My Brother-In-Law And I

@ Poster

What u did was flat out wrong, but even I cannot condemn u.
It's hard to believe that it's just your smell that attracted your bro in law and it's hard to believe that the kissing was what made u continue.
Am sure there was an attraction between the bothe of u, so that excuse, please throw it our the door.

What's done is done, now u have to ask God for forgiveness and learn to forgive yourself. Then ask God to touch your husband when u tell him, because u have to tell him. At least with that u can show respect for your marriage and your husband. Keeping it from him will only make things worse.

Surrender all to God, and ask for his will to be done. If u truly are meant to be married to your husband, God will make sure that he helps your marriage.

Now u in turn have to stay away from sin.

Good luck to u and u are in my prayers.

gurrrlllllllll i know hw ya feel don't blame you, see seriously lets put the factup,why do girls just fall when u touch 'em maybe on their breast, tested it times witout number and they just fall even girls i trust that were just friends imagine, thank God av Change only God knows how many girls that will be under my control

There is no way, and no point to condeming you, pretty much everyone else has already done that like as if they hav no sins themselves. Why are we such hypocrites?
This woman put her dirty laundry out there asking for ADVICE to help wash it, and we just comment on how dirty it is.
Shame on you nairalanders. You all talk like you have no sin.
Shame on you.
And as for the lady in concern,
You know what to do. Ask God for forgiveness, AND REPENT. like f'real. For the sake of your kids (if you have any) and your marriage.
And you've been hearing lots of advice to tell him or not to tell him.
All i can say is that its better he hears it FROM YOUR MOUTH, than from SOMEONE ELSE'S MOUTH like his brother. If that happens, then its likely over.
So just pray HARD and i'd say approach him with the matter. Its really hard, but idk what to say
Pray abeg.

Whether you tell your husband or not, God has taken your marriage away from you. The only reason you stayed away from church was to cheat on your faithful husband with who? His BROTHER??? Women like you are not fit to be in a marital life.

she is very freaky girl,  super freak,

You are a big disgrace to womanhood.God save men from bitches like you

, the only way out and finally out, is to tell, tell who??, God in heaven and the person you offended ie your husband

sure u hv done wrong be ready to bear the consequences humbly

if not the act will continue, now or in 2yrs time

but if u tell,, the burden will be over soon

just like CONFESSION

Good luck

one word - CONFESS. if you don't tell your husband bout this and you just end it nd "ask God for forgiveness", your  brother in law will always have something over you and you don't want that, it will come out to him one way or the other and then that wuld be worse. so confess your sins like God wants us to then move on!!!

He without sin cast the first stone,
it is normal to me, if i am your husband i will not sack you, but find a short term punishment for you, short term only,

If this issue is not scrutinized seriously, it would be difficult to give any advice. I don't know who you are and I've not met you before but from your post I think I should say something. I wouldn't advise you just go about moving on with your life without knowing what your weaknesses are and how to overcome them. You said you (he) made love to him (you) three times before people came. Am just curious here, were you that hungry for him that you would want to be laid for the second and third rounds by your brother-in-law before you realise the infamy in your act. You have to be careful because I can swear that even in the future you can't stay alone with him for two hours without wetting your pants (I mean no disrespect). I conclude by saying its obvious that you are attracted to him and he is ready to get dirty with you (because I see no geniune affection). So please avoid him as much as possible and start appreciating your husband as the only one who should remove yourpants. You have to struggle against yourself. Goodluck because you've really CHEATED your husband.

@all

I completely agree with "rockiedink" that this topic is not worth any contribution anymore because the Poster (JOy) said she has resolved the issue and had moved on with her life. She has even introduced the "magic" perfume to her girlfriend who is also dragging a lot of guys around her.

I think the only issue in the mind of almost all nairlanders is how she resolved the issue and if she is unwilling to tell, then we should KISS the topic goodbye.

So much has been said,  He without sin cast d first stone, 

Its so gory,

No one can first cast a stone we all kwn that,beacuse if we say we are without sin,there we go deciving ourselves.I guess you already know what to expect before posting your tread here and u got it,both in positive/negative way. You did wrong my dear,eventhough its not my intention to condem you,but i feel the bitterness right inside of my heart,  YOUR BROTHER-INLAW! IN YOUR OWN MATRIMONIAL HOME!! haba, did u ever think of the consequence? there are some emotions we should be in control of, just like i wouldnt date anyone my girlfriend or someone close to me has dated before me except i wasnt aware ,"self respect is always very important" God will definetly forgive u cus he is a merciful one,but please do not tell your husband,the good thing you can do is to turn away from your evil sin,because there are sins that are very unforgiven by human beings,we can't pretend about who we are,we are not God and can never be like him,its a big slap on your husband face and please do not tell me ,the outcome you will forever regret.

Lastly,i don't buy d silly idea of perf smell or whatever it is,if you have respect for who u are married to nor for yourself,nothing would make u do what u did. In all good luck as u turn to a new leaf.

I believe all you that are casting stones are clean enough to do so. Thank God , Man no bne God o!
Well, Girl  Beyond all your excuses there is one thing you fail to understand. And that is the fact that the problem is neither your brother-inlaw nor your perfume or how good you look or smell.
Also the solution is not in throwing away any perfume, what if it is your voice that turns them on will you stop talking to them?
The  problem is you. You had a weekness that you failed to deal with and now the weekness has found you out. Even if all this stops/ends, your weekness will still find a way to deal with you in the future unless you deal with it.

Your solution is in dealing with your weeknesses and also be disciplined. This you can only achieve by turning to God.I I'm not talking about Just praying about it and going to church. I am talking anbout giving all to God. Your life and your lifestyle.

One should always think over every actions before taking them. Did you think about the fact that the only way you will be able to totally get the guilt off your neck and even true forgiveness is by telling your Husband?
God will see you through!

Hello sweet Joy the poster, Don't those criticizing and condeming you most of them all have done worse than what you did.Only that they can't be honest enough to confess to US THE FORGIVERS OF SIN   as you have just done to us now,don't bother yourself anymore because WE especially I have forgiving you.Your sins are as white as snow now.

Even if you tell your husband I assured you nothing will happen to any of you be reassured. Just feel as if nothing happens and move on with your life,or better still consider it to be one of the SEX you had with men before getting married in that way you won't feel the pain anymore.

Cheers,merci boucoup et à bientôt