Can Adultery Help My Marriage?

gnite my sisters. nwam u people make my belle kule on Nairaland.


it is not insane, government people call it policy making.

Jairzinho, does your wife show similar behavior even when she was not pregnant? if the answer is "No" then, that means, she is not really finding something confortable with the pregnancy. so learn to understand the situation of your wife and get use to it, especially when she's pregnant, but if reverse is the case, whereby she does the same behavior all the time. that means, you should call her attention to order and let her know the consequence of her behavior.

please, do not involve yourself into anything that will present you as a bad picture to the poeple around you.

Adultery will help your life. If you are very smart enough you will go after your feeling and an affair and if you are very lucky impregrate the lady, then that will be fun more expenses for your spare money. If you are very smart you will marry two, three or four wives  etc and have the freedom not to impregnate them all at once plus freedom to enjoy life to the full.
But if you are wise enough and want you are a real man, you will face your problem as one reply says, discuss your problem with your wife and not a fake man who run away and hide from problems and challenges.

no! adultery cannot help u or your marriage.its most likely going to ruin u.please and please.
am not going to ask what kind of man you're, but u do need some scolding.
is this her first baby? if it is, well its definatly not going to be a continuos trend. this woman in your office or any other woman, do u know what they have or carry with them.
biko, no take your sexual urge take cause katakata for yasef n family.
it will pass. afetr d babay arrives, shagging resumes, then u can talk to her about it. even talk to her when she is in a confrtable mood.
i no how pregnancy feels. am a mum. so discuss.
am sure no woman wantsto share her husband talk more lose him
a word is enough

Me, I'm a muslim. . .

but i think your book says something about having commited adultery in your heart. . .

i don't know why you keep coming here

you have long made up your mind to play with fire. you can at least spare us the blow by blow account.

alternatively you can restart the topic in the sexuality threads.

_{and fill in the details on the rest of her anatomy -  what the hell, you could upload a video}

you got a Clintonian thing going on. . soon we'll be hearing that you 'did not have sexual relations with that woman' based on your personal definition of adultery  (digital penetration is not sex. . . shaethed penetration is not sex  . . . penetration in which the woman does not orgasm is not sex. . . fellatio is not sex. . . it is not sex if you do it in the office. . .)

i hope if your hot colleague takes in you won't come back here asking us if the child will be a bastard

Dis wasn't necessary dear, I forgive you because I can understand your emotions, 

upon all the good words they told you in here, you still went ahead and suck?? eyaa

so sucking was your hunger not banging? why didn't you suck your wife BTW if you were that hungry of sucking/really ready for breastfeeding?

@D-reloaded
Dats so not nice & uncalled for, 

@Jairzinho,
You still yielded to temptation despite all the advise, shame on u !

at least your pregnant wife's breasts would be producing some nutritious milk now instead of that dry breast in your office. Shame on you Jair!

I find your story practically unbelievable. . . is your wife so wicked and callous that she wont even at the worst use her hands on you?
Is it so bad that you can't gently talk to her and get her to change her mind? Stop lying . . . your eyes were on that breast in your office . . . all these while you were trying to use your wife's pregnancy as an excuse to suck what belongs to another man!

Someday another man will suck your own and come here to tell us. 

Yeah sure! Like it ever happened in the first place?  Which sane woman will allow you to unbutton her in the office just like that and allow you to start sucking her teats like a lactating she-goat eager to nurse her litter of puppies in the office?

You are damn right because it never happened so get a grip and find you sleep number for the next 7 months.  You aint getting "none" as my ebonic brothers and sisters wills say over here! Just continue to pack ice in your draws to keep things from swelling up for the next 7 months or so!

Sorry davidylan, but errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Women usually lactate after they have given birth not before.   Actually both sets of teats are bone dry.  One may be more succulent than the order--but frankly both are non-secretory mammaries at this point in time!

Nutritious milk?  Not for the man ooooooooooooh!  You don taste am? The thing is disgusting!  Only a baby can love such a thing! Kai!   Smells wonders too if not refrigerated!   So do not even encourage him to go there at all!  He will regret it!

