How Can I Win Her Back?

Hey people i seriously need help!
My wife moved home (abj) in 2005, because we had a strenuous relationship. I had a child out of wedlock anyway sha we've been trying to get together since then and she came to visit me in sept and i promised to change and I did. I write her love letters and copy nice poems to her e-mail and I encourage her to be open with me,since I do believe that communication help heal friction, we chat on line for hours. Oh yeah! she did tell me about her relationship with someone in Lagos that lasted for a year and just fizzled because the dude liked her much,but was not into her kids. I asked her if that relation ship will ever be a problem in us getting back and she said NO. Last two weeks i noticed she does not call me as before or even text me, I find her on line at 9.30am naija time which is not unusual except her internet service has been disconnected since Oct. I now asked her where she was this early to be on line and gave her the choice of home or cyber cafe,she chose the latter but because I knew she hated going to cafes and coupled with fact that I called her phone and she rushed me off and promised to call back and never did I naturally  jumped into conclusion she was with another man and wrote to break up with her and she said it was fine and I should just worry about the kids. I now came to find out that she just  started this new job that is taking her time and something that has to do with a prophet telling her to keep all her secret or whatever to her self that was why she did not share the news of her job with me.
  I JUST don't know what to do now since I broke up  with her she has refused to acknowledge my calls or e-mail, I AM STILL IN LOVE WITH her ,but i think she is done with me or found someone else. What can I do to get her back ?

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Thanks so far people, I live in USA and can't travel out until Feb next year,that is when my leave starts,I need immediate intervention  her dad is my last hope, since she lives with him I just don't know how to approach him with this, without embarrassing him with all the sordid details of our relationship. Her mother is deceased.