Should I Go On With My Life Or Give Him More Time

Am 25 and i have been in this relationship for up to two years.he stopped bothering me for sex when he discovered i was a virgin.we both graduated from school and he left  for service.he always tell me he loves me and how we would get married as soon as he get a job.i love him so much,that i buy him gift anytime i have the opportunity to do so,and he welcome such with high appreciation.he got a job recently and his behaviour changed drastically towards me.ladies answer his calls and he claims their his collegues in the office.he talks to me anyhow he wants and never considers my feelings on his choice of word.he said and i quote,no man is indispensable,if you don't understand my stand,why not take your own decision based on what you feel about the relationship.this was a text i got when i told him i don't understand what was going on.please advice me,do you feel he is stil in the rlship,or i should try and forget him so i could move on with my life?i love this guy so much and am highly dedicated to him.waiting to have your honest oppinion.

Well he is right--no one is indispensable.  You need to move on and maybe someone out there would value your "sacred" midsecton.

The dude is getting his groove thing and you are here pining away?  Please my dear like the poster before me stated. 

No one/relationship is worth all that stress.  You are 25 years old and a "big girl" now. You should have had your first child by now.  Please don't waste your time with this dude.  Please erase his number from your phone, delete all messages--including e-mails, get rid of all photograghs and cards so it will be easier to move on.

You need to learn to be like a "light switch".   Turn on the lights to those who want to see you and switch it off instantly for for those who think you are invisible, so they can be invisible to you too--------Simple.

Never give in to emotional blackmail---maturity demands that--for you are special.  Think of yourself first before you think of others!


Goodluck sweetie!

he's got his grooove on n ur 're feeling like u r a sorry bag-a-sh*t. at some point every relationship needs part off for both to get thir skulls filled up with some brain mata- give him a break n groove on baby.

opps! Please erase his number from your phone, delete all messages, get rid of all photograghs and cards so it will be easier to move on.
for it is wiser to do so than hope he's soon coming around back to his brains

cheers!!!!!!!!

forget about him and move on with your life, i assure he will come begging,crying and looking for you. i can bet you on that.though i know it wont be easy to let go. cheers,

thanks for all your wonderful replies,av got to move on with my life.i know i ll be fine.God bless nairalanders.one love

Am a girl too and i can feel all what u're feeling now,  u know it hurts when u stop w him, but it's honna end soon and everything will be alright Just move on w ur life, u will find someone alese is worth w ur love more than him will u well!!!

@ Poster

I don't think u should keep in touch, just move on, act like his dead so perhaps, if he realizes his mistakes he could come back.

Don't place ur mind like u think he may come back. Although he could if u are deeply sure he once loved u.

Right now, don't give any attention to him, don't call him Ignore him totally. because i know this feeling that comes when u don't want to see somebody, any kind of move from u to him at this point will be very irritating to him. He needs to be freed. So free him ignore him, act very independent. This act shakes guys after sometimes because they would have thought u can't do witout them.

Stay away from him as much as possible. People like that, when they hear u've gotten a brilliant job yourself, they ache to come back. Most importantly don't act like ur Age is getting on u to any guy at all.

Ur Sanity is most important, don't loose it because of a guy.

@ poster
I wont say u should move on. i am sure u don't want to move on. this love is a very complicated thing.
does he still call
does he come to c u or blames it on work
has he ever bought u stuff with his salary
ow long has he got this job
ow long have u guys been together?

i don't want u to leave him just like that. u can show in ur actions that u want to leave but leave the back door open in case he comes begging. we may not know what we have until it dawns on us that we may be losing it.
what is the guarantee that the next guy wont be worse? lets make the best of what is in our reach before we dwell into the unknowm.

move on with ur life girl,there is more to life dan wating 4 a guy who does nt no ur worth.

not this love tale again? Enjoy your life, if not him someone else. Why worry yourself with this love etc , there is no value these days.

@Naija Haje

Whats the need to take anything seriously?

@ADICK

there is absolutely no need for me to take anything seriously babe. Life is too short for that. that doesn't mean you can lose sight of the more important things in your life. By the way it's NaJa HaJe not Naija HaJe.

@ADICK

lol,,,,, u still didn't spell it right.

  keep saving all your love for him while he keeps having the fun of his life.
girl nooooooo move on with your life please.just forget him and find someone that might value you and your yet to be touched abunna. 

@ADICK

simply because am not simple.

Naja Haje

Complexities of women beyond my understanding. Aint their any edu course to understand you then? I mean a woman.

i wish