Is This Marriage Really Worth It?

Am not asking you to stay with him am just thinking loud.
The man will not change then he has no respect for black people.
I know many of his kind

@patsy782,

i know how u feel about this situation,i am also with a white man that has kids from his previous marriage to be honest it was'nt easy at all with his ex-wife
 
it's obvious that his ex is trying to get back to him and using his child as an excuse and she will be using anything she can to destroy your marriage and try to make ur husband trust her  more than u,she might even be telling him that because your younger that you only married him for money and she is the only one that truelly love's him and he will start believing her and start getting intimate again with her.

and she will try to make ur life with him difficult,if you want your  marriage to work try talking to him about limiting the closeness he has with his ex because his life is with u,him and his child not his ex and try to make him understand how u feel .as sometimes when they had a good relationship with there ex ,they don't realise the boundaries after divorce or seperation.

be patient and give him time to come to his senses and try to get involved in everything his doing with his ex and child as u will limit them from the closenest when ur there.

because even if she re-marry to someone else ,she can still do the same thing that she is doing now it's obvious that she is jealous of u with him and want to get him back

if ur husband don't listern after  talking to him,don't ask for divorce but seperate for a while ,then if he really love's u ,he will beg u to come back during this period that he is desperate to have u back use the opportunity and give him conditions on the kind of relationship he should only have with his ex .

as i think his is confused at present but he love's u.

don't let any single african girls get too close to u and your husband as they are only out to destroy people's marriage and relationship .

i personally wont ask u to get divorce unless u don't wont the marriage anymore.

if I'm in ur shoe now i will fight to keep my marriage .as weither ur  married to black or white there are times when u will
have difficulties in ur relationship and u should work it out not walk away from it.
cheers,
Evept

That is very wrong, I mean when will we start to see that been African does not mean been negative in thinking, I personally have not advised her either to leave or stay, only she can make that decision and ONLY SHE will take the consequences of her decisions. It is very wrong to label anyone be it African or European negative.

@ FBS ,
don't get me wrong,experince is the best teacher so i know what I'm talking about especially from nigerian girls.

I think u should take it easy with him. try your best to talk to him in a condusive environment and talk to him.

hmmmmmmmmmmmm, thgis is a pathetic story, and such stories make me get scared of marriage the more, they pretend to be real but after the marriage they tend to show their true colour, all u need do is prayyyyyyyyy, but with the way things are going, they are pushing u aside bit by bit, before u know it , she will pack to ur matrimonial home, and one more thing , she has a greater advantage over u and another thing u have taken lots of shit, and this mite even be a spiritual matter sefffff