Things maybe so bad with the poster's wife that I would like to interview her myself.  This woman must be having a rough pregnancy.  At least from all we have gathered, she only allows him anywhere near her when they troop to the doctors office for a "scan"!  You really can't take the poster's story seriously as he is only after his selfish interests and may not even care to know how the wife is feeling.

he he he he he he he !   Use her hands?

Na wah for you oh! Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!    

I think the poster can do that himself.  You do not need other people to do a job for you that you can do best yourself.



Funny?  He is a mad man!

try to hold body is not good enough guy,   you are still thinking it which is as good as doing it,  its said that ' if we know how powerful our minds are, we would stop thinking any thing negative.' you need to start reading books on pregenancy for young Papas.
 
and what Camali posted makes alot of sence.

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  i am single does count me not experienced but not ignorant , i ve seen books on sex and pregenancy ( sorry can't recall any author names )   but the exist. go to good bookstores or even go online. and    get that attitude of 'lost her shape' from your mind. have you told her how beautiful she is of late? if you start and keep saying beautiful things to her, you would be surprised on how things would change,  all the best man    and congrates before hand, she is carrying a gift for you not a mistake   



hi

Haba Prikie, how can you a married woman encourage someones hubby to have extramarital affair, even if it is what he wants to hear or it is that you don't have any other advice to give? You have spoken well about the benefits of sex during pregnancy, but like some other people have said, sexual feelings are different for different women.
I am married and 8months pregnant and honestly I have not been feeling so horny. It varies though, different times with different feelings. Especially when you think so much about how the baby is kicking and how you are having some cramps and pains because of the enlargement of the uterus.

But (also @ poster), since I have researched, asked and come to understand the importance of sex at this period, I always try put my self in the moods that will encourage sex. I dread the idea of episiotomy (cutting of the perineum during child birth). So, I am taking all measures to do without it, I mean all possible measures.

But even before I learnt about the importance of sex, I told myself I must not deprive my husband of the wonderful thing we had before the baby came along. Atleast even if it is not better than before, but close. Because I cannot imagine him thinking like the poster.

@ Poster, you have to get your self to understand what it is like to be pregnant. Not all women will think like me, so you have to work harder. Find out what is the problem, it may not actually be the pregnancy, it may be that there are some things she expects you to do that you are not doing.

At this stage, I found out that what turns me on before actually bores be now. Please pet her, handle her really really gently, probably take her out, to some romantic spots, buy her little things she will really appreciate, make sure you are always clean and refreshed around her, help her out at home even if you have helps (not just sitting in front of the telly or the PC when she is trying to make dinner and expect to pounce on her afterwards), just watch her mood and so on, and i'm sure you'll get in there faster than you taught.

If these don't work, then talk to her and encourage her to speak to a friend who has had a child before or a family member. I think it will be better you don't talk to people yourself, let her do it and ask her if she wants you to be with her when she is having such a conversation with the friend or family member.

Before i forget, I hope it is not the doctor's advice that she shouldn't have sex during this pregnancy. It is important you know. If you don't know then you've not been doing well as a husband. There are some situations that warrants that a woman stay out of sex or strenous activities.

I hope my advice works!!

Guys, you know what. I intend to be enjoying sex till my due date.
My friend did the same and she didn't get a cut or have a tear!

Ooops!! Isn't that wonderful!!!!

hahahaha

this is funny.

i can't still believe that such men exist in this planet earth . if you can't hold on for a while then go and become a rev father that is the best but for it . by the way during your youthful year were you not having it in quatom. don't just endanger the life of that woman by entering that you walking stick inside that hard disk. just wait a while and ask God for direction he will help you . don't think of committing an adultery because if you do, the level of trust your wife has for you will decrease.

Glad to know you're moving forward. Adultery can NEVER help your marriage. Besides, if it's the first time your wife's having a baby, you just have to bear with her(from experience). What many women fail to understand is that at a particular stage of pregnancy, they need to be having sex regularly. Failure of which could result in difficulty in giving birth. My Bro's wife had to go jogging every morning because she was 'tight' for the baby. My colleague's wife had to go for c/s because she didn't allow her hubby regularly too.

Do take care and God give you wisdom.