but at the end they still crash or the the couples discover they just werent meant to be so we shuld stop sayin things like what goes round comes round. relationships bear in mind play out differently for different people  |
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Gwazah (m)
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u must understand that a girl who has not been married is like a cloth in a market place. whose ever prices and win will buy!!!!!!
no harm in trying.
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malubia
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i got so  and  at posters saying what goes around comes around. this is a single girl, not married for the love of mike. M sure at one time or the other we all have left a reletionship for another, why then do we have breakups if you must stick to one, like he mentioned she is not happy where she is. Go on boy, talk to her that's the only way you will know what she wants, afterall its not like you are forcing it on her. talk to her that's what relationships are for, you don't have to remain in a place as to please people while you are not. She could be happy with you, who knows. don't deny yourself this great opportunity. |
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zheroes (m)
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why on earth do we like doing unto others what we wouldnt want them to do to us?
do you think you are the better for her? try and see, the best might show up. the only problem is when you see her close to guys you consider better than you, you wont be able to sleep, because what goes around, comes around.
she would opt for you if what she is looking for in a relationship is in you, but the interesting part is:a lot of people have it in better doses.
take care, HAPPY HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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olorunjuwo (m)
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why didnt you tell us about your own relationship or are u telling us that you are not in any relationship for now.better staighten ur own relationship and pray alongside the ladies that her relationship works better.GOD will forgive that her friend that tells you about her friend .Thats how ladies mislead there fellow ladies.Remember what goes arround comes arround.
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Yinkwamo (m)
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My brother, people talk as if they know what love is capable of doing. If u are trully in love with this girl in question, kip on trying but don't try to tarnish d oder guy's image. One thing i can assure u is that, if d girl is urs , u 'll surely get her. But if u don,t trully love the girl, PLEASE LET HER BE!!! |
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akeye (f)
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My brother, people talk as if they know what love is capable of doing. If u are trully in love with this girl in question, kip on trying but don't try to tarnish d oder guy's image. One thing i can assure u is that, if d girl is urs , u 'll surely get her. But if u don,t trully love the girl, PLEASE LET HER BE!!! well said |
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zignor (m)
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why didnt you tell us about your own relationship or are u telling us that you are not in any relationship for now.better staighten your own relationship and pray alongside the ladies that her relationship works better.GOD will forgive that her friend that tells you about her friend .Thats how ladies mislead there fellow ladies.Remember what goes arround comes arround.
well said man! |
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goldboy
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@ poster,
leat peace reign ooo , don't bend it ooo , unless God is leading u that way , u knw it will because heart break , work out ur own and u will surely get , don't tell me u don't av a lady in ur life now or someone u have been talking to ,
u may think it is bendable but when u start u will unerstand that it is not, ,ost babes will make u feel high and up and when u now start the chase u will find out that "nothing for me o o " so plese let them be ok, look for ur own, don't bend what GOD HAS NOT CALLED BENT.
ON THE other hand , try and be her friend , simple, afterall every relnshp must not end in marriage , but be very sincere with and to her , but mind u , sha
pray to God for hisbest foru
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Bblak (f)
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Too perplexed to utter a word. Shakes head and zoom off
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zimba315 (m)
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best of luck elther bad or good that is it.
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