Does It Really Matter Who Wins Bread For The Familly?

No it does not matter.  Marriage is a "team" work and all hands must be on deck aim at success.

There is nothing wrong with either party stepping up to the plate as the breadwinner.  But it should never be a "permanent" condition. One main concern that one person gets burned out carrying it all, for no matter how much you love your job--it is not a place you want to be 7 days a week.  Besides,  there might be a possiblity of losing the only breadwinner to illness or death--leaving the whole family at a total loss for recovery.

It is more advantageous for both parties to be gainfully employed or take turns "breadwinning" so each party can have a break once in a while.

No need to let "outsiders" mind your home affairs.  It is really between the man and the woman and no other person.


@poster
Your friend should not rest too much on his oars but should find something to do no matter how small before the wife gets too stressed out and turns into a nag.  When one person loses his or her job, the income becomes half of what it used to be or less.  The only working spouse in the house has to work twice as hard to keep the family afloat and that can be detrimental to his or her health--or both.  Besides, family time is compromised with one person spending most time away from home.  You might just wake up one day and find a total "stranger" in your bed.  Please ensure a healthy balance.

Yours truly,

Kobo Kobo Land Relationship Expert,

A.J.

What if the woman notices before the wedding that she will be the bread winner for the nearest forseable future considering the fact that she has a better job?will she be a 'bad' person if she backs out?

Quite true, marriage is a team work and once your wife agrees to taking up the responsibilities, no prob. . . life goes on. But come to think of it. . .  too much of everything is bad, I just can't imagine my husband being at home 24/7 doing nothing . It would be absurd. . . and for how long is it going to be . Moreso, If the children grow up to the knowledge of it that, their mother is the bread winner, I tell you the prestige and respect for that father won't be there again. . . . . The children would see it as a cheat on their mother. . . . well! only time would tell.